We moved here from N. Calif., so I am used to the Dec. cut-off, too. The Sept. one struck me as abnormally early! I guess that we do all relate to it from our personal experience. My bd is in Sept., too (9/15) & I started kindergarten at 4, going on 5.
When I look at it from my personal experience, as your husband did, I can't imagine having been any older than I was in school. I was already so bored that I read books in class and just showed up for the tests & got straight A's (and I was in the Advanced Placement classes). I had terrible study habits as a result (b/c I had never had to work to do well) & that was a big draw-back in undergrad school. I really don't want Tessa to be that bored, and I think that this is where my fear of keeping her out of kindergarten until 6 comes from.
BTW, our district does allow children who transfer in from other public
schools to stay in the grade that they were in/move on to the next grade even if they don't make the cut-off for our district. Where they are real sticklers for the cut-off is when you are trying to transfer them in from a private school.
Edited to add: Angie, in looking at your post again, I do see your point on them not being bored in kindergarten. My older dd was in kindergarten last year, so I kind of have the drill down on what to expect. I am more concerned about her being bored as she gets older - in later grades when she is the oldest. I'm not too concerned with her being socially behind as she plays with older kids a lot (the benefit of having an older sibling
), either. She isn't as assertive as her older sister, but neither is she super-shy or sensitive. Angelina, my older one, is the sensitive one (she's a "sponge" and Tessa is a "duck," as Angelina describes it.)