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lauren 08-24-2014 07:03 PM

When do all the kids go back?
 
Mine go on Wednesday. Just a couple of days left! I am hoping to start getting them on routine Mon and Tues so they are ready on Wed. I have a 4th grader and an 11th grader.

whatsnextmom 08-24-2014 07:20 PM

My 9th grader starts tomorrow (Monday.) We moved our college kid into the dorm on last week and she also starts classes tomorrow!

lauren 08-24-2014 07:31 PM

Oh! I forgot to add we also dropped our oldest off at college on Fri and he starts tomorrow. I'm nervous for him! The other two are feeling pretty good about everything over all. How are your kids feeling about it?

Mylie 08-25-2014 05:51 AM

Mine goes back next Monday the 2nd....she is 6 and in 1st grade...

KSLaura 08-25-2014 07:33 AM

This is the third week of school for my kids!

Ragana 08-25-2014 09:05 AM

Both back today - one to 6th and one to 9th. Both in new schools. Both nervous. Definitely some meltdowns yesterday. Going to pick up 9th grader in a few hours. Hope it went OK!

PS Getting into the new routine early is a good idea. We didn't specifically do that, and our wake-up time is being pushed back quite a bit to 6:30. Good thing both schools are lenient the first week!

NiteNicole 08-25-2014 11:00 AM

Two and a half weeks ago!

moominmamma 08-25-2014 11:23 AM

No idea. We're in the midst of a public school teachers' strike. No school for the foreseeable future.

Ds17 and dd20 have college classes beginning on the 2nd.

Miranda

IdentityCrisisMama 08-25-2014 11:27 AM

7th grader went back today. She's feeling good, though felt a little nervous just last evening and this AM. I'm off to pick her up in 5 mins. Excited to hear about the first day.

3 year old pre-schooler goes back a week from tomorrow. She doesn't know it but she will be absolutely thrilled to be back at school, although she's doing extended day 2/3 of her days, which will be a bit of a transition.

*I* go back on Wednesday.

We party pretty hard all summer. We're all ready for routine. Really ready. :love

lauren 08-25-2014 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by KSLaura (Post 17950642)
This is the third week of school for my kids!

Wow!!

lauren 08-25-2014 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by moominmamma (Post 17951346)
No idea. We're in the midst of a public school teachers' strike. No school for the foreseeable future.

Ds17 and dd20 have college classes beginning on the 2nd.

Miranda


Sorry to hear about the strike! :( WHat are the issues at hand?

moominmamma 08-25-2014 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by lauren (Post 17952650)
Sorry to hear about the strike! :( WHat are the issues at hand?

The issues are the usual: money, class composition and class size. But it's all much more contentious right now because of the back-story:

A couple of years ago the government passed a law saying that class size and composition can't be negotiated by the teachers' union. The union challenged the law in the courts and won, but the government decided to appeal the ruling, and the appeal process isn't going to be resolved for another month and a half. So who knows what is going to happen in the meantime. Is the government stalling, expecting to come out on top when the appeal ruling is made? Who knows... Right now the parties are not even meeting to negotiate, though they're both spewing a lot of rhetoric.

We are long-time homeschoolers though, and we will cope just fine if there's no school for a while. Dd11 is still homeschooled, albeit under the umbrella of a public school program, and really nothing will change for her: it's only my reporting that may be on hiatus. Dd15 is due to start at a new big high school in a different community, and is anxious to get started, but it was going to be a scramble to get her moved in time. Now we have all the time we need to get her apartment sorted, and she's still happily working at her café job, reading, playing violin and enjoying hiking and camping. She may decide to start some coursework, if she can figure out what courses she's scheduled for during the first semester.

Miranda

Linda on the move 08-25-2014 06:08 PM

DD#1 starts back to classes at community college tomorrow. She's fine with it - it is a return to what she did last year.

DD#2 is in her 3rd week already. She is a Junior this year. She is sorta of excited but sort of dreading it. She has difficult classes, and it's a lot of work. She's had one melt down so far when she declared that she wanted to go back to 5th grade when her biggest problem was writing a paragraph with a topic sentence.

