I agreed to the playdate, but dh and I agreed that I would go over to kind of okay the situation. On the day he was going over, I had something come up and couldn't go. She said they would be fine and she would bring him home in 2 hrs. I let her know that we are strict vegetarians and Aidan has never had meat, she said she would make them Mac and cheese.
When I came home, dh was in the kitchen and I asked him if he asked Aidan what the had for lunch. He said they had french fries and soda from Macdonalds : . So I asked Aidan if they took it home and had them with lunch, or at least played in the playland. He said that's all they had, and they had to stay outside macdonalds because the mom wanted to smoke.
I am very upset about this, but am not sure if I should be. I know the rule is that if your child gets invited over to a friends house, you invite that child later. But I don't want to.
We put our son in the school he's in because it's small and crunchy. We decided if he didn't get in(it's a public alternative magnet school)we would do homeschool. I want my son to play with the children who enjoy the things we do, and have the same healthy lifestyle. There are many children in his class who come from vegatarian families, work on school stuff at home, do arts and crafts at home, not just sit and watch tv all day. Why does he pick the kid who's family leads a totally opposite lifestyle? And WHY did this mom think that was appropriate for a meal?!
I think that I wouldn't want my child to go on a playdate to this particular friend's house again. Maybe I would invite this child to your house for a playdate to reciprocate, but then tell your DC that he needs to invite other friends for future playdates (make it sound like he needs to take turns, perhaps?).
Originally Posted by MomInFlux
Well, playdate mom got your DS a vegetarian meal, right :
I would invite the child over for a play date. Maybe you can have a positive influence? Maybe it would be a healthy meal and healthy play that he might not otherwise experience.
Jam 7, Peanut Butter 5, and Bread 2.
Does ds like playing with him? If yes, then I definantly would have him over.
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My concern is more that he is playng now almost exclusively with this boy at school. When my dh went to pick him up the other day from class, he noticed that our son and this boy's pictures of their teacher were the worst on the wall. Our son used to have better drawing skills and writing skills. It's almost like he's trying to copy this boy's skills. I know k. is realy just trying to get the kids used to going to school and learning to play well with others, but I feel like because of the parenting skills of his mom, my son is going backwards in his schooling : .
But I wouldn't send him over there again without going along, and if I didn't want to go along coz I'd have nothing to say to the mama I just wouldn't send him over if you can avoid it.
|I want my son to play with the children who enjoy the things we do, and have the same healthy lifestyle. There are many children in his class who come from vegatarian families, work on school stuff at home, do arts and crafts at home, not just sit and watch tv all day. Why does he pick the kid who's family leads a totally opposite lifestyle?|
It doesn't sound like this boy did anything to your child; it was his mother. Why not just invite the boy over but not let your child go back to that house?
|We remember the whole deal about the beef fat in the fries too, didn't she?|
With the drawings, talk to the teacher. There is a good chance he rushed it so they could go play together instead of taking time to do it neatly. See if the 2 of them sit together, perhaps you could see if she can gently alternate/change who the kids sit beside.
It sounds like they are 2 boys who like each others company. Different family lifestyles should not have input on who our children play with. I would rather my kids be accepting and friends with people of all lifestyles than only the one that we live by.
You have to accept that your son is going to come into contact with all types of families as he gets older, and that you can't control his environement as much as you did when he was a baby. It's good for kids to learn that everyone makes different choices.
|It sounds like they are 2 boys who like each others company. Different family lifestyles should not have input on who our children play with. I would rather my kids be accepting and friends with people of all lifestyles than only the one that we live by.|