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In reading through some of the other threads, it seemed to me that a few of us have gone through infertility or loss. Personally, I am finally pregnant after 16 cycles trying. I had a short luteal phase in all of those cycles but one, which you may know can cause miscarriage. And even though I _think_ I figured out what was causing the problem (my thyroid) and I think I've got it fixed, now that I am pregnant I have a weird mix of feelings that I didn't have last time: FINALLY : but maybe not :. I am ecstatic but also really nervous. : Can anyone relate?

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BlissfullyLoving~~pregnant after a loss in January
Critty~~Cristie~~pregnant via surrogate after a year of pursuing surrogacy and after an adoption attempt
WeasleyMum~~Mara~~pregnant after four miscarriages in the past year and a half
no5no5~~June~~pregnant after a year of IF
sonuptosondown~~Deb~~pregnant after two losses
heatherh~~pregnant after two m/c since April '06
erin_brycesmom~~pregnant after m/c and IF
Kwgrlup~~Janet~~pregnant after two years of IF and an early loss in February
alisoninparis~~pregnant after a self-treated short LP
seafox~~pregnant after missed m/c
sunflwrmoonbeam~~Ashley~~pregnant after 2 chemical pregnancies and a miscarriage
ManifestBaby~~pregnant via IVF after 5 1/2 years TTC
ChrissieColinsMom~~pregnant after a recent m/c
Shy0717~~Shy~~pregnant after a loss in January
mrsfatty~~Katie~~pregnant after four losses
Voltige~~pregnant after TTC for well over a year
Girlo~~Shannon~~pregnant after TTC for 3.5 years and 5 losses
maryjane~~Mara~~pregnant after a m/c last fall
nattysmum07~~Shannon~~pregnant after three losses, including a 19-week loss due to Acrania
TrishWSU~~Trish~~pregnant (traditional surrogate) after two miscarriages
ktmama~~pregnant after two losses
MisaGoat~~pregnant after a miscarriage in July
MiracleMama~~pregnant after a miscarriage

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I CAN TOTALLY RELATE!!!!!! how are suppossed to be happy when every other time you M/C???? how are you not suppossed to worry? how are you suppossed to be at all? I just dont know. all I iknow is that I am treating this as a normal PG, so I am happy, I talk to the "baby", and tell it how much we love it and want it, that it needs to stick down tight! I am also not keeping this a secrect, its too hard after 6 M/C to pretend like nothing is happening, I need to tell people, they need to know why I am happy, and scared, and a little crazy! so in short I totally get it.
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Yes, I can relate. I had a loss in January. I feel, oddly, at peace right now, but nervous because I am so early. I am only 9 dpo. I only tested because I had to buy a dress today for a wedding that I am in the week before my edd, ha ha. I think after the first trimester I will start to feel at ease, but I am optimistic right now. We will see how I feel tomorrow.
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We have not experienced loss in terms of losing a baby (which I cannot even imagine how awful it is), but we have experienced loss through not even being able to try to get pregnant. When I was 30 (just before we were going to start trying) I came down with an autoimmune disease (chronic urticaria which means hives), but I also go into anaphylatic shock when I eat most foods, smell chemicals and go off birth control. I have a 30% chance of mortality if I become pregnant/go into labor.

We tried to adopt, but there are just not many babies avilable in Ontario (there were less than 150 adopted last year - which is good for the moms and babies, just not people looking to adopt) and I cannot travel outside of North America. I always have to be within 20 mins of a hospital.

We have been persuing surrogacy for a year now, and there have been many set backs along the way (on our second surrogate, 3rd egg donor, 3rd fertility clinic), so we have certainly felt some loss. I am trying to focus on the positive and our amazing surrogate has had 3 healthy children and had strong beta numbers, but it is still very scary. I also feel left out of the process, which does hurt sometimes, but I know it will be worth it in the end.

I really hope we all have healthy, fabulous pregnancies!!!!

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for all of us. I hope we all have our babies to hold in our arms in June. Congratulations to all of you!
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I have been telling people too. With my first pregnancy, nobody knew we were trying so it was easy to keep it a secret. But this time everyone knows because we've been so frustrated, etc. I have already told three people, and I'm afraid I will blurt it to anyone who even mentions the topic. LOL.

