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#61 of 117 Old 04-06-2009, 12:51 AM
 
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Yay for all these homebirthin' mamas! We are planning our second homebirth for baby number three (#1 was induction, cascade of interventions, and cesarean #2 was an awesome water HBAC).

I keep going back and forth between how much outside involvement I want with my birth. I'm a midwifery student under two awesome midwives, so I know they are there for me if I want them. But do I? I know I want someone to stitch me if I tear significantly, to suck up the birth soup if I birth in the water, and to lend a hand if for some reason there are big complications (don't want to leave that up to Ian). Yet I keep feeling called to freebirth (unassisted). Especially when I think of being a little out of it after pushing out a baby and not being able to shoe away an over eager bulb syringe or Ian feeling displaced by other hands' presence. Rar, just keep going back and forth...

I also am not sure about my boys, whether I will ship them off or let them wander around. I've been so freaking irritable this pregnancy that I might need them to be gone, but a big part of me really wants them here.

Something tells me I will probably make most of these decisions in the moment. We'll see...
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We're planning a homebirth, only problem is, we don't have a home......

My husband lost his job a couple of months ago and we had to relocate and move in with my parents temporarily. Hubby's still looking for a job, so we haven't signed a lease yet.
My 2nd and 3rd babies were born while we were living at my parents-in-law. It worked out really well for us. They were very supportive. Our fourth baby was born at my sister-in-law's (they have four, we went from 3 to 4 while living with them for a few weeks).

This is our first time to have a baby at our own place. I'm really looking forward to giving birth in my space. We do have to have a back-up plan, because we live farther from the midwives than they usually work with. But there weren't any closer options for us. So it may be that we end up at someone else's house anyway. I'm praying that the birth will happen in our own home.

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Hi, baby #4, hopefully our 4th water birth at home.
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Hello everyone again, I hope you are all doing well.

Wow, this pregnancy is really flying! I will be 27w Sunday and from what I remember that is 3rd trimester, right? I am thinking that I better start nesting or something in the next few months. We really could be "ready" for the baby in about an hour or so ....

mommy milk - check
clothes & blankets in storrage - just need a quick wash
diapers in storrage - just need a quick wash

Oh, wait - I guess that my mw would appreciate me getting my birth supplies. Is there anything that I am forgetting? 3rd baby and I am soooo laid back

We did have a neat moment last week. dd1 (4y) was laying beside me with her head on my tummy and all of the sudden the baby started kicking really good. DD asked me to "stop that" and was amazed when I told her that it was the baby moving around in mama's tummy not mama moving.
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lol RebeccaLynn. This is my first homebirth so I am soooo not laid back about it. I just want to make sure I have everything I need and that my house is super clean. I'm nesting so much more than I did with DD- maybe because she was a planned hospital birth? Not sure, but I am enjoying the productivity anyway.
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lol RebeccaLynn. This is my first homebirth so I am soooo not laid back about it. I just want to make sure I have everything I need and that my house is super clean. I'm nesting so much more than I did with DD- maybe because she was a planned hospital birth? Not sure, but I am enjoying the productivity anyway.
Technically this will be my first homebirth also (last pregnancy, I decided to have a c/s at 41.5w b/c of placenta issues and baby being footling breach) but this is my second pregnancy planning a homebirth. It seems like I have done this all before, but I am sure that I will get a little crazy closer to "bday". I guess that my focus has been outside lately - getting up the last leaves, planing the garden and replenishing the fire wood. Maybe I will start focusing inside in a month or so when I get things more done outside.
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3rd baby and I am soooo laid back
I completely understand! I just realized that I am due for a midwifery appointment next week and keep forgetting to schedule it. Oops... I also never seem to have questions anymore when I DO go in. And I keep slacking on things like taking ALL my prenatal vitamins and sometimes just forget that I'm pregnant. However, then the aches quickly work up to remind me. I just know that 90% of babies fall out, with how smooth my last labor was it will likely go the same route, smooth, easy, enjoyable. Ha, but then a little voice pops up in my head reminding me of all the hard work I did prepping for that birth and I guess I do worry a bit that I am just being neglectful. Maybe that is why so many 3rd births are hard for moms...Man, I think I'm giving myself mental whiplash with all the back and forth thoughts this morning!
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I just order my birth kit! Earlier today I scheduled my 36 week home visit with the midwives. I can't believe that in just 2 weeks I'll be eligible for a homebirth. And that I'll finally have my baby in less than 2 months. Crazy. :

