We are a previously hsed family, with our three dc currently in a small private school. I really had no more desire to hs-until today.
All year, my oldest dd has been the center of emotional bullying at school. She is an easy target-new,pretty and very smart. Straight A's, without ever bringing home homework. Dh and I have emailed the teacher(whom we love) several times, and I have had a face to face meeting with the teacher. All topics have been about the bullying. It gets better for awhile-then it happens again. Last week was the worse for emotional bullying-I told dd I didn't want her to return to such a hostile environment. She refused to stay home-saying she wants to prove she can be at school one full year. I reluctantly let her go back.
Hmm. Not sure what to do now. Dd came home today, upset about more emotional bullying-and while we were talking, she casually mentioned that one of the girls hit her, by elbowing dd in the head. This all occured at recess. I tried soooooo hard not to flip out,and to listen. Dd said the other girl she was playing with went and told the supervising teacher, who sent dd and the other girl in to talk to the principal. The principal said she wanted both girls to write out every single time these other girls were mean-and she was going to talk to them after spring break. So, that means dd would write down today, tomorrow, and Wednesday-and the girls won't be called on it until next Wednesday.
I have emailed the principal, telling her that if dd continues with a headache, we will take her to the doctor(she has said it *kinda* hurts)-and that we wanted this to be documented-and if dd wasn't in school tomorrow-she would know why. I said more-but that is the nutshell if you will.
Many levels of conflict/difficulty going on here.....
-Why dd would feel the need to "prove herself" and endure such cruelty, is baffling to me!!
-How do I discuss with her, that this is so wrong on so many levels-w/o her feeling like she is a victim?
-Do I contact the parents of this out of control child?
The school has no anti-bullying policy.
I feel angry beyond angry. Frustrated beyond frustrated. I tend to overreact to little things-now this is a big one, and I want to handle it appropriately.
HELP!
All year, my oldest dd has been the center of emotional bullying at school. She is an easy target-new,pretty and very smart. Straight A's, without ever bringing home homework. Dh and I have emailed the teacher(whom we love) several times, and I have had a face to face meeting with the teacher. All topics have been about the bullying. It gets better for awhile-then it happens again. Last week was the worse for emotional bullying-I told dd I didn't want her to return to such a hostile environment. She refused to stay home-saying she wants to prove she can be at school one full year. I reluctantly let her go back.
Hmm. Not sure what to do now. Dd came home today, upset about more emotional bullying-and while we were talking, she casually mentioned that one of the girls hit her, by elbowing dd in the head. This all occured at recess. I tried soooooo hard not to flip out,and to listen. Dd said the other girl she was playing with went and told the supervising teacher, who sent dd and the other girl in to talk to the principal. The principal said she wanted both girls to write out every single time these other girls were mean-and she was going to talk to them after spring break. So, that means dd would write down today, tomorrow, and Wednesday-and the girls won't be called on it until next Wednesday.
I have emailed the principal, telling her that if dd continues with a headache, we will take her to the doctor(she has said it *kinda* hurts)-and that we wanted this to be documented-and if dd wasn't in school tomorrow-she would know why. I said more-but that is the nutshell if you will.
Many levels of conflict/difficulty going on here.....
-Why dd would feel the need to "prove herself" and endure such cruelty, is baffling to me!!
-How do I discuss with her, that this is so wrong on so many levels-w/o her feeling like she is a victim?
-Do I contact the parents of this out of control child?
The school has no anti-bullying policy.
I feel angry beyond angry. Frustrated beyond frustrated. I tend to overreact to little things-now this is a big one, and I want to handle it appropriately.
HELP!