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Anna is sick.

Her temperature was close to 102 and I finally relented that we needed help. Knowing what they were going to do to her because she was so young made it hard to drive to the hospital. I cried the whole ride.

When we arrived, I nursed her and then they tried to catheterize her. They were unsuccessful numerous times and then she peed everywhere and they caught the urine. Then they IVED her. They got blood for the bacterial cultures but couldn't get the CBC, so the lab tech came and pricked her heal and proceeded to fill a tube by squeezing the blood out. I nursed her the ENTIRE procedure. Then a chest XRAY, this was horrible, she cried and I had to close her in this little cast like thing and hold her arms and chin up. THEN the spinal tap... I would not wish this on my worst enemy. The Dr tried to tell me I HAD to wait in the waiting room and I told him that I was NOT leaving my baby. SO, I watching them bend my baby in half for 30 minutes and watch them TRY to get to her spine. It was horrific, but I never left her. I just kept saying, I am here Anna, Mommy is here and I love you.

Anyway, she is ok now, we have been admitted with antibiotics for the next day or two. She is such a strong baby and I love her so much. I am so sad that she is having to go through this. It is just breaking my heart.

So far all the tests look ok. But we are waiting them all out... Please pray for her to recover super fast....
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Oh My how HORRIBLE I will be thinking about your LO. Please update when you can

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DDC crashing.

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Many prayers for a speedy recovery!
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mama. hope everything works out real soon.

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Oh, I hope she feels better soon. I'm tearing up just thinking about what you had to watch, and what she had to go through.

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I hope everything is ok and she can come back home soon.

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Hang in there... I'm so sorry you're all going through this, but glad your little one has such a strong mama bear advocate!

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Praying for a swift recovery and strength for both of you

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I'm so sad for Anna!!!!!! I hope she recovers quickly! Hugs to all of you!

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s mama, we JUST go through the same thing: DS had a temperature on wed of 101.5ish and was obviously not feeling well, and so I took him in to see the ped on thursday as I *thought* it was thrush - it wasn't and as he didn't have a fever at the time we went home... but went to the ER that night as instructed when his temp got over 101. Luckily they didn't give him a cath, just caught a urine sample with a bag, but they took FIVE tries to get the IV in and 2 tries on the spinal tap - and yeah, that was AWFUL. Of course, by the time they got to the X-RAY he was upset but very tired and just kinda layed there... we were there untill yesterday ~12 - ended up being a urinary tract infection, so he's on amoxicilin for the next week But, he's feeling way better now.

Big hugs! Hospitals suck, and going to the ER is TERRIFYING - I too avoided it cause' I just didn't want to see DS2 hooked up to an IV, cathed etc... but it was definetly 'worth it' in the end - ie, he's going to be OK. HUGE hugs!!
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oh my goodness. praying for you, Torre and Anna...

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Oh mamma that's so sad. I hope you're released soon!

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I am so sorry you are going through this.

Hope you will be home soon with your little one and this will just be a horrible memory.

I will be thinking of you guys

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She is just so little, I cannot imagine what she was thinking. I just didn't want her to think I ever left her.

The pedi unit is quiet, it's Anna and a baby who is even younger. The nurses are fairly nice. I am just hoping they don't give me crap about co-sleeping.

I will stay up all night if I have to to just let her lay with me and feel secure...

Meanwhile the poor little one across the hall was left alone all night and day because mom needed SLEEP. She is formula feeding and obviously doesn't feel like she needs to be here. I want to run across the hall and nurse the poor little man.... JEEZ...

So Anna's fever has stayed low and she has not had Tylenol since around 6 AM. The real test is after around 5 PM when the meds have truly worn off. She has been sleeping for 2 hours now.

The Dr was rude up here. I see a Holistic practitioner and well, the other Dr's obviously do not like him because he is against vaccines. So the first thing out of her mouth was, My name is Dr so and so, your Dr is Dr so and so, OH the one who doesn't vaccinate... YEAH who says that? I was like, "He is my Dr because I don't believe in them either". SHe then cuts me off mid sentence and tells me that she isn't going to argue with me about it, then starts asking me about the swine flu vax.. WTF does that have to do with my 5 week old????? She was ignorant. She then told me I had to stay here 48 hours, I then told her I would be signing us out in the AM, after she has had her second dose of antibiotics, because I can give her tylenol and take her temp at home...

SERIOUSLY... I am ready to smack these people. UGH...

I just want to go home and lay in the bed with my baby and nurse her all night.
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Sending lots of love and healing vibes to you and your little one!

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praying all is well

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Oh my! I hope everything is alright! Stay with her and stay strong!

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Hope your little one is feeling better soon - it is so hard to see your child sick.

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Meanwhile the poor little one across the hall was left alone all night and day because mom needed SLEEP. She is formula feeding and obviously doesn't feel like she needs to be here. I want to run across the hall and nurse the poor little man.... JEEZ...
Please be kind to this boy's family - you don't know the path that they have traveled so far. Parents of children with extended hospital stays suffer greatly - there is probably a good chance that her husband/family/nurses had to convince her to take some time away from her child to recharge and rest. Also don't judge the use of formula to harshly - you have no way of knowing if the reason he is in the hospital may also be the reason he needs to be fed formula. My DD had a short 4 day NICU stay and I will never assume that I understand the needs of other families that must live through extended hospital stays.
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Please be kind to this boy's family - you don't know the path that they have traveled so far. Parents of children with extended hospital stays suffer greatly - there is probably a good chance that her husband/family/nurses had to convince her to take some time away from her child to recharge and rest. Also don't judge the use of formula to harshly - you have no way of knowing if the reason he is in the hospital may also be the reason he needs to be fed formula. My DD had a short 4 day NICU stay and I will never assume that I understand the needs of other families that must live through extended hospital stays.