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I'm getting SUPER excited for our homebirth! I really am not worried about birth at all and am just super pumped to have an awesome birth experience. I have a friend who is taking photos at the birth and I just need to track down a video camera to borrow. And of course order a birth kit and do everything/buy everything for the birth lol. But right now it's feeling surreal that it's getting this close since I haven't done ANYTHING to prep at all haha.
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Lolli, my first daughter, was a typical hospital birth than ended up with the interventions I had hoped to avoid by carefully choosing my OB and hospital as well as having a doula and being well-informed.

Determined not to go that route this time, we spent the first 2 trimesters planning to birth at the local free-standing birth center.

Around 28 weeks we decided to take the plunge and switch to a homebirth midwife. So that's where we stand now.

I'm very excited and LOVE that there are other HBers all over this site. I had been on CafeMom for a DDC and it was kind of getting old being the weirdo who had to educate and explain everything, even though the ladies over there are awesome women.

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I've got my birth kit and I am still gathering up a few odds and ends from the mw's list. Where is everyone keeping their supplies? I don't have a lot of room in my closet currently otherwise that is where they would be. 3.5 weeks and I have the green light too.

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I still need to buy a hose, and then I'll be all set! The earliest I'd feel comfortable birthing at home is 35 weeks.....1.5 weeks away! wow! Although I am hoping this baby waits until July....I really love the month of July and think it'd be an awesome birth month.

I bought my supplies through everythingbirth.com, although I normally have my clients buy their kits through radiantbelly.com

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I still need the hose too!!! I should actually go and get it asap. This will be my 3rd homebirth (5th in all) and I am just waiting here LOL. I am Almost 33 weeks.
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I ordered my hose at Dr. Fosters and Smith. They had the connecters too. Where is the best place to buy a birth kit? I was thinking of just piecing it out and buying things separately. My mw provides most, but I do need to get some waterproof pads and a waterproof sheet for the bed (she said just to buy a shower curtain liner!). Oh, and a peri bottle. Wow, I can't believe it could only be a few weeks away! Yeah!!!!!

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I am now 33 weeks and have finally started working on a nursery (mostly so I have a cute & organized place to put all the baby's stuff) and am now putting together my birth kit. My midwife requests that we order a specific obstetrical kit and then she has a list of suggested items to have on hand-- between that list and what's been suggested here on MDC I have a lot of stuff to pull together. I bought a huge lidded tuperware storage bin-- that's where I'm keeping everything...I figure that makes it easy when the time comes--1 bin ready to go and afterwards when we're done & everything is cleaned we can store everything for next time!

This is our 1st child and we're both so excited to meet the baby (and looking forward to avoiding the hospital), but wow-- there is a lot of stuff to get and this is quite expensive!!! We're lucky because our midwife is fully covered by our insurance (she charges $8,000, sooooo really glad that worked out), we also have a doula lined up (another $1000)...and then the we're renting a birth pool for $150...my husband is a little shocked. I guess we'll have to get used to how much babies cost and of course we know that it's totally worth it. We're lucky that we can afford all this, but I wonder what do other Mommas do and isn't it sad that something as natural as birth is so costly??

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I've got my birth kit and I am still gathering up a few odds and ends from the mw's list. Where is everyone keeping their supplies? I don't have a lot of room in my closet currently otherwise that is where they would be. 3.5 weeks and I have the green light too.
I've got 2 rubbermaid bins - one for birth stuff and one for postpartum stuff. They'll likely go in a corner somewhere in the house until the birth, cause I don't have any room either!

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We're lucky because our midwife is fully covered by our insurance (she charges $8,000, sooooo really glad that worked out), we also have a doula lined up (another $1000)...and then the we're renting a birth pool for $150...my husband is a little shocked. I guess we'll have to get used to how much babies cost and of course we know that it's totally worth it. We're lucky that we can afford all this, but I wonder what do other Mommas do and isn't it sad that something as natural as birth is so costly??
Wow!!! $8000 is A LOT! It is indeed good your insurance covers it.

