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#91 of 97 Old 05-29-2010, 08:21 AM
 
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Just had to post about my experience:

I had a 5yo in preschool who was not following rules, running away from the teachers, hitting, kicking, biting and more. I was asked to take her out of the school.

She also had HUGE outbursts. Over nothing. (Apparently.) However, once we received her diagnosis and started working with a behavioral specialist, we figured out that her outbursts related to "unexpected" situations.

Basically, if something unexpected happened, she would lose it. That was why it was SO DIFFICULT to pinpoint what was causing her outbursts. They could be about anything at all - the common thread was that they were unexpected things.

I took her to a private child psychologist and she was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, and she has a massive IQ. She is now 7yo and reading on a high school level.

We tried diet elimination. To no avail. Because what was going on with her wasn't really about diet, it was about how her brain was wired and that fact that she was so advanced that she was WAY, WAY ahead of everyone else.

What really helped her over the past two years was an intensive behavior plan, overseen by a behavioral specialist.

I'm curious what the paraprofessional does with your child all day at school?

In my DD's case, her paraprofessional was guided by a behavioral specialist who set up a very specific plan and approach to helping my DD learn how to behave at school. She had visual aids, wiggle breaks, special seating in the classroom, social skills groups, and more. She improved immensely.

I agree with the others that you NEED TO GET AN OUTSIDE EVALUATION. Do NOT rely on the DOE to diagnose your child. And if your psychologist says there is nothing wrong with your son, then go to another one until you get an answer.

Then, take that diagnosis to the school and get an IEP.

I LOVE Wrightlaw, too. They came to my area and held a conference and it was amazing. Every parent with a special needs child should attend one.
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(How the heck can they eat playdough? That stuff is pure salt! And yet all kids do it from time to time.)
for some kids(and quite possibly the op's son since it's been an issue all year) it's a sensory release eating playdough(and funtac as it's a similar texture/consistency)
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I started supplementing with Magnesium this week and every day has been a "yellow" day (traffic light discipline system); the only phone call I received this week is when ds ate a huge ball of playdoh (playdoh eating has been a problem all year). Last week he had been suspended (again) and the three weeks before that had been nearly all "red" days.

Awesome!!! Hope it keeps going!

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My son was quite explosive at that age.

The only thing that really helped was that he could take sensory breaks when he started to feel overwhelmed.

With time, he has become less explosive (yet still as stubborn.)

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Oh yeah, I talked to my sister and she said the increase in magnesium was related to his bowel movements. She would increase it and his stools would be loose, when they weren't anymore, she would increase again until they were and then stopped when he was doing well.
I guess that meant his body was adjusted to the increase.

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Awesome!!! Hope it keeps going!
I just looked up magnesium and behavior and found that there have been some studies done that show about half of children identified as autistic and given B6 and magnesium demonstrated improvements in behavior.

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I'm not sure how I ended up in this forum but I read through the replies last night and this morning it is all I could think about. We are a homeschooling family of three DC (8,4,2).

My son was in public school until half way through 1rst grade. He was at the other end of an explosive child, and I feel that for him I should respond.

The little boy that he went to school with was/is very explosive, the school was not nearly as proactive as your school about offering him the services he needed, but my son was often on the recieving end of this childs outbursts; and even when we wasn't it concerned him to see the way this child treated and reacted to other students.

I went to the teachers, vice principal, principal, school board, etc. to find out what they were going to do to ensure that my son was in a safe, nurturing, environment that he felt like he could learn and grow.

They basically told me that they had to follow certain steps and document everything before they could actually do anything about this child. In the meantime I had been into the school a dozen times about this childs behaviour issues and his mother had NEVER been called to pick him up.

I am glad you are being proactive in addressing his issues, you are his biggest and best advocate. I just felt that I should offer the other side of the issue, they ended up adding another teacher and shrinking class sizes to 14 students becasue there were so many behavior problem kids that the teacher spent so much time dealing with behavior issues they were unable to teach the class and the other children were not getting the education they deserve.

I think it is a balance between the schools responsibilty to educate our children and our responsibilty as parents to deal with issues beyond the schools resources. It is not the schools responsibilty to raise out children for us and I am not saying that is what you are suggesting, I am saying that our kids are our kids. My option was to take my son out of school and homeschool him, so that is what I did.
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