Is there no place where little kids can go and play, and be respected, and learn some things but mostly just enjoy each other and the process of making connections with new adults?
This whole thing is sad and discouraging.
We'll see how it goes. Not like we're comitted or anything.
On the other hand I would want my baby to be nurtured.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
Both my kids went/are going to different preschools their 3s and 4s years. I love co-op for the 3s year but am not into the amount of work (or the 4s teacher - main reason being that she is so sterile personAlity-wise - just never is warm or light-hearted towards the kids. A friend told me "she loves them like a drill sergeant". I'm sorry - they are four! Hug them and smile at them and be nurturing!) No big deal switching to a new school that second year - or to kindergarten.
You should keep looking (maybe broaden the area you are willing to drive?) until you find something you really love. Maybe if you considered different places for pre and K, you would find something?
Good luck whatever you decide.
I actually think this might work out well. DH took DS to an open house and he really enjoyed it.