The Hippie & the Marine
My boys: S (4) & O (2) & Expecting #3 in Dec. 2011
Rachaelsmommy, the problem is this is quite probably the last year one can get even an illegal homebirth outside of the Chicago area (I'm in Illinois). It is probable my midwife will be moving to a state where she can actually practice, the other midwives won't take new clients, and that means my next baby I'm either going to have to go unassisted, crash with my in-laws in Chicago, or go to The Farm (an 8 hour drive). So yeah, homebirth in Illinois is going to get extremely difficult from now on.
The bill died in committee today. The AMA spent MILLIONS to defeat it.
Hi everyone! I usually post on the July forum since I was so late with my last one but I've been feeling a lot more confident about a June baby these last 2 mos. I'm due june 30 so who knows what month this babe will be born!
I envy those with energy! I'm so freaking big this time around-all belly! I have the stereotypical "basketball under the shirt" look. And I'm only 23 wks. I'm already suffering from serious muscle pulls in the groin and waddle already!
Anyway, I'm having my first homebirth after my DH had to catch my last one in our van...he decided staying home was easier
I'm going to start the Hypnobabies home course in a few weeks-anyone else done this?
I'm doing okay here. I'm feeling lots of movement down low, though I have a posterior placenta, so I dunno what's going on there. I think that baby has switched to transverse, but all of my kids tend to do that around this time. But at the same time, he seems to have his back in the same place as always, so I really can't judge his "map".
I'm extremely tired these days, and my shoulder problem is killing me. I can't sleep, when I do sleep I wake up with unbearable pain. My shoulder surgeon can't see me for a pre-op until the 11th, and I'm supposed to have a cut-off date of the 22nd for getting the surgery done. I doubt that's going to happen now... so I may end up being drugged up for the rest of the pregnancy, which really makes me angry! I don't know what else to do.
My house is a complete disaster area and none of the kids or hubby is helping to clean anything. I have pretty much locked myself in my bedroom and don't care about the rest of the house, but I did joke last night that I was going to hire a construction-sized garbage container and throw the entire contents of the house away. And yet, no one did anything to help last night. I feel like I've completely failed at teaching my kids to help out.
To make matters worse, we live in a 550 sq ft apartment, so it gets cluttered fast. We don't have a washer or dryer in our apartment, so I can't just do laundry whenever I want. I can only do it whenever DH is home and awake to watch DD, which isn't very often. We don't have a dishwasher, and we don't have water pressure in the kitchen. So I have to haul buckets of hot water to fill up the sinks. So just those simple tasks take forever.
I have to say I'm SO GLAD I'm in the opposite position. My MIL had 5 homebirths, including my husband. Needless to say, I've gotten no family grief about my birth plans. Now, other people are a whole different story.....
I have to say that I love MDC, though! I can't say I know a lot of people in real life who support homebirth, not to mention the various out-of-the-norm parenting things that DH and I plan to pursue.
I have the hypnobirthing kit for home use. I was planning on doing it. But not sure now if I am or not. I am kinda on the fence about it. My MW said that most of the things that are "taught" are things that are done naturally anyway. I really do not want to add anymore stress to my life with trying to squeeze in relaxation time. LOL
I have already recruited my mom to come and watch the boys for us when I go into labor. She lives 2.5 hours away, so I need to call her pretty soon after my contractions are regular. My MW was pretty insistant on having care lined up and I couldn't agree with her more. It is just one last thing I would have to worry about!
I have no idea what position she is in...today! She still is pretty all over the place, but seems to be head down most of the time now. I don't really worry about it though...my first was breech until 37 weeks and then he got into position and stayed there.
The Hippie & the Marine
My boys: S (4) & O (2) & Expecting #3 in Dec. 2011
Anyhow, I know that could still change, but it helped me a lot. For some reason I have had two big worries about this pregnancy, placenta previa and breech baby. No placenta previa, so we are good there. And as far s the breech, I know that you can still have a homebirth, but I am not personally comfortable with it( for myself and my baby,everyone else can make their own decisions) . It might be because my own mom had one incredible natural birth( with me), then "had" to have c-sections because of breech babies every other time.I think that the idea of the baby being breech just gives me a kind of anxiety that I don't know that I could overcome during the birth. Has anyone else had something like that? Some kind of trigger that you worry would keep ou from coping during labor? On one blog I read, she talked about how after her first birth, "malposition" was something of a trigger for her, and after he heard that during her second brth, she mentally could not keep going ahead with her hombirth- even though she really knew that it wouldn't be that much longer.
