Um...Candiland...since you're a stay at home mom, have you thought about homeschooling her in the Waldorf style? If it's really important to you to send her to school, you could start out by homeschooling preschool, then send her to kindy or first grade when she's ready.
(Full disclosure - I have one 8 y.o. who homeschools, and one 6 y.o. who goes to a private alternative school).
Also, preschool (IMHO) is non-essential. My kids did go to co-op preschool 2 afternoons a week for 2 1/2 hours per day, but they were really more like playgroups with lots of toys available. No academics, etc. Probably more like a Waldorf preschool would be. Would something like a playgroup or co-op be possible for you? The co-op tuition 2 years ago was 75$ a month. Yes, a month, and I worked in the class 1 afternoon per week. Also, now that my kids are of school age, I can say with confidence that their friends who never attended preschool at all were just as competent socially, academically, and in every other way as their preschooled peers were.
Maybe this is an opportunity for you to have more special time with your wonderful little one. You can relax, and play, and be with her during all those hours she would have been at school!