I let DD1 stay home when she really needs to. Like last week, she had the heck of a time getting up in the morning, was really tired out. Not sick, just hadn't slept well, and really wanted to go back to bed. I said, baby, do you want to stay home, and she was so glad I offered. Went back to sleep for a few hours, woke up happy, and went back the next day feeling better. If I hadn't allowed it, she would have been a wreck until Saturday when she could make up the sleep she needed.
But we don't do it all that often. I did a lot of back-and-forth about sending her to school in the first place, because it's a full day kindy and too long a day for such a little one, but she loves it and is so happy there. I'm a homeschooling mama at heart, and only sent her because she wanted to go so much. I figure if she's unhappy or tired enough to need a day every two weeks, then it's too much for her, and I'd pull her out. But having decided to do school, she's got to be there every day, as much as possible. If we do half-measures, she's not going to be able to build relationships there and settle in.
So for us, I allow "mental health" days, but rarely. I wouldn't hesitate to pull her out though, if I had even the slightest feeling that she wasn't thriving there, or that being there was too much for her. Homeschooling is totally unregulated here in NJ, so there's no hoops to jump through, and she's not even at mandatory age yet.
I wonder what would happen if she missed too many days, and they tried to come after me about it, and I responded by pulling her out completely? Would they drop it, or pursue the issue?
I wouldn't hesitate to keep her home though for some enriching activity like a visit to a museum or something like that. I pulled her out for a half day in December to go see Santa at the mall, even. There's more to "education" than being in a classroom all day.
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