Originally Posted by CarrieMF
I disagree that it's the friend's fault for your dd talking. Your dd is old enough to take responsbility for it. She doesn't HAVE to respond, she chooses to.
Be that as it may, the teacher ought to have come to me sooner that it was an on-going problem and not wait until report cards came out.
It went on her report card today instead of being brought to my attention sooner - even after I asked the teacher after the second quarter report card chat I had with her a few months ago to keep me informed of it. Teacher did not tell me that there was more problems so I assumed it was resolved.
My dh asked dd about why it was on her report card that she was chatty and she started to sob. When I asked about it, she told me that her friends talk to her and I said to tell them to stop talking during work time she said that they won't stop talking to her even when she tells them to stop. So I did tell her that she needs to ignore them. She said she tries, but they keep doing it. I told her to tell the teacher if they continue to bother her. That's when she said she didn't want to be a tattle tale.
The teacher moved dd to the back of the classroom some time ago. I e-mailed the teacher to request she be put back to the front. The way I feel about it, is that she ought to be set up for success. Other kids would be less likely to distract her if she was close to the teacher.
I think it's mostly the boys that talk with her. She's got strawberry blond hair and blue eyes and she's a cute girl. She also hangs out with them more, plays basketball with them at recess and likes to talk boy stuff (Star Wars, legos and stuff). I think all those things make the boys want to talk with her.
My daughter is very naive. The teacher knows that she is a little bit. What the teacher doesn't know is HOW naive dd is. She doesn't know that one boy in her class also sold dd a 25 cent bag of day-old popcorn for $1. I was livid, but dd begged me not to tell on him. She'd rather get herself into trouble than have someone be mad at her for getting them into trouble.
I know she needs to exert control, but really, the other kids need to be in control as well. The teacher is the one who told me she's being suckered into it, which tells me they are the problem, not her. They need to leave her alone. If they won't listen, it no longer becomes her problem to deal with on her own, it becomes the teacher's problem to help her get heard.