Haha, I really don't. But I think everyone was right when they said you forget all the pain of labor and the pregnancy pains after you have your adorable baby in your arms. I didn't believe them!
We had planned on Asia being our only baby, but I have definitely changed my mind about that! I want one more.. I can wait a couple years though
We've agreed to only have two kids though, and picturing myself with three is... weird. Dh is supposed to be getting the V, but he hasn't mentioned and seems to be in no big hurry, so, we'll see.
I know that's not a good reason to want/have another child...but the fact that it didn't work out for me this time just makes me want to leave that door open a little while longer. Maybe in a couple of years I'll get some serious baby fever again and I'll talk him into just one more...in the meantime, the possibility of that, as well as looking at my beautiful daughter, is what is keeping me sane.
I have no desire to be pregnant anytime soon. That said, I will not be upset or devastated if we find ourselves expecting again in the next few years. I know I will likely go through the next year with no problem preventing, but I usually get pregnant around 13 or 18 months postpartum. I really do need a few years without being pregnant. I've done this 7 times in the last 13 years.
yep! I'm ready to have about 10 more... we keep saying if we'd known it could be this enjoyable we'd have a dozen or so.
But dh had a vasectomy earlier this year so we're done... and I think I'm okay with that. I think my desire is largely hormones. After ds1 I didn't think I wanted any more kids ever... it was only after I had a m/c after an unintended pregnancy that I realized I wanted another child. This time it's so different, so much easier I keep thinking I'd like to do it a again.
oh my - definitely want more. But defininately not yet!!!!!
I was feeling a little nauseated the other night after dinner and my dh jokingly said "maybe you're pregnant!". I was not at all amused and I let him know it!
We joke about having 11 so we have enough for a soccer team (well, that's dh's joke. I know nothing about soccer!). We certainly want more, but I need a little more time to forget the pain of those darn contractions and get more than 3 hours a sleep at a time. Then I'll start thinking about it.
Originally Posted by Talula Fairie
You seemed so serene in labor!
I was 1000x louder -esp when pushing the baby out- and I still wouldn't describe the pain as horrendous. But I guess everyone is different. For me it was only really really bad for the last 10 or so minutes.
Loud does not equal serene There was a good half hour or hour where I was walking out the door to get an epidural. I even told them to call an ambulance. I really do think I am going to not have a homebirth next time. I think trying it out 2 times was enough. I thought the second time would be much faster and easier, and it was faster, but the transition was still just like torture. And no, I am not exaggerating. Torture.
Anyways, I don't think I could just stop with two, but how awful would it be to give the first two a nice homebirth and not the next ones? I have thought about it, but I think those future kids would rather be born with an epidural than not born at all. I am waiting to tell dh, this, though.
Dh is great though, and is fine with however many children I choose to have. He mentioned something today to my mom though about us having another by the time Amelia is two, so we'll see...that sounds a little too soon for me.
Another baby, yes, but not right away! Good God, we can barely afford the girl we just had! But I do want another shot at home birth after the one I'd planned got scrapped since the little bugger kicked out the water sac.
Originally Posted by Spring Sun
Loud does not equal serene There was a good half hour or hour where I was walking out the door to get an epidural. I even told them to call an ambulance. I really do think I am going to not have a homebirth next time. I think trying it out 2 times was enough. I thought the second time would be much faster and easier, and it was faster, but the transition was still just like torture. And no, I am not exaggerating. Torture.
Anyways, I don't think I could just stop with two, but how awful would it be to give the first two a nice homebirth and not the next ones? I have thought about it, but I think those future kids would rather be born with an epidural than not born at all. I am waiting to tell dh, this, though.
Dh is great though, and is fine with however many children I choose to have. He mentioned something today to my mom though about us having another by the time Amelia is two, so we'll see...that sounds a little too soon for me.
I had a hard one, although some of the earlier I have pretty much totally forgotten. W/ Ellery it was horrendous painful, which blew me away b/c pushing was always better for me. I was actually figuring how long it would take for an ambulance to get me and take me to hospital. We are rural and it would have been a long time. I screamed, I said bad words, dh was so surprised, not prepared for that and did not help at all. I had not reacted like that before. It took time to get over it and thankfully my next was super easy. Give it time mama. If you decide a hospital birth is for you next time then so be it. Although, when I think of the option of pain relief lots of other crap comes w/ an epidural and a hospital birth, always been the deterrent for me, plus I am too much of a control freak
Eventually, but that was my answer before Peter came along too. I've always expected that I would have a house full of children. I hope not to have my third for a few more years (and preferably not at the end of the summer....).
I loved the way my pregnant belly feels, and I love the way I look when pregnant...but I have to say, I do not miss being pregnant. I really can't think of one positive thing about my third pregnancy (except the end result, of course). Even the baby kicks sucked because this baby is freakishly strong and hates being confined so she pushed so hard she'd bruise me. I'm just, yeah. I think I really am done. I'm a little sad to think that stage of my life is ending forever, but also relieved.
Originally Posted by Spring Sun
Loud does not equal serene There was a good half hour or hour where I was walking out the door to get an epidural. I even told them to call an ambulance. I really do think I am going to not have a homebirth next time. I think trying it out 2 times was enough. I thought the second time would be much faster and easier, and it was faster, but the transition was still just like torture. And no, I am not exaggerating. Torture.
Anyways, I don't think I could just stop with two, but how awful would it be to give the first two a nice homebirth and not the next ones? I have thought about it, but I think those future kids would rather be born with an epidural than not born at all. I am waiting to tell dh, this, though.
Dh is great though, and is fine with however many children I choose to have. He mentioned something today to my mom though about us having another by the time Amelia is two, so we'll see...that sounds a little too soon for me.
Huh. Well I've done it both ways and I much prefer the natural way. But, I am one of those people for whom transition is about 20 minutes tops. Maybe I'd feel differently if it was hours worth of contractions like that. Still, it was so much more ...relaxing to be in my own house vs the hospital, like by a million times over. And honestly I was in just as much pain with #1 and I had the epidural. Plus, all my babies that I birthed on my back with an epi were OP, and this one was LOA. Trust me when I say the recovery from an OP birth is horrible. This recovery was a thousand times easier.
I loved having a homebirth so much I almost want to have another child just to do it again. ALMOST. I'm not saying epidurals are evil or anything like that, I'm just saying you may not be happier with your birth if you get one next time.
I highly recommend 3 years spacing between kids at minimum. ASK ME HOW I KNOW.
Ya know, I think I'm actually done now. We talk about a possible fourth, but I loathe being pregnant and have bad blood pressure problems that make it impossible for me to feel even remotely human during pregnancy. Not to mention 3 stupid c/s to recover from. Ugh. No thanks, no thanks, no thanks!
That said, I have a weakness for 1-year-olds that always makes me want another (hence why my kids are all about 22 months apart). We'll see how it goes next summer when DS gets really cute and fun. But I'm not about to forget how sucky pregnancy is!
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