i am trying not to be so anxious about it, and to not place blame on the baby for being breech. i have no control over it really, and i know that my baby has a wisdom about him that will ultimately determine how he needs to be born. however, as the weeks tick by, i'm wondering if he will in fact turn, and i have been doing visulization, meditation, and affirmations to turn my belief around and put more faith and trust into this boy. i guess i'm having a hard time of letting it go and handing it over to the baby.
i feel like i'm doing what i can do, yet i feel like since he's not turning, it's not enough. then i remember that he's a person all his own and will do things in his own time. so, why do i feel such an urge to control it??!! :
We will continue with our homebirth plans even if baby stays this way. Our midwives may opt to bring in reinforcements? Time will tell.
I too really appreciate the reminder that our babes have their own wisdom. It is easy to forget sometimes.
I'm not sure my midwife delivers breech at home? I feel comfortable with it from the limited amount I know, I'll have to read up on it if he remains in this position (which I doubt) for another 5 or 6 weeks. I have an appt on Thursday so I'll ask then what her experience is. Now I'm curious!
eta: I'm 27.5 weeks right now
eta- saw the other two replies after posting. it makes me feel better about it knowing that you mamas aren't too concerned about it and are about as far along (if not more). i too think my boy likes the head up thing too.
My biggest complaint right now is horrible lower back pain. I'm hobbling around a lot and find that the pain wakes me in the middle of the night. I am looking into chiropractors in the area who specialize in pregnant ladies. I had sciatica with my last pregnancy, although this is much worse.
As for the MIL worried about "what if something happens", my approach with my dad and stepmom (who were similarly worried) was: "I will transfer to the hospital. This is the one I'll go to; it's 6 minutes away." I also talked about the fact that very few transfers are actual life-or-death emergencies b/c MWs are so good at knowing in advance when something isn't right. And I pointed out that my MW was an EMT before she became a MW, that she carries oxygen and pit, etc. etc. I think they'd probably still rather I be at a hospital, but they seem to have peace with it and will be my support people for my kids (so they'll probably be here while it's all going down).
So, no big news but something I wanted to share with mamas who would appreciate how comforting that news is to me
I go today. I do not really want to go. I feel like it is a waste of time, I guess. I am supposed to get a "complete prenatal work-up" then tell the midwife at the clinic to fax everything over to my midwife. My MW said don't tell everyone, just the MW when she comes in to see me.
Ok, whatever. I wonder if they will want to do an ultrasound?! I do want one, but just for selfish reasons.
Will check in later this evening to let you all know how it goes.
My best friend had a transverse twin until about a minute before it was born. Baby 'B' was transverse at 35 weeks so they wanted to do a c-section, so my friend just stopped going to her ante-natal appointments. I was her birth partner & she laboured at home until the contractions were too close & intense for my comfort (I wasn't aware of UCing back then) & I bundled her into the car. Her water broke on the way to the hospital & she felt the head descend. We got to delivery ward & a midwife raced us into a room, looked at her ante-natal card & freaked that she was having twins - it was hospital policy that a Dr had to be present for all twin births. She told me to tell her not to push & raced to get a Dr. As soon as she left my friend said "I've GOT to push". I tried to convince her not to when she said "Take a look!" I looked under the sheet & there was baby 'A's head, I said "okay push" With the next push out came her daughter & the midwife walked in. We cleaned up bub & 5 minutes later her contractions started again & the 3 of us watched her belly in amazement as the out line of the baby turned from transverse to head down & was delivered with 3 quick pushes.
Nature works towards sucess & survival if we just leave it alone
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I started planning a homebirth, then freaked out and switched to a CNM in a hospital...but I'm back on board with a homebirth now! lol. I'm still going to get shadow care but as long as everything continues to go well i really want to have this little one in a tub in my livingroom!
This little one switches all the time still, so perhaps she is going to be the one to break the mold
Midwifery Student and Mama to 2 daughters and 3 sons.
I have given birth a variety of ways and I am thankful for what each one has taught me.
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DP and I decided on a homebirth a few weeks ago, and we are thrilled! I am so excited about bringing him into the world in our own home that's so full of love :
He's our first pregnancy and first baby so I have no idea what to expect!