But I had a friend who recently miscarried and she had told everyone and then, right after the miscarriage, she had to un-tell them. Actually, she asked me to help with that, and it was so hard for me to tell people she'd had a miscarriage that I can't even imagine how hard it would be to tell people about my own miscarriage. I just really hope it doesn't happen. Ugh. I can't believe I am only 4 weeks and I have to wait another 8-9 weeks before I can sort of relax. I wish I could fast-forward through it. I feel like I shouldn't start bonding with the baby, but maybe that is a mistake too. I just don't know.

Critty, that is a crazy situation. I am so happy you are finally pregnant. : It must be hard, though, having to rely on a surrogate. I hope you are going to all the prenatal visits, etc.? Also, Critty, you have an allergic reaction to NOT taking birth control pills? That's crazy.
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no5no5 - yes, how crazy is that? In fact i am sensitive to most "natural" things, including most food (I have a diet of 10 things), any essential oils, any natural skin care item, etc. Frustrating, but I have gotten a handle on it now. The thing I am most upset about is I probably won't be able to breastfeed, because I can't take any of the teas or meds to induce lactation and can't get off the b/c pill. Luckily my SIL said she would pump some for me and I hope to get to know some other breastfeeding mamas in the area. I wonder if some of my autoimmune problems are because I was formula fed, so it is important to get some breastmilk in my babe.

Crossing my fingers and toes, we all make it to late May or June with beautiful, healthy, happy babies!!!!!!
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I have been telling people too. With my first pregnancy, nobody knew we were trying so it was easy to keep it a secret. But this time everyone knows because we've been so frustrated, etc. I have already told three people, and I'm afraid I will blurt it to anyone who even mentions the topic. LOL.

But I had a friend who recently miscarried and she had told everyone and then, right after the miscarriage, she had to un-tell them. Actually, she asked me to help with that, and it was so hard for me to tell people she'd had a miscarriage that I can't even imagine how hard it would be to tell people about my own miscarriage. I just really hope it doesn't happen. Ugh. I can't believe I am only 4 weeks and I have to wait another 8-9 weeks before I can sort of relax. I wish I could fast-forward through it. I feel like I shouldn't start bonding with the baby, but maybe that is a mistake too. I just don't know.
I cannot believe I am not blurting it to everyone. I feel like I have a happy, guilty face for everyone.

I have to agree that calling everyone to tell them that our baby died was the hardest. We thought the people we told were the people we want to know we had a loss. We thought their support would make it easier. It was the exact opposite. People say horrific, stupid things (including dh's grandma comforting us with, "at least you did not lose a baby"...not sure what the thing was growing in me). The lack of support and love made the situation so much worse.

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no5no5 - yes, how crazy is that? In fact i am sensitive to most "natural" things, including most food (I have a diet of 10 things), any essential oils, any natural skin care item, etc. Frustrating, but I have gotten a handle on it now. The thing I am most upset about is I probably won't be able to breastfeed, because I can't take any of the teas or meds to induce lactation and can't get off the b/c pill. Luckily my SIL said she would pump some for me and I hope to get to know some other breastfeeding mamas in the area. I wonder if some of my autoimmune problems are because I was formula fed, so it is important to get some breastmilk in my babe.

Crossing my fingers and toes, we all make it to late May or June with beautiful, healthy, happy babies!!!!!!
I am really sorry that you have had such a difficult journey.

