DH is great with the baby. He changes diapers, knows how to hold him, sings, sways, babywears, we cosleep. Cormac likes him very much- from my lap. But when DH tries to hold him, Cormac immediately starts to cry. The lower lip pokes out, and tears start running right away!
This just started a couple of weeks ago. Before that, he was content to be held by anyone at all. We've tried giving it a while to see if he'll settle down, but Cormac will scream bloody murder the entire time. I make sure he's fed & happy before I hand him over, but it doesn't matter. I mean, if DH holds him for 45 minutes while I get the other kids to bed, the child will be hysterical that entire time without pause. So now, unless I just really need a break and want to cook or eat my breakfast or shower without holding Cormac, I take him back from DH when he's screaming.
Oddly, I can leave him on the floor on a blanket, and he will usually be quite happy there for a few minutes while I take care of things that are hard to do while holding him (like put on makeup). So he would rather lie on the floor than be held by DH. He will also usually go to my 2 close girlfriends without crying! wtf.
Our older ds (now 5) also cried like this, except he wouldn't ever go to anybody, not just DH. He STRONGLY preferred me for 4 YEARS! He was just plain rude to DH and it nearly drove DH crazy- all he wanted was to love and be loved by our boy, and it took that long for them to develop a happy relationship. I can't handle it if it's like that with Cormac too!
So far DH is keeping it together, being really calm and OK about the whole thing. But the rejection has got to hurt, especially when he saw Cormac being held by my friend last night. What can I do!!!
Tallulah Dare 8-01, Marcos Gael 12-04, Cormac Mateo 9-09, Leonidas Ronan 11-11