Miranda - what is the "class composition" issue? Here in the states, inclusion of special needs students is an issue, and some teachers are frustrated at having students who have moderate special needs but no extra support in their classrooms, while trying to teach to common core standards. I can see their point.

moominmamma 08-25-2014 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Linda on the move (Post 17952810)
Miranda - what is the "class composition" issue? Here in the states, inclusion of special needs students is an issue, and some teachers are frustrated at having students who have moderate special needs but no extra support in their classrooms, while trying to teach to common core standards. I can see their point.

Yes, it's special needs of various levels and types, and ESL kids, and all the kids who should have received special needs designations but are wait-listed for evaluations, and the kids in need of reading recovery intervention and so on.

Miranda

whatsnextmom 08-25-2014 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by lauren (Post 17949762)
Oh! I forgot to add we also dropped our oldest off at college on Fri and he starts tomorrow. I'm nervous for him! The other two are feeling pretty good about everything over all. How are your kids feeling about it?

DS 13 had a great first day. He made some friends and had people to eat with at lunch (this is an out-of-area charter school so he knew no one in his grade going in.) It's a very different format than he's used to but he thinks it's going to be good.

DD 17 also had a great first day. Loved her professors and subjects. She's a little nervous about the amount of work ahead of her but excited about it too.

lauren 08-25-2014 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by whatsnextmom (Post 17953026)
DS 13 had a great first day. He made some friends and had people to eat with at lunch (this is an out-of-area charter school so he knew no one in his grade going in.) It's a very different format than he's used to but he thinks it's going to be good.

DD 17 also had a great first day. Loved her professors and subjects. She's a little nervous about the amount of work ahead of her but excited about it too.

Good for your 13 yr old. 13 is such a sensitive age, socially!

Ragana 08-26-2014 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Linda on the move (Post 17952810)
She's had one melt down so far when she declared that she wanted to go back to 5th grade when her biggest problem was writing a paragraph with a topic sentence.

Tell your DD I feel the same way!! :wink:


Ragana 08-26-2014 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Ragana (Post 17950874)
Both back today - one to 6th and one to 9th. Both in new schools. Both nervous. Definitely some meltdowns yesterday. Going to pick up 9th grader in a few hours. Hope it went OK!

PS Getting into the new routine early is a good idea. We didn't specifically do that, and our wake-up time is being pushed back quite a bit to 6:30. Good thing both schools are lenient the first week!

Waking up is going OK. DD1 took the public bus this morning - success! But they both had a hard time eating breakfast/lunch due to anxiety about school, though. Hope that gets better as they settle in.

Hope the teachers' strike is over soon! (with the best possible result)

lauren 08-26-2014 06:37 PM

Our last evening! Tomorrow's the big day. Backpacks are packed. Youngest is tucked in. Whew!

IdentityCrisisMama 08-27-2014 01:04 PM

I went back today (Art education certification) and got a big blow. I found out that my class and DD2's pre-school start at the exact same time. I'm so bummed that I need childcare for such a short amount of time. We have lots of family and support so will get by but I really thought I had the perfect (tight) schedule this semester. Ah, well!

lauren 08-27-2014 01:56 PM

Bummer! Don't you love those setbacks right after you get everything figured out!! I got one of those today having to do with ballet carpooling!

Peony 08-28-2014 01:24 PM

We started last Thursday. This year I have one in 6th, 2nd, K, and preschool. They all are at the same school even! The preschooler just goes three mornings a week so I can work those times.

It's going. Everyone has had a rough transition. We keep a tight schedule/routine all year so that wasn't the case. Just lots of special needs, anxieties, and changes it seems.

IdentityCrisisMama 08-28-2014 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by lauren (Post 17959217)
Bummer! Don't you love those setbacks right after you get everything figured out!! I got one of those today having to do with ballet carpooling!