Even if you cannot get your own milk supply there is a supplementer (Lact-Aid and Medela SNS) you can use that has a tube at your nipple, so you can have the experience of breastfeeding even if it is not your milk. I know a woman that used it.
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I have to agree that calling everyone to tell them that our baby died was the hardest. We thought the people we told were the people we want to know we had a loss. We thought their support would make it easier. It was the exact opposite. People say horrific, stupid things (including dh's grandma comforting us with, "at least you did not lose a baby"...not sure what the thing was growing in me). The lack of support and love made the situation so much worse.
I am actually really afraid that I will not be as upset as other people might be. I mean, I expect to be upset and really freaking pissed off, but I don't expect to think of it, as many do, as the death of a child. Being pregnant just doesn't really seem real this early on, you know what I mean? Of course, who knows how I would really feel if it happened, but what I really hate is getting overreactions from people. Kind of like the opposite of what you experienced, I guess. I know my friend thought of it as the death of a child, and I understood her feeling that way (and certainly never invalidated her feelings), but I just don't think it will feel like that to me. Is that horrible?
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I am actually really afraid that I will not be as upset as other people might be. I mean, I expect to be upset and really freaking pissed off, but I don't expect to think of it, as many do, as the death of a child. Being pregnant just doesn't really seem real this early on, you know what I mean? Of course, who knows how I would really feel if it happened, but what I really hate is getting overreactions from people. Kind of like the opposite of what you experienced, I guess. I know my friend thought of it as the death of a child, and I understood her feeling that way (and certainly never invalidated her feelings), but I just don't think it will feel like that to me. Is that horrible?
No. I think it something that affects every person differently.

I am confused, did you ever have a loss? I see that you had another pregnancy. If not, I hope it is something that you (or anyone) ever has to experience. I hope you never have to learn how it will feel for you.
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No. I think it something that affects every person differently.

I am confused, did you ever have a loss? I see that you had another pregnancy. If not, I hope it is something that you (or anyone) ever has to experience. I hope you never have to learn how it will feel for you.
No, I didn't, that I know of. I am at high risk, due to a year-long history of short luteal phases and thyroiditis. So I am thinking about it like crazy. Or, I should say, like a crazy person. Thanks for the hug. But maybe what I really need is a bucket of cold water. Hey, where's the siggy for _that_??? lol
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No, I didn't, that I know of. I am at high risk, due to a year-long history of short luteal phases and thyroiditis. So I am thinking about it like crazy. Or, I should say, like a crazy person. Thanks for the hug. But maybe what I really need is a bucket of cold water. Hey, where's the siggy for _that_??? lol
That is what I thought, but I did not want to sound insensitive in case I missed it.

Luckily lp and thyroid problems are easily corrected, so hopefully your problems are behind you.

I understand worrying like crazy, ha ha. I am five days away from being late, and I had a little spotting last night (normal for pregnancy or before af for me). I am paranoid that this pregnancy will not make it through the week. After that I am sure I will be concerned I will not make it through the first trimester.
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Luckily lp and thyroid problems are easily corrected, so hopefully your problems are behind you.
Yeah, hopefully. Theoretically. The problem is that I just started on synthroid about a month ago and so it's not even stabilized yet. And I don't know whether I am taking enough or not. And I am not taking progesterone because in theory the short lp _could_ have been because of the thyroiditis. So I was (sort of) hoping to get pregnant _next_ cycle so that I could use _this_ cycle to see whether my lp was back to normal and, if not, to know that I should start taking progesterone, but of course that didn't happen. I know I need to stop thinking about it, but it's so hard.

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I understand worrying like crazy, ha ha. I am five days away from being late, and I had a little spotting last night (normal for pregnancy or before af for me). I am paranoid that this pregnancy will not make it through the week. After that I am sure I will be concerned I will not make it through the first trimester.
You are only 10 DPO? How early did you get a BFP?

You have had one m/c, right? And do you have any idea what caused it, or was it just one of those things? Sorry if that is too personal. I have a tendency to ask questions when I shouldn't, so please feel free to tell me to mind my own business.
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Yeah, hopefully. Theoretically. The problem is that I just started on synthroid about a month ago and so it's not even stabilized yet. And I don't know whether I am taking enough or not. And I am not taking progesterone because in theory the short lp _could_ have been because of the thyroiditis. So I was (sort of) hoping to get pregnant _next_ cycle so that I could use _this_ cycle to see whether my lp was back to normal and, if not, to know that I should start taking progesterone, but of course that didn't happen. I know I need to stop thinking about it, but it's so hard.
I have a friend that has thryoiditis and two kids. She has been on synthroid for years, and during pregnancy she always has to adjust her medication. Your numbers need to be different during pregnancy, so you get tested every month. I suspect that even if your dosage was perfect for non-pregnancy it might need to be tweaked for pregnancy. Good luck!

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You are only 10 DPO? How early did you get a BFP?
I am 11 dpo today. My lp is usually 14-15 days. I got my bfp at 9 dpo.

