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Leslie, Mommy to DS(8) and DD(almost 6) :
I'm a big fan of delaying school entry, especially for little boys. I've seen both boys and girls end up hating school because they were just not ready for the expectations.
My husband's brother was young in his class and really hated it in the high school years. He got pushed into some partying and adult priorities he just wasn't ready for by older peers. He held back both of his own children a year, just on principle, and they are doing well.
My dd was born just after the cutoff, so she went to school with her year and was really ready. One of her friends started young and ended up being held back though.
My older ds is home with me this year, though -- he would have been probably the youngest in his class. I am just now feeling that he is beginning to be truly ready. He has some moments of boredom once in a while, but we have also REALLY enjoyed the extra year of early childhood together. I think he will have SO much more confidence next year.
For extra intellectual challenge, we're doing some homeschool curriculum in areas his kindergarten won't cover (like art appreciation) and just reading and talking a lot together. We also have enrolled him in extra sports programs. During his K year and grade 1 year we will probably not do much extracurricular -- the transition to school is enough of a schedule challenge.
What are your thoughts on delaying entry to kindergarten for a summer birthday boy?
My DS was born in early August. His first day of Pre-K was his 4th birthday and though he’s intellectually ready for Pre-K and I think probably Kindergarten next year, my husband is concerned with his level of maturity. DH teaches/taught and has seen a lot of kids and keeps suggesting that our son would do much better if we kept him back for another year of pre-k so that he will be more mature, more readily able to sit, participate, cut on the lines rather than chatting and getting distracted, etc.
I’m starting to get won over to the idea if only so that he doesn’t get labeled as the silly can’t sit still kid just because he’s less mature and somehow establish a pattern. I’d also read in some blog that older parents were saying it made a good difference to have sons going to college at 19 vs 18.
Anyone have a similar dilemma? What did you end up doing and why?
I had honestly never thought about parents sending their kids to school a year "early" because they couldn't afford anothe year at home, etc., and having discrepancies later on. I think it would only add to the divide between SES groups - now that I am seeing that perhaps keeping kids at home a little longer is a financial privilege of sorts?
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