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Well, not all kids are the same, but based on my experience, wait. It's not really holding him back. My daughter's bday is 8-23 and so she started kindergarten at 4. Man, if I could go back and do that again. She was fine academically, but she knew that other kids just "got it" quicker then she did. That was really hard on her. Not to mention her fine motor skills, which are typically more developed in girls than boys. Plus, socially, the other kids were more mature. Dd was not awkward or anything, she just didn't quite fit. So, when Feb rolled around, and the teacher began doing 1st grade work to prepare for 1st grade, my dd freaked. It was a nightmare! So we repeated Kindergarten. I was very worried about her being bored and having trouble. Didn't happen. I stayed on top of her teacher and made sure dd got the extra work she needed. Now dd is in 2nd grade and she is the leader of the class! Think about it, had I let her go on to 1st grade, she would be in class with some kids who were 2 years older than her. I was just not interested in sending her to high school at 14 to hang out with 16 year olds. YKWIM? BUT! All kids are different. You may not have self-esteem issues. I also have ds who is a July baby. His pre-school teacher begged me not to send him to a T-K. He is the third baby so he is very mature and would have been bored to tears. We sent him on to Kindergarten at barely 5 with the knowledge that he would repeat K or 1st grade. He is halfway through 1st grade now and is struggling. He doesn't bring books home to read (like he is supposed to) because he doesn't read as well as the top few students in his class. So he doesn't want anyone to see him getting books from the "baby" basket. We talk constantly about his age and he knows that he will do 1st grade again. He's ok.
Trust me, I have a 4th grader. Summer babies who do great in k, 1st and 2nd hit a brick wall in 3rd. I have several friends with 4th grade summer babies (boys and girls) who have their children tutored to keep them caught up. I just don't want my kids to have to struggle to make a B. I want things to come easy for them. My nephew is a Sept baby and my sister didn't even entertain the tought of starting him at 5. She went ahead and started him in school at 4. He's doing ok academically. She has to study with him every night (he's in 2nd grade), but socially... Bless his heart, he just can't keep up. He has turned into the biggest follower and comes home daily with stories of kids who tell him what to do.
All kids are different. The purpose of my thread was not to talk you into anything. I just wanted to give you an idea of some things to look for that some people don't generally think of. Go ahead and start ds in Kindergarten with the knowledge that if he struggles (socially or academically) you can always do Kindergarten again. It was absolutely the best thing I did. I have never come across a parent who regretted waiting until their child was 5 to start school. I have met loads of people who regretted not repeating kindergarten.
If you can, do a google search on boys and development. Readers Digest had an interesting article on it several months ago. The nerves in a boys fingertips haven't even developed when they start kindergarten. Boys need so much more than the Public Schools give them, but that's another thread.......
Hope I didn't come on too strong. Good Luck
Trying to do the right thing with three kids and a hubby.
ds22, dd20, ds19