I'm very grateful, as a homebirthing mother AND as a midwife, that our state (oregon) medicaid covers licensed homebirth midwives 100%....so low income women *can* have homebirths with no worries. It is really the only reason I chose to get my license (so that my services aren't something that only rich families can access).

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Thought that I would stop by to say "Hi" and see how everyone is doing. It is getting so close isn't it. I can no longer forget that I am pregnant. The baby has just gotten so big that I can not eat or breath "normal" and my very active baby spends 12 hours or so a day punching my insides.

So, what is everyone doing this weekend? I am really hoping that dh & I can get the rest of the landscaping done. I really feel like I need to help him get it done since it was my idea to add a few plants and reapply mulch. He is a sweetie though and really does not expect me to do anything except look at the garden and let him know what I think needs to be done there.

I see my mw on Tues. and I will be 34w. I need to get my birth kit from her and make sure that her birth pool will be available. It is crazy that our babies will be here in no time.
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When will your midwives come for your homebirth?
Mine will only attend the homebirth between 37 and 42 weeks.

I will be 35 weeks this Sunday. Getting close!! :
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Mine will attend between 36 and 43 weeks. I've got 1 week and 5 days to go before I'm officially "eligible" for my home birth

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ours will see you between 37-42 weeks... although I doubt I'll go anywhere near 37 weeks (but I can't say I'd mind!)
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Mine is an unlicensed (and illegal) DEM so she is a little more liberal with the dates... she has attended 45-weekers (can you imagine??!!) so I am not worried about the overdue thing. And she will attend starting at 36 weeks... I think that is just about my comfort zone, too.

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37 weeks is the official "start date" here, but midwives have been known to fudge it a bit. There is no end, as long as the baby looks good.

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My mw is a CPM & only CNM are licensed in my state so she is able to take it more case by case. I believe that she usually says not before 36w and then until baby comes and we are both comfortable. That is one reason why I sought out a CPM, I have never gone into labor on my own (dd1 induced at 42w only fingertip dilated and dd2 via c/s at 41w5d b/c footling breech) and I want someone who will look at my individual case and not just at the fact that I am 42 or 43 weeks.
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I'm a licensed midwife, and can attend homebirths as early as 35 weeks. It would just depend upon the circumstance/what and how the couple felt, etc.

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Forgot to say that my midwife is part of the public health service in the UK, so that's why she can't be flexible with the dates. Mine are very nice though, and free, which is always good
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Reha, what are the risks when it comes to a 35 or 36 weeker? How often do they have to transfer?

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I've done a few births now with 35 week babies, and I think that when labor starts spontaneous (and it isn't due to infection), that most of those babies do fine. The biggest problems for 35 week babies is they can sometimes have a hard time keeping warm/regulating their temp, and issues with breastfeeding (poor latch/suck, sleepy, etc).

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I've done a few births now with 35 week babies, and I think that when labor starts spontaneous (and it isn't due to infection), that most of those babies do fine. The biggest problems for 35 week babies is they can sometimes have a hard time keeping warm/regulating their temp, and issues with breastfeeding (poor latch/suck, sleepy, etc).
Yeah, everyone told me our 35-weeker would end up in the NICU, unable to breathe or eat... it ended up he was tiny, but totally healthy and latched on right away (blew even me away!!). It is really amazing to see the differences between babies - my best friend had a 36-weeker who ended up in the NICU because his gag wasn't there yet. I just keep focusing on the number 37 in hopes of making it that far!

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My body hurts (mostly thighs and hiney) from the landscaping that we did this weekend but I asked dh this morning if we could try to finish it tonight so that we would be done with it. I keep wondering if I am being wise or foolish. Everyone keeps telling me that they think that I will go on or before my due date this time and to be honest it is starting to get to me and is freaking me out a little bit. I am only 34w1d. My goal is to have "everything" outside done by 36w and to have the rest of my to do list (mostly inside stuff and shopping) done by 38w. I have never gone into labor on my own (42w). So in my mind, I have about 4 weeks to get ready and 8-10 weeks until baby but everyone else is expecting a baby in 4-6 weeks. Eeks!! I think that I am allowing it to feak me out a little more b/c I am experiencing pressure a little sooner this time (maybe baby is deciding to go head down a little earlier?) and dd1 did not turn until 37w and dd2 was footling the whole time so the pressure was a few weeks later.
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