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DH is on salary and works with youth- so he doesn't do a TON in the summer. He is gone for the next 2 weeks speaking at a summer camp, and then he leaves to take the kids to Colorado for a week on August 8th (did I mention our 5 yr anniversary is Aug 7th....). So I'll be alone with a newborn and toddler in early August. I'm due July 19th, so I'm HOPING he comes a little sooner so I am more into my routine before I'm completely on my own.
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I'm so sad for all you mommas!
DH is taking 35 weeks paid paternity leave from the government, everbody can get it here. He also has the option of working 40% of his normal hours on top of that. IF he doesn't work we are short only about $200 a paycheck. But if he does He'll easily make about $400 more than usual giving us a chance to catch up on bills that we otherwise wouldn't be able to pay.

It's really sad here because alot of dad's don't take paternity leave, and even moms don't take their maternity(Yes they are different and both pay out to families, however I don't work so I don't get my maternity leave, they are both set up through our countries employment insurance). DH's work is trying to give him a really hard time and tell he that men around here don't do that, but DH is godd at telling them that's why their families are all grown and screwed up, because they are, lol.

I love my Dh and can't wait for this babe to come and for our time to start.:
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My DH works for a company that has decent benefits and actually gets 2 weeks paid paternity leave, so that's what we'll be doing.

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I'm so sad for all you mommas!
DH is taking 35 weeks paid paternity leave from the government
I think I would go crazy with him in my space for that long. And I guarantee he would! 2 weeks sounds almost too long which is why we are being fluid about if it is 1 or 2 weeks.

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in cali where we live, everyone gets paid family leave. it pays 55% of your average income for 6 weeks. dh is taking off the first week, then he will work only when ds is at preschool 18 hours a week for the second week. after that, well see how it goes. he just got a promotion and i think they expect him to not take time off now that hes a supervisor, but he has been clear that our family needs come first.

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Dh gets 4 weeks pain (in full) off. Last time I needed him to help with ds1, so with 2 ds's now I'm sure he'll be busy. The last week and a half I sent him doing chores around the house/yard so I could gradually ease into mothering without him. It worked well.

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I think I would go crazy with him in my space for that long. And I guarantee he would! 2 weeks sounds almost too long which is why we are being fluid about if it is 1 or 2 weeks.
Yeah, my husband would jump off a bridge. He LOVES his job and plans to do it forever. Taking that much time off...he would not know what to do with himself. He would channel that boredom into driving me crazy.

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I think I would go crazy with him in my space for that long. And I guarantee he would! 2 weeks sounds almost too long which is why we are being fluid about if it is 1 or 2 weeks.
Yeah I figured too but we've been saving up lots of projects for him and DD to do around the house while I'm with DS. He's actually been looking forward to this for a while. He's a small guy who works on huge machines so his body is in desprate need of the rest after working so hard and not taking the time to heal for 5 years. I really think that we are going to really enjoy having eachother around alot, so long as there is lots of stuff to do, otherwise I'll send him back to work
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My husband will take one week off. He is working at a new place so has no vacation time yet. He does have 3 sick days so we will get that then 2 days would be unpaid.

I would LOVE it if my husband could take 35 weeks off! I don't ever get sick of having him around. We've been married 12 years and I wish we could spend every day together I envy you Chronic Chrissy!
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I would LOVE it if my husband could take 35 weeks off! I don't ever get sick of having him around. We've been married 12 years and I wish we could spend every day together
I'm with you!

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Thank goodness! I was starting to think I was weird or something, lol. Alot of our family relationship is about equality and balancing everyones needs, and we all need eachother. We really are looking forward to being a family all togather and being able to grow each individually and togather as a strong family unit. DH is so excited that he's been talking about having 12 kids and a huge family, and get off the grid and self suficient someday! This from the man who never wanted kids, lol.
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I would LOVE it if my husband could take 35 weeks off! I don't ever get sick of having him around. We've been married 12 years and I wish we could spend every day together I envy you Chronic Chrissy!
O.K. don't get me wrong... I love every minute I spend with my husband. We have been together for over 14 years and I am more in love with him now. BUT... he would despise being off work that long. Longer than 2 weeks would be way too long for him. When we go on vacation even, if we are gone a week he starts to get antsy. So please don't think that those of us who wouldn't want the same thing don't love our guys as much. It is just that my DH has different needs and so do I. If that makes ANY sense. Some people do great if they are in each other's space 24/7 (like when he has a 3 or 4 day weekend I LOVE IT) but some don't (when he has a 3 or 4 day weekend he is getting restless by the end of day 3)

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I'm so sad for all you mommas!
DH is taking 35 weeks paid paternity leave from the government, everbody can get it here. :


WOW. Where do you live? I am moving there!