Well, actually there is a chance that I am 13 dpo today. I swear that I Oed and got pregnant two days before ff has it marked on my chart. The temp shift was not very great, and it really does look like I Oed when ff said. By the day that ff said I Oed I already had super sore breasts, which usually does not happen for me until two days after O. I looked it up, and I could not find anything that said you can have sore breasts before O since it is from a progesterone increase.

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You have had one m/c, right? And do you have any idea what caused it, or was it just one of those things? Sorry if that is too personal. I have a tendency to ask questions when I shouldn't, so please feel free to tell me to mind my own business.
Yes, I had a loss in January. We have no idea what caused it.
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Ha, this is one thread I can definitely add myself to: we've had four miscarriages in the past year and a half, and no successful pregnancies. To say that I'm not too excited or hopeful about this one would be an understatement... I've been seeing an RE since March (just after our third m/c) to try to figure out what's wrong. They've tested me and the DH for everything under the sun (feels like, anyways) and *everything* tested just fine except for my progesterone level, which was really low.

Of course they're saying that there's "no reason" that this one won't be successful, but that's what they said last time... That one turned out to be anembryonic, which apparently is "just chance", but I don't believe that; I think something about having luteal phase defect AKA where the heck is my progesterone? makes it more likely to have those. Actually out of my four pregnancies only one of them for sure had a real live embryo at one point.

At this point, I'm trying to take things one day at a time. We had the betas and progesterone checked last week and they looked really good (hCG=89 at 13/14 DPO, 277 at 15/16 DPO, prog. at 34, 31). In two weeks we have the first ultrasound. If we see a :, I'll feel a little more positive, but we've seen a hearbeat before, too... Generally I'm a very positive, hopeful, optimistic person (you know, that annoying kind) so it's hard for me to acknowledge that this is (statistically) more likely to be our 5th m/c than our first baby, but I can't go through the upheaval of getting all excited, daydreaming and telling people, only to lose it. It's easier this way...

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Ha, this is one thread I can definitely add myself to: we've had four miscarriages in the past year and a half, and no successful pregnancies. To say that I'm not too excited or hopeful about this one would be an understatement... I've been seeing an RE since March (just after our third m/c) to try to figure out what's wrong. They've tested me and the DH for everything under the sun (feels like, anyways) and *everything* tested just fine except for my progesterone level, which was really low.

Of course they're saying that there's "no reason" that this one won't be successful, but that's what they said last time... That one turned out to be anembryonic, which apparently is "just chance", but I don't believe that; I think something about having luteal phase defect AKA where the heck is my progesterone? makes it more likely to have those. Actually out of my four pregnancies only one of them for sure had a real live embryo at one point.

At this point, I'm trying to take things one day at a time. We had the betas and progesterone checked last week and they looked really good (hCG=89 at 13/14 DPO, 277 at 15/16 DPO, prog. at 34, 31). In two weeks we have the first ultrasound. If we see a :, I'll feel a little more positive, but we've seen a hearbeat before, too... Generally I'm a very positive, hopeful, optimistic person (you know, that annoying kind) so it's hard for me to acknowledge that this is (statistically) more likely to be our 5th m/c than our first baby, but I can't go through the upheaval of getting all excited, daydreaming and telling people, only to lose it. It's easier this way...
I am so sorry for your losses. I hope that you will hold this baby in your arms. Are you taking any progesterone supplements?
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I am so sorry for your losses. I hope that you will hold this baby in your arms. Are you taking any progesterone supplements?
Oh yes, I'm on a progesterone supplement-- started it either 2 or 3 days after ovulation. (I'm 85% sure I o'd on Monday the 8th but technically it could have been Tuesday.) I was last time too, though, which is why I have less faith in the progesterone than before. The blood tests showed my progesterone to be at 34 and 31 whatevers at 14 and 16 DPO, which ought to be plenty. So if this pregnancy doesn't make it, then there's something else wrong besides the progesterone, really... which is terribly worrying as they can't find anything else wrong.

