This is what my DD's kindergarten teacher told me: That children born in May, are still really young, and they almost need that extra year at home or pre-school. My DD was born 5-20-95, and was almost 6 weeks preemie. Ok, maybe, but I didn't buy it. She was so clueless in kindergarten, but I moved her on to 1st grade. I had a conference with the 1st grade teacher at 3 weeks into the year, and she was not getting it at all. I struggled and struggled with her. I should have held her back RIGHT THEN AND THERE to either a program called Pre-1st, or back to kindergarten. But, I didn't. And so therefore, all in 1st grade she was again clueless, and not getting it AT ALL. So, I had her repeat 1st grade. She got into the HOST reading program, and had a good year. Reading level and writing was getting better, but not great. She went into 2nd grade, and started struggling again with reading. I looked into all options, and decided to have her tested for dyslexia as well. I suggested the testing in November...AND IN APRIL, they finally got her tested!! IT TOOK THAT LONG!! She only had 3 weeks of help. She did get on the honor roll for her 5th 6 weeks, so I was happy, and her last 6 weeks, she had 1 B and rest A's. So, now in 3rd grade, she got 1 B and the rest A's this past 6 weeks, and she is in the dyslexia lab and HOSTS reading program. She doesn't get any special treatment; just extra help with reading. Her reading level is only 2nd grade. Her 2nd grade sister is reading soooooooooo much better, and I try not to say anything, but sometimes it's so frustrating!! But, I know she is getting help. She also goes to free after-school tutoring, provided by the school, 2 days a week for an hour.
CHECK INTO EVERY SINGLE PROGRAM THAT THE SCHOOL OFFERS!! And if she qualifies for something that the school does not offer, then the school has to provide her a school with the program. It's the law!
And also, if you feel that she needs to be held back, trust your instinks (sp?), and do it now. Believe me, it's a lot better being held back now instead of 6th grade, like I was (for the same problems, but not the help...whole different story though), and was teased by everyone who knew. I was embaressed to say the least, and would never wish it upon any of my children at that age (11-12yrs).