|View Poll Results: Given what you know about the decisions I have ahead of me (and trying not to feel biased towards pr|
|Just pay the deposit and go for it. Have faith in your dreams and trust that all willl work out!||5||16.67%|
|Give up the spot. Financial security is more important than private school, and your daughter will be fine in public school!||25||83.33%|
|Voters: 30. You may not vote on this poll|
I wanted to post an update... thought it might help someone else who might be in a similar place. THANK YOU to everyone who posted such thoughtful responses. It really helped me sort through my feelings. I was soo disappointed to give up on the idea at first, but I am starting to get into the idea. One thing that helps is that my dd's upcoming class seems to have an exceptionally cohesive and friendly bunch of parents. I met several at a fun school orientation event (the kids got to go on a bus ride ) and we exchanged emails and have been having regular play dates. Really nice people and adorable, sweet kids who dd is excited to have as classmates. Dd is really excited about school, and I am really excited about getting our finances not only back on track but better than ever. I think she is going to do just fine, and I am finally happy to say I am excited about her upcoming school experience (though, for the record, the secretary is still an ogre )
Dd is really excited about school, and I am really excited about getting our finances not only back on track but better than ever. I think she is going to do just fine, and I am finally happy to say I am excited about her upcoming school experience (though, for the record, the secretary is still an ogre )
That sounds great (except for the ogre part)!
I've thought a lot about choices over the years. We made a choice when we started our family to live within our means, debt-free, in a small, safe community surrounded by beautiful wilderness where our kids could explore / roam / play / grow up without fear. My kids have unique learning needs. Our school choice consisted of one under-funded public school, K-12, with fewer than a hundred students. Extra-curricular options for supporting my kids' passions and talents have been extremely limited as a result of our rurality.
I could have bemoaned the lack of educational choice. But that would have got me nowhere except to a state of feeling resentful and unempowered. I admit I've been through occasional phases where I've been mired down in those feelings. But I really had to reframe the issue of choice: we had made bigger, more global choices than School A vs. B vs. C. We chose things like simplicity, financial and personal security, and freedom, things that trump the smaller choices of this school vs. that school or gymnastics vs. dance or violin teacher A vs. violin teacher B.
So it sounds like you're doing the right thing: looking at your choices through a wide-angle lens. You have the choice of more marital harmony, less stress, more family freedom, etc. etc.. rather than private school and the concomitant stress / discord / financial strain. Sounds like you're making an important and very sound choice.
Mountain mama to three great kids and one great grown-up