Originally Posted by crazytownmama
I don't mean to come across as adversarial, i really don't... I am hoping for the best, but trying to prepare for the worst... and I don't want to make a decision
We homeschooled in a relaxed way until the the kids were 10 and 12, and then they started school. My oldest is both gifted and the autism spectrum with intense sensory issues, a social anxiety disorder, and significant fine motor deficits. She is now in college, and I now work in a school with special needs children and I'm working on my special ed teaching certificate.
The worst case scenario isn't that you won't know the right thing to "fight" for. The worst case scenario is that in spite of the you and the school working in partnership, your son takes a long time to adjust and is completely miserable. Part of this has to come from HIM, nobody at the school has a magic wand that if you fight hard enough, you can force them to wave.
The special ed teachers at our school act as consultants for the gen ed teachers. There are informal conversations, and advice is given of things to try to help kids *who don't have any kind of label but are struggling* to be successful.
Right now, you have no idea how your son will do, so you CANNOT make a decision. It would be a bogus decision based on nothing. You are asking how what to fight over, and its not the right question. Ask how to build really positive communication with his teacher, ask how long to wait for him to adjust to one situation before requesting a change. Ask how you work WITH the professionals who have dedicated their lives to helping kids, like your son, be successful.
Asking what your should fight for is is going in believing that they are doing their best to keep your son from good things in life. I only had positive experiences with my DD's school, and now I work in a lowly ranked school with lots of English Language Learners, and I watch teachers work their butts off to help kids be successful.
Originally Posted by kathymuggle
I think you need to talk to and get input from local sources moreso than MDC. Regional differences can be very marked.
Although there are differences from state to state and district to district, in the US, the bare minimum any school can do is covered under Federal Law (the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act 2004), which includes due process safeguards. One of those safeguards is that students cannot be classified as having special needs if there is any chance that their current difficulties are due to lack of qualify instruction, which is there to prevent kids who don't really have a special need from being labeled as having one, but makes it difficult to transition special needs kids who have been homeschooled.
Originally Posted by IdentityCrisisMama
The school proposed pulling her out for special services. It was a small school so the only options for this sort of intervention was to pull her out for PE and Math.
In my state, if a child is pulled out during core instruction (reading, writing, or math) then the teacher who pulls them out is responsible for making up that gen ed curriculum. So kids who are in gen ed and received services are pulled during PE, art, music, etc. Sometimes they miss recess.
It sucks, and all staff members at my school agree it sucks.
None the less, when you can't pull kids during half the day, and you try to coordinate with all the grades, it just sucks.
This is, IMHO, another reason to not advocate for services as a way of adjusting to school. They are often provided during the most fun parts of the school day.