DD just started Pre-K so it's my first venture into school as a parent. DD's teacher calls me and my husband by our first names and introduced herself by her first and last name. I'd be she has different parents calling her different things. I plan on calling her Mrs.___ though honestly I feel slightly uncomfortable with it. Not because I'm unwilling to give her respect but just because I'm a Yankee and around here the only last names we use are for doctors. (I also feel weird when I visit my cousins in the South, who instruct their kids to call me Miz Firstname).
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DD's preschool teachers went by their firs names with the kids, so that one was easy. I don't think I ever had occasion to address her kindergarten teacher by name to her face, and always referred to her by the name DD was expected to call her when talking about her. Now that I think about it, I'm not sure what her first name was.
Her first grade teacher introduced herself to me by her first name, so that one is easy now! It's nice when they do that. I still will refer to her by Madame Last Name when discussing her with DD or even with other parents as it is just less confusing that way. I doubt I'm the only parent who tends to forget teacher's first names since all paperwork from her school and such seems to omit first names.
I also call people Mrs or Mr or Ms until I know them on a personal level or they were formally introduced to me as John Smith. Until John says "I am John" or "this is John" its Mr Smith. But I am as my DH says- old school.
Most of the kids in the neighborhood call me Mrs Lastname as well as at school etc. I expect my dds to do the same to others. One time, my BIL was here as a family was leaving. My friend the mom said to her dd, "and be sure to thank Mrs L... for..." BIL was looking around and then said- "oh thats you! I was thinking my mom was here!" DUH.
I work in a different school now & other than 3 or 4 people I know nobodys last names, they weren't told to me.lol I work directly with 1 child & we aren't in a class most of the time so it doesn't come up often anyhow.
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I'll answer as a teacher--I'm totally comfortable with parents calling me by first name in conferences, phone calls, emails, etc. In front of the kids I prefer to model Mrs. ____.
It's not like swear words, I can't turn off the name I call you depending on who else is in the room.
It's Mrs/Mr Lastname all the way for me.
In emails, phone calls, I usually call them by their first name, but all of ds's teachers I know personally (not just from school), so it feels weird to call them Mrs. Lastname in a regular conversation.
I have two friends who I actually met because they were my doctor (well, one is a vet! LOL!) and for the longest time I had such a hard time not calling them Dr. XYZ.
With the librarian I use her first name, but we are more friends/colleagues than parent/teacher if that makes sense. I volunteer with her in the library and it would just seem weird to be so formal all the time.
but everything has pros and cons
I am not a formal person so I would have felt more comfortable with first names with the teacher, but after a few weeks, I got used to it and it stopped bugging me. It DOES bug me with my doctor and dentist, who call me Firstname, while I call them Dr. Lastname, but I haven't had the guts to do anything about that yet, LOL.
My dd2's teacher called me by my first name the other day so I don't know what will end up happening there. I don't mind calling them Mrs. Lastname but I prefer people calling me by my first name.
Ironically, though, DD's K teacher invited me to call her by her first name, but I never did. She struck me as a formal person and I just always called her Miss Lastname. The principal for the first two years was also a very formal person and she never invited the first name thing. The rest fall under what I said above.
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." - Mother Teresa
Gillian - Wife to an amazing DH, Mother to 5 wonderful kiddos.