Thank you for this thread SO much.
Warning: Extremely long
. REally need to get this out.
My ds1 is 7 years old. Fortunately he is a late birthday (mid-October with a Sept 1 cutoff). This has helped tremendously. However, the system is just set up SO wrong sometimes.
The good at his current class is that the teacher is sweet. She is grandmotherly and never yells. She has three grown children of her own.
However, she worries at me to get him tested because he is so distractable.
Why? Well he doesn't complete enough of his, extremely boring, worksheets.
Mind you, he reads at a third grade level. He tests above level in writing and math. He's sweet, wants to please and doesn't cause trouble. Given that schools require sitting for enormous periods of time, I think he does extraordinarily well. He's a high energy daydreamer just like his mom.
I've been having him do worksheets at home when they are marked homework. Lately they had stopped being marked homework so I asked if I should still have him work on them. So she asked again about having my pediatrician look at him.
Why? Well I'm sure so that he can be diagnosed with ADD and put on Ritalin so he will sit there all good and mindless and churn out worksheets galore.
Okay. Off my rant. Sure, I suppose we could go to a doctor and, worst case, get ADD diagnosis (they seem to be the rage for normal, high energy boys who'd rather daydream than do a worksheet similar to the last 100) and we could work on cognitive therapies to get him to....
what? do more useless worksheets? I mean isn't the point to get him to write and read - WHICH HE IS ALREADY DOING AT GRADE LEVEL???
Yes, I know I know that repetition/practice in some things is just necessary. And, I'll admit, part of that is why he went to school. It was more fun doing it with other kids than sitting and writing with me at home.
Also any diagnosis will follow him around. Get him pigeonholed and allow the school to dismiss his disinterest.
Honestly my sister was ADD for real that was never diagnosed until she was an adult. She has a computer science degree with an A average from a high end university. She's fine.
I really need to find a school where children can learn ACTIVELY. Basically, frankly, I need an boy friendly school where it is cool to be a high energy child. When ds1 had a man substitute teacher, ds1 left school that day just grins ear to ear. The fellow (older man) was lively and engaging. High energy. Lots of high fives and physical energy.
So part of making school work is going to be me finding that for next year.
Thanks for letting me get that out.