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Oh yes, I'm on a progesterone supplement-- started it either 2 or 3 days after ovulation. (I'm 85% sure I o'd on Monday the 8th but technically it could have been Tuesday.) I was last time too, though, which is why I have less faith in the progesterone than before. The blood tests showed my progesterone to be at 34 and 31 whatevers at 14 and 16 DPO, which ought to be plenty. So if this pregnancy doesn't make it, then there's something else wrong besides the progesterone, really... which is terribly worrying as they can't find anything else wrong.
Has you dh had a SA done?
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So if this pregnancy doesn't make it, then there's something else wrong besides the progesterone, really... which is terribly worrying as they can't find anything else wrong.
My RE (who I don't necessarily trust) told me that a short luteal phase is usually caused by problems with ovulation. He said that rather than just doing progesterone supplementation I should take fertility drugs and THEN progesterone. Despite the fact that I ovulate regularly and seemingly normally. Have you tried that? If you haven't, then there you go. If something goes wrong (and here's hoping it won't), there's something else you can try. I hope that helps.

Also, I assume you have had your TSH tested, but did your RE test your thyroid antibodies? I have become a bit of an advocate after my RE totally screwed up my thyroiditis diagnosis.
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My RE (who I don't necessarily trust) told me that a short luteal phase is usually caused by problems with ovulation. He said that rather than just doing progesterone supplementation I should take fertility drugs and THEN progesterone. Despite the fact that I ovulate regularly and seemingly normally. Have you tried that? If you haven't, then there you go. If something goes wrong (and here's hoping it won't), there's something else you can try. I hope that helps.

Also, I assume you have had your TSH tested, but did your RE test your thyroid antibodies? I have become a bit of an advocate after my RE totally screwed up my thyroiditis diagnosis.
I haven't done any kind of treatment except the progesterone (and aspirin and folic acid on the grounds that they can't hurt and could help, and put DH on a boatload of supplements). My REs seem to think my ovulation is ok-- I'm not sure what they're basing that on but I do ovulate regularly and get pregnant easily. They did an ultrasound where they looked at my ovaries, and an HSG to see the whole system, so to speak. That was neat. To be honest, I've had so many blood tests done that I'm not sure about all of them anymore-- I can't remember if they did TSH. I think they did. I know they did the thyroid one (twice actually), as I was very interested in that because my mom has hypothyroidism and it caused her at least one miscarriage. EVERY test they did on me except the prog. came up normal-normal-normal.

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I haven't done any kind of treatment except the progesterone (and aspirin and folic acid on the grounds that they can't hurt and could help, and put DH on a boatload of supplements). My REs seem to think my ovulation is ok-- I'm not sure what they're basing that on but I do ovulate regularly and get pregnant easily. They did an ultrasound where they looked at my ovaries, and an HSG to see the whole system, so to speak. That was neat. To be honest, I've had so many blood tests done that I'm not sure about all of them anymore-- I can't remember if they did TSH. I think they did. I know they did the thyroid one (twice actually), as I was very interested in that because my mom has hypothyroidism and it caused her at least one miscarriage. EVERY test they did on me except the prog. came up normal-normal-normal.
I had the ultrasound and HSG and they both came back totally normal too. But my RE still wanted me to try fertility drugs. Maybe he's crazy, but it's worth a shot. In fact, I would probably have tried it in 2 months or so if I hadn't gotten pregnant. Anyway, it is at least worth thinking about.

Wrt the thyroid thing, I would go back and check, especially if you have thyroid issues in your family. Many REs say your TSH level is fine even if it is slightly high, but even a slightly high TSH level can mess your cycles up. And most REs don't check antibodies unless the TSH is off, which is dumb because your TSH could be totally normal and you could still have Hashimoto's thyroiditis (which is what I have). My TSH did test within the lab's definition of the "normal" range, but it was actually high because the real normal range has been revised downwards. But it still didn't look like a huge issue until my doc also tested my antibodies, which were through the roof.
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I also have Hashimotos and had been getting my doctor to check my thryroid for YEARS because I didn't have any energy. Finally when I came down with another autoimmune disease, I was checked for Hashimotos (antibodies) and it was positive. Also, within that time, they changed what is considered normal for an underactive thryoid. Now I am on a pretty high dose of Synthroid and am finally losing weight and keeping my hair in my head.
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Actually no. We've both had done a genetic karotyping (blood test) but they didn't do the SA on him mainly because we've gotten pregnant so many times, so easily. They did suggest an amazing number of supplements for DH, though, just in case. If something goes wrong with this pregnancy, I think I'm going to insist on an SA...

