Thanks, Mommy2Max, for asking how the meeting went. I was planning to let you know today! And thanks, stella blue, for joining in as well.
The meeting went pretty well, very cordial. I took the approach of gathering information, not trying to make any big decisions yet or anything. The answer to my main question was reassuring, that our son is not seeming frustrated at school now, but their concern is for "down the road". In chatting toward the end of the meeting, the school psychologist expressed her support of time-outs and consequences, something we do not agree with at this time, so I could tell we were not completely on the same wavelength, though there was some agreement on some other things.
After talking with her and my husband, I feel the the best approach for us right now is to help out with any awkwardness we find in our son's social interactions, to model conversations and things for him more consciously, and to get together a bit more with other kids outside of school. I have been feeling the need to get together with more older Moms like myself, so we can combine the 2. We just don't feel that intervention is appropriate at the moment based on what we've heard and what we know of our son and his past history, including the fact that he is making progress in his social interactions.
One helpful thing from the meeting was that I learned some of the lingo, especially the term "pragmatics", that speech therapists use for the social aspects of language, so I was able to do some research for myself on the Web. Through this I got a better idea of what is expected from 5-yr-old conversations, and that was reassuring. I also got an idea of what standardized and nonstandardized techniques may be used for assessment, what they cost (a definite concern!) and other info about them. (The most useful site was http://depts.washington.edu/soccomm/
from the Univ. of Washington.)
Further comments, questions and suggestions are of course welcome! Thanks for being there!