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I would LOVE it if my husband could take 35 weeks off! I don't ever get sick of having him around. We've been married 12 years and I wish we could spend every day together I envy you Chronic Chrissy!
I would love it too! And dh would find things to do (with the kids and without). He works on Xbox, and has always wanted to write his own video game for live arcade. So if he had that kind of time I'm sure he's "work" on that part of the time to keep busy.

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Do you happen to be somewhere in Scandinavia?
The maternity/paternity laws there are soooo wonderful!
In the country we used to live in, women got fully paid leave bginning on week 36 of pregnancy and lasting until the baby was 6mo, and then they could also take off until 12 mos for slightly less pay. Mom and dad can split the leave equally, which ensures that men and women are really equal in the eyes of employers!
And then there is the 35 week parental leave which can be taken anytime before the kid is 5 I believe all together or spread (for about 40% of the pay)

I wish other countries in the world understood what huge benefits they woukd have for society if they supported patents of little ones more . It is not charity - it is investing in strong family foundation, happy kids and of course, happy employees! So much talk about "family values" in the US, and yet people are left having to take days from sick leave in order to be with their baby, or maybe not even being able to be there at all
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Dh is in the Air Force, he gets 10 days paternity leave (but this includes weekend days, grr! so i would actually prefer a monday birth, lol), and will be taking 2-3 weeks additional leave on top of that. He always has 60ish days saved up, he just doesn't take much leave.

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Do you happen to be somewhere in Scandinavia?
The maternity/paternity laws there are soooo wonderful!
In the country we used to live in, women got fully paid leave bginning on week 36 of pregnancy and lasting until the baby was 6mo, and then they could also take off until 12 mos for slightly less pay. Mom and dad can split the leave equally, which ensures that men and women are really equal in the eyes of employers!
And then there is the 35 week parental leave which can be taken anytime before the kid is 5 I believe all together or spread (for about 40% of the pay)

I wish other countries in the world understood what huge benefits they woukd have for society if they supported patents of little ones more . It is not charity - it is investing in strong family foundation, happy kids and of course, happy employees! So much talk about "family values" in the US, and yet people are left having to take days from sick leave in order to be with their baby, or maybe not even being able to be there at all
Actually I'm Canadian! So we get free healthcare as well and no hospital or midwife bills, now we just need to get us doulas recognized, lol. The maternity leave is provided to mothers, and is about 9 months, it is ment for the mother to have time to fully heal during the stressful transistion into parenthood. However we also have a daycare shortage here right now for toddlers and up, very few daycares even take infants between 6-12months, and almost none take 6 months or younger.
The parental leave can be split between the two parents or taken completely by one or the other and is 35 weeks, but really works out to 37 because the first 2 weeks are unpaid. what they do is take the money they would have paid you and recycle it back into the system to pay the deductable for the claim, so you don't ever pay a penny. I feel they should be placed at the last two weeks, but that's just me. But you can only take this begining in your childs first year or when you have a new child move into the familyadopted or not.
Then we have compassionate care leave, which I believe is another 9 months, and is used when you are needed to care for someone in your family who is ill or medically in need of the assistance. This is flexible however and you can get extensions but it's not indefinate.

So say both me and DH have our 900 hours of employment with any number of employers, over the last 2 years(which he does but I don't having not really ever worked). I would be able to apply for the 35 weeks of mat leave and take it at 36 weeks, which would end when the baby was about 8 months old.
Now say when I gave birth there was a terrible complication which caused our baby to be hospitalized for 4 months, and require care for and additional 4 months at home. Now also say that I had a complicated c-section and myself was in need of help for 2 months post partum.
It doesn't make sense to place my compassion leave in the middle of my mat leave even though can. It just confuses the system and even though they back pay you eventually it really isn't worth the hassle.
But DH is able to take the compassion leave for those 2 months I am ill, then start the additional 6 months left of the childs needed care, giving him till the child is 8 months.
But when that 8 months rolls around we can apply for our paternal leave since it is within the first year. To me it would just be logical for us to split the mat leave and that would maen and additional 4.5 months each to spend at home. Giving us both a complete year nearly fully paid(but we can work up to %40 of our normal hours which would actually get us very far ahead in our bills).
And then if your job doesn't want you back you get to begin a full unemployment claim until you find a suitable job(Hate to say it we are booming here), which is about 8-9 months.
Crazy huh?

I hate to say it but we pay alot less of our earnings towards taxes than Americans when you look at it, and get so many services.
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You are all going to hate me.

DH works for the Canadian government. He gets 5 days, fully paid and then he gets 35 weeks at 93% pay..............

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DH has 16 days of PTO saved up so far...and he should have a few more by the time the baby arrives! I'm hoping he can take a month off, lol, but it's doubtful. I don't want him to use up ALL of his days in case we have an emergency...i don't drive!
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DP and I get 52 weeks combined, at 60% tax free, but 12 of those are for me specifically, so I guess we have 37 weeks to share. I think he'll maybe take a month, because I do plan to SAH with abby and not return to work once my maternity leave runs out

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