So a few weeks ago my old employer (I was a nanny) called me (we're still friends) and said since I had never had a baby shower with my other children she wanted to throw me one for this baby. My MIL had come over that day and I told her about it. My MIL and FIL don't get along. Seriously, they HATE each other but still live together.
Anyway, since my FIL's retirement, MIL has been spending an awful lot of time at my house. I know she needs to get away, but it's increasing in how much she's over and she's starting to invite herself along when I say I'm going to do things (like going to garage sales, etc). So I mentioned this shower and she said she wanted an invitation. I kind mumbled okay, actually thinking that maybe I would invite her and my mom and SIL. Both my mom and SIL live a ways away, but I thought they could come up for the weekend.
So when I finally got around to sending my employer a list of who to invite, I had decided to not invite family, because if I invited MIL, my mom, my SIL and my grandma, that wouldn't leave me more than 2 friends to invite, because I was trying to have just a small shower. I didn't tell my MIL right away, partly because she is so blunt and I'm not very good at confrontation. So my employer and I had a playdate set up for today with our kids at her house and that's when she decided to just have the informal shower. I told MIL that this week that Julie and I had decided on an informal friend shower during our playdate. She had asked what time the shower was and said she had asked to be invited, so I told her again that it was just for friends.
Fast forward to today when we were talking a little bit ago and she said "See you at 2:00" which is when my shower starts. I know I should have said something to her, but I'm such a wuss and she has been so extremely helpful since DH is working so much and my feet and legs are swelling so bad that it hurts to walk on them- she's been dropping kids off at school and picking them up, coming over to help me clean, etc. I kind of feel bad for not inviting her, and in reality one of the only reasons I didn't is because I wasn't inviting MY mom and if my mom finds out my MIL was there and she didn't get an invite, she will be so hurt.
And now it's too late to do anything because she is gone this whole morning and I won't be able to get a hold of her until 2:00 when she shows up at my shower.
I'm such a wuss. And I'm tired of being pregnant. And my feet hurt they're so swollen. I just want to be done and hole up in my house with my family and brand new baby boy who will never have a name because DH and I can't agree on one. Alright. Complaining over. Thanks for listening!!!