Yea, that's the stuff we read about and that's just crazy! DC does do about 3 hours of school work, maybe 1x/week and then has anywhere from none-2 hours on other days and very little HW on the weekend. Even being pretty happy with the effects of HW on our home and DC, I would absolutely not want DC to have 3 hours/day. Even in the super accelerated programs in our city I think they max out at 2.5 hours/day.
I think this is one of those "there's more than one way to skin a cat" things. My kids don't learn well in groups / lectures, at least not at the high school level, because they find the social/behavioural/attitudinal stuff annoying and distracting, and because it proceeds at a level that's general slower than they want. They get their group learning and experiential learning during the after-school hours by being involved in things they're passionate about with similarly passionate people, things that their school doesn't and/or can't offer.
Mountain mama to three great kids and one great grown-up
Moms, check out the national organization to "End the Race" based on the critically acclaimed documentary The Race to Nowhere: Leveraging the Power of Community to Transform Education.
Our town of Carbondale, Colorado screened the film 2 years ago, and we just completed a Visioning Session with our School Board to implement what education means to us! (Reducing homework is huge for us!)
I think so much of it depends on the kid. I wish there was flexibility. My son needs practice with his penmanship, but has math down. I would be fine if we could limit his homework to a few minutes every few days (he's in K) on practicing writing a number or letter, but the worksheets include other things he has already mastered. I've spoken with his teacher and she agreed to find other activities for him to do that were more at his level, so we'll see. I just don't want to beat the love of learning out of him with worksheet upon worksheet of stuff he already knows a few months into Kindergarten.
Mama to Turbo (2/2008), Lightning (3/2014) and wife to my Bible Camp Sweetheart
I would be very tempted to say fine, your homework is on YOU - and let her feel the impact on her grades. After one nine weeks, we could reassess. My consequence would probably be something like ok, I can't MAKE you do homework but please enjoy sitting right here for an hour every night without phone, tv, or other distractions. You might as well do homework.
When I was a kid I NEVER did my homework, but my parents thought I was doing my HW because I was sitting quietly at my desk. I was reading. All I wanted to do was read- no TV, computer, etc. I would read the stuff we had to read for HW but I thought answering the questions was a dumb waste of time. OK, I really thought it was quite boring.
My mother didn't condone me not doing my homework- she was a teacher and embarrassed by all the letters home about it- but she never really did anything about it besides the occasional nagging.