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I also have Hashimotos and had been getting my doctor to check my thryroid for YEARS because I didn't have any energy. Finally when I came down with another autoimmune disease, I was checked for Hashimotos (antibodies) and it was positive. Also, within that time, they changed what is considered normal for an underactive thryoid. Now I am on a pretty high dose of Synthroid and am finally losing weight and keeping my hair in my head.
Shoot. I've been checked for a LOT of different antibodies, but I don't remember all their names. (I just remember watching vial after vial filling up with blood and thinking, "I could have donated with this amount!") I THINK the Hashimotos was one of them but I'm not positive, I'll have to check my paperwork at home. Outside of these miscarriages, though, I'm really quite healthy; with the exception of a few allergies and stress headaches, I have no "symptoms" in my day-to-day life that would point to any other conditions. (Whenever I read symptoms lists and see "weight gain" I get excited, but then it says "unexplained" and mine could be fully explained by Ben and Jerry. )

MAN it would be great if this pregnancy sticks and all of this speculation could remain an interesting, academic exploration... instead of notes for next time.

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I can totally relate.... I am not even here yet but am hoping to be. If there is one thing I have learned from all of this is not to be naive. However, I dont want that notion causing me to live in fear and glum until a baby is in my arms! We are currently trying after a m/c...I was worried about m/c when I found out I was pregnant last cycle but you never think its going to happen to do...and then it did (my worst fear at that time)... Now I am thinking that if I get pregnant this cycle I dont even want to tell anyone because of all the things I felt last time. It was a real loss to me - a death. And I felt so stupid and silly for even telling close friends I was pregnant because not even a week after that did I miscarry. I think when I get pregnant again I will have even more worries!...its crazy!

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Actually no. We've both had done a genetic karotyping (blood test) but they didn't do the SA on him mainly because we've gotten pregnant so many times, so easily. They did suggest an amazing number of supplements for DH, though, just in case. If something goes wrong with this pregnancy, I think I'm going to insist on an SA...

MAN it would be great if this pregnancy sticks and all of this speculation could remain an interesting, academic exploration... instead of notes for next time.
For now we are celebrating and all of this talk is exploration like you said. If it turns out that you any of do need further testing because of the worst ( then we have some more info. I would suggest that SA because I have heard anecdotally of people that miscarried because of the sperm. One story in particular was of a woman that had no difficulty getting pregnant, but kept having miscarriages. They could not find anything wrong with her. When they finally tested him they found out he was creating an excessive amount of oddly developed sperm that would lead to their miscarriages. I think it took 5 pregnancies and losses before they even tested him.

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I can totally relate.... I am not even here yet but am hoping to be. If there is one thing I have learned from all of this is not to be naive. However, I dont want that notion causing me to live in fear and glum until a baby is in my arms! We are currently trying after a m/c...I was worried about m/c when I found out I was pregnant last cycle but you never think its going to happen to do...and then it did (my worst fear at that time)... Now I am thinking that if I get pregnant this cycle I dont even want to tell anyone because of all the things I felt last time. It was a real loss to me - a death. And I felt so stupid and silly for even telling close friends I was pregnant because not even a week after that did I miscarry. I think when I get pregnant again I will have even more worries!...its crazy!
That is how I felt too. I have been devastated. I am trying so hard to put my fears aside. Worrying is not going to change the outcome, and it certainly will not make me feel less pain if there is a loss. I decided to just embrace this pregnancy and enjoy it while it lasts. I want all the joy and happiness I can get out of this pregnancy.
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It's good to have a backup plan--WeasleyMum, I'm thinking of you here--but not at the expense of experiencing your pregnancy. Bliss, you've convinced me. Hey, I'm pregnant. : After a year of TTC, I should be THRILLED. I'm going to try. Here's to trying. lol.
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Bliss, you've convinced me. Hey, I'm pregnant. : After a year of TTC, I should be THRILLED. I'm going to try. Here's to trying. lol.
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We've had two losses, our first pregnancy ended at 12 weeks (it was a missed a/b--baby measured 8 weeks). Then another loss, a little boy, at 17w2d, probably because of a cord accident. So I am another one here who can understand that extra level of worry when you've experienced what can go wrong in a pregnancy. I imagine it would be equally worrisome to deal with IF for so long and then finally get pg. You probably feel like so much depends on that pregnancy and that a loss would throw you back into another round of IF? I've never been in that situation, and am thankful.

