a fourth grader is 'the age of reason' IMHO -
I would write a short letter to the classroom teacher and principal asking *what exactly happened, *why was this child allowed nuts to eat during recess, *who was supposed to be supervising them at that time, *how was the child disciplined (and was an apology freely given or not required), and *what is being done to prevent this from happening again. Keep a copy for yourself.
I would also go over a plan for your son to protect himself from things of this nature happening again. I would teach him something to say and something to do, you can not count on adults to protect him through his school years. At the last school I subbed at & at the middle school my oldest had attended - that would not have been assault under the zero tolerance guidelines but a verbal threat which would have resulted in a suspension prob of 2-3 days and a written apology to your child.
For myself, I would not deal with the school if this is a continual problem with that one bully, I would simply call the police - from your cell phone at the school site and report it. That way the superintendent will be involved and the bully, if the staff has been documenting assaults can be easily expelled.
I have one friend whose child has severe nut allergy and her school has a nut free zone and no food ever is brought into the classrooms as they feel that under 3-4 graders are not mature enough to understand the implications of exposing another child and might unintentionally do so.
|I don't care if the other kids don't 'get it', if they've been told to keep nut products from an allergic child, they'd better do it.
as a parent and a former teacher I know that there are many kids who 'don't get it', they just don't and I know that I personally would not count on a child under 3-4 grade to just 'do it' if my sons had a severe allergy to a common food brought into the lunch room everyday.