I'm having a major problem with the public school, and would like your thoughts. I'm sorry, this is very long, and I have a feeling I'll be doing some venting. I'm beyond livid, a little stunned, and pretty much at my wits end here. Consider yourselves warned.
Ariah started 7th grade this year at the public school. Before that I was homeschooling her. About a month ago her big toe got really infected. She didn't tell me about it and when I discovered it, her toe was disgusting. It's white and puffy and oozing puss. I immediatly took her into the doctor's office and they told us that it's an ingrown toe nail and she'll have to have part of her toe nail cut off. Ariah freaked out when they told her this, so the doctor gave us 3 weeks to try various ideas he had at home, and told me if it gets worse, to put her on an antibiotic. He said it most likely would NOT get better in that 3 week period of time, but she's welcome to try these things first.
So we do.
In the meantime, I write a detailed note to the gym teacher telling her what's up and that Ariah shouldn't do any running in class until the three week period is up.
Ariah comes home very upset and tells me multiple days that her gym teacher is basically sneering at her and making her run anyway. Despite my note. She then tells me that her gym teacher is basically harrassing her and she relays a story to me where she's late to class and rushing to get there. They gym teacher pulls her aside and tells her that if she can walk that fast to get to class then surely she can run in gym class. The teacher tells her that she is going to call our doctor and tell him that Ariah is NOT so sick that she can't participate.
I go into the school the next day and talk to the secretary and the principle about what's going on. They seem to be on my side and act like everything will be alright from there on out. They advise me to get a doctor's note and to also field all of this through the school nurse.
The next day I get a phone call from the principle telling me that he spoke to the gym teacher and she did nothing wrong. He verifies that she told Ariah she would call our doctor and tell him that she's not so injuried that she can't run. When I bring up how messed up that is, he tells me she within her rights to do so....I try to explain how she's a gym teacher, not a doctor and she hasn't even seen the toe she's diagnosing. He cuts me off and ends the conversation.
I go and get the doctor's note and bring it in.
Only they are still making Ariah run.
And they are still harrassing her.
For instance, she brought her report card home and she's failing gym class.
I read the note the teacher wrote and it says "Ariah may not like to run, but it's part of our cirriculum."
The three weeks are about up, her toes a mess, so we go back to the doctor's office. This time we see a different doctor. He tells me that she should have been on an antibiotic and that her toe will heal if I'll put her on it. (The last dr. told me it cure the toe, but would prevent blood infection and to use the medicine if it got worse.) He claims she dosen't need her toe nail cut off-which is what we're there for.....deep sigh.
I go to pick up the antibiotic two days in a row and it's not called in. They also told her again not to run in gym, and wrote her an extension for her class. When we checked out, they forgot to give us the note.
There's a huge run around trying to pick up her medicine and THREE days later I'm finally able to get it. They just didn't call it in..........
In the meantime, I call the school nurse and explain to her what's going on again. She's fine with everything until I mention the way Ariah is being treated. She got really snide with me and told me to basically not bring my shit to her. In so many words. I don't remember how she worded it. Something like "You've ALREADY brought this up with the principle...I don't see why you are telling ME this." That sort of thing.
But okay. She now knows that Ariah's got another note and should not be running. Should be fine right?
Except that Ariah comes home super upset again. She tells me that they made her run in gym.
And she tells me that they wouldn't let her call me. She finally got them to let her and she couldn't get ahold of me. To which her gym teacher and the nurse start insulting ME to my daughter. They tell her that I'm being neglegent with her toe by not having her on the antibiotic that was perscribed two days ago-even though I told them why she wasn't and that I was working my butt off to get her on it.
And they told her without the new doctor's note, she WOULD be running in gym.
Why won't they listen to ME as the parent and wait for the freaking note to be faxed? Among a million other things.......
My head is reeling.
I'm ready to send her in with a mini tape recorder and when they make her run, I think I may threaten to sue them.
What do you think?
And sorry this is so long.
I'm not even going to edit. I just need to dump and get your advise.
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