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#1 of 4 Old 09-02-2009, 11:07 AM - Thread Starter
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wonderful blog by a midwife and her very timely thoughts on processing our births, birth guilt and healing birth trauma. Also includes some great thoughts on how women as a community can be better listeners.

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didnt read it all, im eating 1 handed hugging a grumpy babe, but it made me realise that i have zero birth guilt about Henrietta's birth. Zero, none, zip, nada. that is monumental to me as i still carry birth guilt from the other 4.

will read it all later

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Thanks for posting.

While I don't have guilt necessarily, I am doing a lot of questioning right now. I know it will not change the outcome but to accept it I need to somehow move beyond the questioning and accept we made the right choices for us in the heat of the moment.

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Not in your DDC but wanted to say thanks for posting such a great site.

Birth trauma is something that so many people experience but it is rarely spoken of. There is that whole taboo factor - "well, your baby is healthy and that's all that matters" is heard way too often. The mother's feelings of grief and loss after ending up with a traumatic birth are often ignored. I know mine were. But thankfully, I turned my experience into the HBAC of my dreams this past July! I am going to do my best to let everyone know that it can indeed be done!

hh2.gif Proud Mama to DS1 09/07 ribboncesarean.gif, DD 07/09 hbac.gif, and DS2 06/11 uc.jpg.  Feeling more and more blessed with each day!



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