That's a good point. My son had to be re-hospitalized for jaundice at 3 days old. My milk didn't come in until day 5, so he really needed the formula because he was so dehydrated, his weight was crashing, and his bilirubin shot up.

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I can so relate to how you are feeling, they did some awful, awful things to DS2 while trying to diagnose his CHD when he was just 2 weeks old. It is a horrible feeling as a mother to watch your tiny baby be poked and prodded when you just have to sit by helplessly. Be gentle with yourself. I'm sure it helped Anna to have you there comforting here during the scary parts.

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I went through a similar experince when my DD was 10 days old and BOY was it hard hang in there Mama

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hang in there - you have been so strong - my goodness sooo strong. you are in my prayers

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I heard a lot from the mother and the nurses about the situation with the baby across the hall, it is worse than I had thought.. I assure everyone I was not being judgemental without understanding and knowing facts. It is just hard to hear a little baby crying for his mommy and having her not be there because she is out chain smoking or too busy texting to be bothered.

I formula fed my first daughter.. I was not judging that, I am judging the fact that she ws too busy texting and smoking and making out with her boyfriend to care or comfort or feed her own baby while she was here... why bother?
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nak...

update:

last night was rough. Anna nursed every hour if not more often... I was so tired.

She still has a fever.got her third large precautionary dose of antibiotics this am.

This morning the students came in and were telling me we would have to remain here until her fever was gone. I told them that if this is viral she may have a fever for days and being a single mom I cannot be away from my daughter. If it is bacterial, i would absolutely come back and allow them to give her the antibiotics and stay the full 10 days.

So when the actual Dr came in she agreed that it was ok to sign out AMA because the next 24 hours are just observational and they are just covering themselves. She asked if I would agree to another CBC clood culture to see if her WBC count was high and I said absolutely. She then started talking about the difference between Western and Eastern medicine again and I told her, "I understand the difference, just because I don't vax doesn't make me a bad mom, I brought my daughter in for care as soon as I saw her fever, however I am quite competent to take her temp rectally at home and give her tylenol and I am quite able to drive her back if the results show a bacterial infection."

She was happy with that and so was I. So we are waiting for the CBC culture to come back and then we can go. I think we will both get more sleep at home and I can at least care for my 2 year old as well. Poor thing I miss her so much.
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Oh and Anna and I send our thanks for all your well wishes and prayers.
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I heard a lot from the mother and the nurses about the situation with the baby across the hall, it is worse than I had thought.. I assure everyone I was not being judgemental without understanding and knowing facts. It is just hard to hear a little baby crying for his mommy and having her not be there because she is out chain smoking or too busy texting to be bothered.

I formula fed my first daughter.. I was not judging that, I am judging the fact that she ws too busy texting and smoking and making out with her boyfriend to care or comfort or feed her own baby while she was here... why bother?
Wow. If the nurses told you anything about that baby's situation that would be a huge HIPPA violation. Honestly, if I was in your situarion I would not assume that I knew everything that was going on with that baby and the mom - everyone reacts differently to the stress of a hospitalized child and maybe taking smoke breaks is her way to destress.

Hope your little one is feeling better.
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Wow. If the nurses told you anything about that baby's situation that would be a huge HIPPA violation. Honestly, if I was in your situarion I would not assume that I knew everything that was going on with that baby and the mom - everyone reacts differently to the stress of a hospitalized child and maybe taking smoke breaks is her way to destress.

Hope your little one is feeling better.
Ok, it seems no matter what the situation is, you are going to think I am wrong, Everyone judges sometimes, I judged and I think she was wrong. I guarentee most other moms witnessing what I did would feel the same way. The nurses didn't tell me anything, I can hear, I have ears. Leaving your sick baby to smoke isn't cool in my book, sitting in the room and texting while the nurse has to come in to take care of your son is not cool. I assure you, from what I saw, there was carelessness going on. It is just really hard as a mom to listen to a baby suffer alone. This was not a NICU stay, it was not a prolonged hospitalization either, same protocol as for my daughter, he was on droplets precautions and had the septic work up like my daughter, only he was MAYBE a week old.

Thanks for your concern about my little one.
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HIPPA violation or not the nurses talk and you hear things. I know A LOT about the baby that was next to DS2 while he was in the ICU. I know that the baby had a serious heart defect (HLHS) and his mom did not call or come to visit for 8 days and they called her and threatened to bring in DCF and start the process of terminating her parental rights if she didn't get in ASAP and you bet your a** that I judged her. I spent a lot of time talking to her baby and singing to her because I felt so sad that she was all alone and so close to death. I was pissed and so were the nurses and they did share info with me about the baby's mom. So I completely understand being pissed when you see a very sick baby being neglected. The nurses bust their butts to ensure that these babies live and they have no tolerance for parents who don't do the same. Rightly so IMHO.

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