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View Poll Results: would you send your caucasian child to the school described below?
Yes. 92 27.54%
No. 137 41.02%
Maybe/ not sure. 90 26.95%
Other. 15 4.49%
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#421 of 436 Old 07-26-2007, 01:12 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Interesting that even at 30 votes the 24-26% "yes" selection has remained steady. I love polls, they are eminently fascinating!
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I was wondering how others keep from becoming bitter about discrimination?
I feel like a big baby for getting so upset since it's all new to me when others have experienced it for their whole lives. It makes me less likely to expect fair treatment or even common courtesy.

I can't imagine feeling this throughout my gradeschool years, or for my entire life, and I know there are people who have.

How do you deal with this without becoming as hateful as the people who are judging you based on your race?

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I was wondering how others keep from becoming bitter about discrimination?
I feel like a big baby for getting so upset since it's all new to me when others have experienced it for their whole lives. It makes me less likely to expect fair treatment or even common courtesy.

I can't imagine feeling this throughout my gradeschool years, or for my entire life, and I know there are people who have.

How do you deal with this without becoming as hateful as the people who are judging you based on your race?
Personally, I blocked a lot of things out of my memory.. I had a really tough time reading Kids from Nowhere.. it started bringing so much back that I had repressed.
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Personally, I blocked a lot of things out of my memory.. I had a really tough time reading Kids from Nowhere.. it started bringing so much back that I had repressed.
It seems like no matter how you react, it's wrong. If you get angry, they 'win.'
If you hate them, you are as bad as they are.
If you pretend it isn't happening, you're kidding yourself.

It's an eye opener. I'm so upset dealing with this for just a short time. To think about my whole life being like this is unimaginable.

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I said no, but that's because I have no intention of sending my kids to school.
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I put yes, given I don't care so much about test scores and facilities matter less than kind and caring teachers for me.
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I am a little late to the topic but... I voted maybe. I dont care about test scores in the slightest. But I do care about learning enviornment. If I had the choice of multiple schools for my children racial density would be least on my list of my priorities. Only slightly lower than test scores.
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Didn't read the whole thread. This is how I see it.

WHY BRING UP RACE AT ALL?

WHO CARES If the school is comprised mostly of African Americans. Your poll and OP are poorly worded.

It should read

"Would you send your child to a school with mediocre/notsogreat facilities where the children aren't performing to the best of their abilities"

There.

You could have saved yourself all the flames by leaving out the race issue entirely. Because Race is irrelivant.
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Didn't read the whole thread. This is how I see it.

WHY BRING UP RACE AT ALL?

WHO CARES If the school is comprised mostly of African Americans. Your poll and OP are poorly worded.

It should read

"Would you send your child to a school with mediocre/notsogreat facilities where the children aren't performing to the best of their abilities"

There.

You could have saved yourself all the flames by leaving out the race issue entirely. Because Race is irrelivant.
OMG that's so racist.




Seriously though, this has been hashed out so freaking much on this thread it's not even funny.

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I think race is very relevant if you've ever been a victim of racism.

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I think race is very relevant if you've ever been a victim of racism.
do you think this is the case with the OP?
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do you think this is the case with the OP?
I really don't know if it is or not. I'm just saying that it could be relevant.

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If the thread continues to focus on racism as a topic unto itself, it is likely to be removed. This is Learning at School and threads should focus on educational/school issues.

Please return the thread to discussion of educational issues.

 
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I think the key issue for me (which was not addresses in the OP) wold be "Are the parents involved?" I am staying at home now, but before kids I taught in several different school districts and a priavate school. If the teachers and principal are great and there is a high level of parent involvement - everything else seems to work out! Regardless of money, race, geography, facilities - where the parents are involved, the school is successful (and I don't mean test scores )
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NO school has 'no' behavior problems.

Take it from an ex teacher...I have taught in all types of schools, but most of my time spent in all african american schools, and from my experiences, that is just not possible...

I say visit, check out some different classrooms, i bet you'd see influences you wouldn't want.

I don't have caucasian kids, so I don't want to poll. but if I did, it'd probably be a NO.

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Thanks for your replies. I asked this question for 2 reasons, 1) I remember in school there was often "1" child of a different race either in the class or the school and I imagined it must be isolating and 2) I am likely sending 2 of my kids to the school described above (so there will be 2 white children, not 1 in the school ). My kids are technically 1/4 hispanic but look white.

There are 303 students in the school.
I didn't vote. If there is a school that you like the teaching of philosophy better then I would send the young ones there. But if not then I would send them to their zoned school (which I am assuming this school is??).

In elementary there were a handful of white kids (including self) and in middle school there were 3 white kids (including self). I never felt out of place and had my friends.
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