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I can totally relate.... I am not even here yet but am hoping to be. If there is one thing I have learned from all of this is not to be naive. However, I dont want that notion causing me to live in fear and glum until a baby is in my arms! We are currently trying after a m/c...I was worried about m/c when I found out I was pregnant last cycle but you never think its going to happen to do...and then it did (my worst fear at that time)... Now I am thinking that if I get pregnant this cycle I dont even want to tell anyone because of all the things I felt last time. It was a real loss to me - a death. And I felt so stupid and silly for even telling close friends I was pregnant because not even a week after that did I miscarry. I think when I get pregnant again I will have even more worries!...its crazy!
There are some good books out there for ttc after a loss and being pg after a loss--I can recommend some or you can search on amazon. I just found that the "normal" books like "what to expect", etc, didn't address my feelings very well. Something like that might help you deal with your next pregnancy? I also attended a pregnancy loss support group at our local hospital and lived for those meetings for a while. I know there are support groups for pgcy after a loss, too, but don't have any around me.

I pretty much cut off communication with all my friends and acquaintances after losing our ds in the 2nd trimester. I barely remember those weeks and months. Now, though, I am able to remember the good things about that pregnancy, like when we found out (it was a little bit of a surprise) and feeling the kicks. Losing a pregnancy doesn't erase the good things about the pregnancy.

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That is how I felt too. I have been devastated. I am trying so hard to put my fears aside. Worrying is not going to change the outcome, and it certainly will not make me feel less pain if there is a loss. I decided to just embrace this pregnancy and enjoy it while it lasts. I want all the joy and happiness I can get out of this pregnancy.

Sounds like a great idea!! I am having AF-type cramps and a tiny amount of spotting now (15dpo) and I know my prog is low. So I don't know. I'm trying just to enjoy every moment of being pg, like you said.

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We've had two losses, our first pregnancy ended at 12 weeks (it was a missed a/b--baby measured 8 weeks). Then another loss, a little boy, at 17w2d, probably because of a cord accident. So I am another one here who can understand that extra level of worry when you've experienced what can go wrong in a pregnancy. I imagine it would be equally worrisome to deal with IF for so long and then finally get pg. You probably feel like so much depends on that pregnancy and that a loss would throw you back into another round of IF? I've never been in that situation, and am thankful.

I pretty much cut off communication with all my friends and acquaintances after losing our ds in the 2nd trimester. I barely remember those weeks and months. Now, though, I am able to remember the good things about that pregnancy, like when we found out (it was a little bit of a surprise) and feeling the kicks. Losing a pregnancy doesn't erase the good things about the pregnancy.

Sounds like a great idea!! I am having AF-type cramps and a tiny amount of spotting now (15dpo) and I know my prog is low. So I don't know. I'm trying just to enjoy every moment of being pg, like you said.
I am so sorry for your losses.

Are you taking a progesterone supplement? I am sure you already know cramping and spotting can be a very normal experience of a healthy pregnancy, but I want to remind you. I had a lot of spotting when I was pregnant with ds when af was due and again at 8 weeks. It does not always indicate a problem, but I know when I saw I was spotting last night I could only think the worst.
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I am so sorry for your losses.

Are you taking a progesterone supplement? I am sure you already know cramping and spotting can be a very normal experience of a healthy pregnancy, but I want to remind you. I had a lot of spotting when I was pregnant with ds when af was due and again at 8 weeks. It does not always indicate a problem, but I know when I saw I was spotting last night I could only think the worst.
Thank yous
I was started on Prometrium 200mg 1xday last Friday, 12dpo, as soon as the results came back. That's what I was prescribed last time, too, so I hope it does the same good work. I'm also slathering on the natural progesterone cream I bought at the health food store. I get re-tested this Friday to make sure the level went up.
I've never had spotting at this point. Thanks for sharing your experience!

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