Thank you for telling me when it’s convenient for YOU as to when I should have my baby. The baby will come when it wants to come. That being said, if I could choose a date, I would not pick something based off of what YOU want. Maybe that’s selfish of me, but I’m the one that is hugely pregnant having gained 50 pounds (yes, you heard me right so stop your snickering), feel like the kid is going to fall out my butt, and having contractions that keep me up all night. Not to mention the constipation, heartburn, indigestion and overall icky-ness I feel.
By the way, if you can’t make it to the hospital to see the baby within an hour of it’s birth, that’s okay. It will still be here and still be brand new when you can come see it. That being said, I would like all of you to stay away for at least a week following the birth of MY child (that I carried for 9 months) so I can bond with him and learn to breastfeed without all of you staring at me. And I would like to hold my baby without worrying about what person is going to snatch him from my arms.
If the date of birth actually coincides with the date you have chosen, please remember that if it would have been within my power, my baby would not have entered the world at your convenience. On the contrary, I would have gladly endured extra misery to wait an extra week to make sure you were put out by the birth of MY child.
No, I won't send this out, but right now am feeling crabby and mean. I thought I would give it to you guys so I can feel like I'm venting! Thanks!
i love it. especially the part about glady enduring more torture.....
but sorry you are feeling so crabby. totally justified, though.
I am glad you vented, but I dare you to send it ok, maybe not, but can I borrow it.
Weary SuperMama to my amazing neurodiverse 6 y.o. DD and to my on-the-go neurotypical 3 y.o. DS
MIL, on the other hand, lives locally and this still hasn't come up with her (we're having a hb). I know she'll want to come over immediately but I really want at least 24 hours of no visitors. I don't think it's unreasonable at all. They're also taking a vacation at the beginning of July so I am secretly hoping the baby will come while they're gone
I really want and need the support of DH for at least a week after this birth, so I've requested that all family stay away until I invite them. I will let them know when I'm ready, depending on how I'm feeling and recovering. My sister was completely understanding. Mom is hurt I can tell, but she won't just show up I don't think. I honestly don't understand why some people think it's their RIGHT to visit immediately after a birth. :
I also like the idea of asking out of town visitors to stay in a hotel. I'll have to think about that one.
My first actually did come when everyone wanted him to and I paid for it with nonstop visitors. I've already gotten the, "I'm so glad it's summer so I can come see the baby whenever I want!" comments from ILs (teachers). Uhhhhh. Is that how it works?!
My MIL actually phoned their entire side of the family to let everyone know when I'm due so they could all plan a trip around it....aarrrrrggggggggg!!! She talks about it being HER grandbaby....wtf, I ain't havin this kid for you woman.
I love your letter and I feel like I could add more to it. My own mom is 5 hours away and my inlaws are in the same town....it sucks. They are so intrusive and silently controlling it's not even funny. I may actually write everyone I know an email and be very diplomatic about saying 'I do not under any circumstances want anyone near me when I give birth and after until I'm good and ready'.
I am totally with you ladies on the privacy issue and bonding time. It's unfair of people to think it's their right to have anything to do with MY family until we are ready.
mama to one DS and one DD, equally amazing.
SAHM CrossFitting mama to DS (6) and DD (3) and surprise #3 due in September!
UGH why do people think they are entitled to see OUR new babies immediately? MIL, on the other hand, lives locally and this still hasn't come up with her (we're having a hb). I know she'll want to come over immediately but I really want at least 24 hours of no visitors. I don't think it's unreasonable at all. They're also taking a vacation at the beginning of July so I am secretly hoping the baby will come while they're gone
Trish~mama to Kaelie 5/03, Amelia 12/13, and someone new coming 11/15, surro mama to Aidan 2/08 & Ellyss 6/09,
mama to one DS and one DD, equally amazing.
I am 100% sure that when I am a grandma, I will be there as soon as the baby is born! Having grandchildren is what life is all about, and I am pretty sure this is all biologically wired when grandparents get all excited and take ownership right away. As much as I hate to think so, I am going to care far more about my grandbabies than annoying my daughters and daughters-in-law.
If they barge in, I just plan on whipping out my enormous titties (they're 42DDD now, lordy knows what they'll be when the milk comes in!) and squirting breastmilk in their eyes while making my machine gun noises. Then I will laugh like a maniac.