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#1 of 4 Old 09-06-2012, 06:04 PM - Thread Starter
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Hi, would like to hear from experienced parents how to handle request of my child for

playdate on school days? I can't quite decide wether to do it every day at the park

with a friend to let them run and release steam? or should I limit it to once

a week or weekends only?

It is first grade, they don't have any serious homework yet and the weather is great

not for much longer.. though so..


how do you handle playdate and when it is most reasonable to do it from your experience?

after school, before dinner? after dinner or other options?

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I'd say go to the park when it works for your family.  IDK what your 'playmates' schedule looks like.  Even if there isn't homework per se that family might have a school schedule they follow. (book time, library, dinner, bath, bed, family time, church, ballet, gym class etc).

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We had a year that we stopped at the park everyday (weather permitting) for a hour on our way home from school. This worked really well for my kids, esp. for one of my kids who unwinds through movement.

I can see how every day wouldn't be possible for many families, but I don't know why you would want to limit outdoor play. It's good for kids.

but everything has pros and cons  shrug.gif

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We play in our community space many days after school for about an hour. My girls play with whatever children are there at the time.


We try to go out in all sorts of weather year round (and we live in a Midwest area) unless it is dangerous or pouring rain. It is good for the kids- snow,sun, or clouds!


For scheduled playdates: we set it up in advance for right after school for an hour or two. Much longer and it starts to infringe on everyones nighttime/dinner routines.  There are specific kid they request playdates with. The playdates are casual meet at a park or play at house for an hour or so- nothing elaborate.


We never do after dinner playdates. The girls do homework and have some time to free play before bath,bed,books, etc.


Each week we usually have one scheduled playdate, two or three open play in the community space (playground/large grassy area), and one or two days where we have a scheduled event (swim class,school event, or Girl Scouts, etc).


It works well-- I feel it is a good balance between structured events, required routine, and time for free play.


Also your DD may pick up more homework as the school year moves forward-- I know that in 1st the homework picked up steam in Oct and we usually had 20-30 min plus reading time.

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