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#1 of 21 Old 03-13-2008, 06:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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This is really hard for me to wrap my head around.....

"...A 35-year-old woman who sat on her boyfriend's toilet for so long that her body was stuck to the seat had a phobia about leaving the bathroom, the boyfriend said.

"She is an adult; she made her own decision," said her boyfriend, Kory McFarren. "I should have gotten help for her sooner; I admit that. But after a while, you kind of get used to it."

The case drew nationwide attention after Ness County Sheriff Bryan Whipple said it appeared the Ness City woman's skin had grown around the seat in the two years she apparently was in the bathroom."





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So what was he using? Obviously somebody brought her food, etc?
No shower in 2 years either? How bizarre!
Ahem, yes, perhaps calling somebody for help would have been a good idea some time during those two years...
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It sounds like she had some real issues, and they just took over. How bizarre.
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Very, very strange.

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I hope they had two bathrooms.


...but seriously it seems they both had some mental issues. I hope they can both get some help and resume life again.
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McFarren, 36, said he can't be certain how long Pam Babcock stayed in the bathroom because "time just went by so quick I can't pinpoint how long."
Wonder why she wasn't reported missing?

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I don't blame the guy at all at this point. He fed and watered her and asked for her to come out every day.

I had a friend who wouldn't talk to anyone about me because he knew I was terrified of Doctors etc. I refused to leave the house for 6-12 months. Time did go by fast, real fast. He wasn't sick, I was sick and he was only doing what I requested and what he thought was best (he also knew I had had a VERY traumatic time in a psychiatric hospital and did his best to protect me from that possibility again)......... Things were very bad for me at that point and I am glad I had someone who gave me some time to work it out by myself. The guy in the story though might have realised that after 2 years of it, his friend simply wasn't geetting better so he had to do someething.
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The boyfriend has been charged with "mistreatment of a dependent adult."

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How sad. What a horrible situation for both of them.
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Wow.
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I hope he has a good lawyer. Really there seems to be more to the story. I get upset when people ignore dependent people but sometimes it isn't that simple. He wasn't completely neglectful. She started out by choosing to sit there (unless she is physically incabible).
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McFarren, 36, said he can't be certain how long Pam Babcock stayed in the bathroom because "time just went by so quick I can't pinpoint how long." He said beatings she received in her childhood caused her phobia.
?? time went by quick! It was 2 years!

Surely she is mentally handicapped. It didn't really say, although I just skimmed over the article because it's disgusting to read something so silly. I mean seriously, she had no family that ever visited or called and wanted to see her in two years time?

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I mean seriously, she had no family that ever visited or called and wanted to see her in two years time?
Hmmm... I have no family that would call or visit or want to see me in... um... it's been about 3 years now.
Not so far fetched.

I'm more curious as to how her skin GREW AROUND THE SEAT.

And yes, agoraphobia is a mental condition, but I don't see where the man involved was neglectful. Like a PP said, I've gone a while without leaving the house (I think the longest was a couple months- and time DOES fly) and, nope, no one could have made me... unless it was by force.

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There are lots of people without family. It said she had a tough childhood with a dead mother and abusive father. Without all the facts it's hard to say for sure, but my impulse is that it seems wrong to charge the boyfriend. It makes me wonder why they don't charge the family members who feed a bedridden person until they are like 700 pounds and a crane has to carry them out to a nursing home. To me that is way more abusive and deliberate.
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I can totally see how her skin grew onto the seat! I'm sure she had bedsores... wow... yea... Gross.
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Wonder why she wasn't reported missing?
I agree.
Did this woman have any friends or family at all who wondered where she was?
Really sad.

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I'm wondering how she didn't fall off when she fell asleep. And - ouch. Poor woman - I hope she gets the help she needs.
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i dont think he should have been charged unless she was chained or stuck there somehow. she was fed and had drinks, and everything, so what if she stayed in one room a long time? i mean unless she was forced, or has mental disabilities beyond just being scared, or whatever...that cant be blamed on him
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If he hadn't called for help he'd probably never have been charged. Ridiculous. Now if someone else had called for help because they found out about the situation that might be diff. IMO. But the man obviously cared about her and called for help when he thought she took it too far and was in danger.
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Wow.

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I shocked, but at the same time I can totally see how this would happen. It sounds like it started out gradually, and the periods of time she spent on the loo just got longer and longer. Very sad for both of them.

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