Yes! They are the worst. I was lucky to have had lunch today with two of my most reliable supports (my mom and my SIL). I told them about my Wednesday (which includes 10 varieties of school sections/drives/carpools between 2 DC's and me). They took pity on me and I'm feeling so much better.

DH also softened on the idea that he may have to miss work from time to time if we have a conflict. I've been a SAHM, part-time, or a student for the entire time I've been a parent so he's just not used to the idea that he may have to take off work to care for kids. I know that sounds kind of surprising but it's an adjustment even I have to make in my mind just because we've never needed to do that.

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Originally Posted by Peony (Post 17961890)
It's going. Everyone has had a rough transition. We keep a tight schedule/routine all year so that wasn't the case. Just lots of special needs, anxieties, and changes it seems.

My DC (who is pretty sold usually) was really wobbly last night. I know she was just over-tired from me letting her swim for 5 hours after school. Today was better but we had a surprise crop of anxiety yesterday too.

Deep breaths!

IdentityCrisisMama 08-28-2014 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by lauren (Post 17959217)
Bummer! Don't you love those setbacks right after you get everything figured out!! I got one of those today having to do with ballet carpooling!

Yes! They are the worst. I was lucky to have had lunch today with two of my most reliable supports (my mom and my SIL). I told them about my Wednesday (which includes 10 varieties of school sections/drives/carpools between 2 DC's and me). They took pity on me and I'm feeling so much better.

I hope you figure out your ballet carpool.

DH also softened on the idea that he may have to miss work from time to time if we have a conflict. I've been a SAHM, part-time, or a student for the entire time I've been a parent so he's just not used to the idea that he may have to take off work to care for kids. I know that sounds kind of surprising but it's an adjustment even I have to make in my mind just because we've never needed to do that.

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Originally Posted by Peony (Post 17961890)
It's going. Everyone has had a rough transition. We keep a tight schedule/routine all year so that wasn't the case. Just lots of special needs, anxieties, and changes it seems.

My DC (who is pretty sold usually) was really wobbly last night. I know she was just over-tired from me letting her swim for 5 hours after school. Today was better but we had a surprise crop of anxiety yesterday too.

Deep breaths!

Ragana 08-29-2014 06:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Peony (Post 17961890)
They all are at the same school even!

That's good! I've been doing two school runs for a few years and so happy now that teenager can take the public bus to school and preteen walks with her friends!

Re: anxiety - Anyone had luck with particular anxiety-reduction techniques, special routines, anything? I have one who is getting treatment soon for anxiety (mainly school related), but I want to try to implement little things at home that might ease the situation - scented candles, special foods, ? Unfortunately, this one is now resistant to yoga, meditation - stuff that has been tried and worked before.

IdentityCrisisMama 08-29-2014 07:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Ragana (Post 17964090)
Re: anxiety - Anyone had luck with particular anxiety-reduction techniques, special routines, anything?

For my DC support looks like a lot of structure and encouragement to organize and complete work in ways that minimize anxiety. But I think that looks different for different kids, YK? Some of DC's friends need a break after school and do homework in the late evenings. DC prefers to bang it out so she can relax and play the rest of the day.

I think the most universal thing we can do is to recognize what works for them and encourage them to follow through on those things.

My DC is in 7th grade. Most of her anxiety seems to be related to needing to stay organized and on top of things. When she doesn't feel in control of that, she gets stressed. Part of me wants to say, "Hey, you know you really don't need to stress over getting your work done a full day ahead of when it's due." But, for her, that's what she needs to do to foeel relaxed. OTOH, two nights ago my DC was stressed about finishing an assignment that wasn't due until the following day. She was exhausted and wasn't thinking clearly. In that case, I encouraged her to see that relying on the cushion she gave herself was a good choice.

It's weird - I parented for 10 years in the moment, not worrying or even thinking about preparing for the future. That changed pretty drastically at around 11, or the start of middle school. Now a lot of what we talk about are building skills specifically for the future. Not sure why that is or how advisable that is. :shrug


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