I freaked out. The baby is fine ... but now I won't let DH go near the baby - which isn't helping me - or them ... but C'Mon ... there is a bed right next to this rocking chair.
I have been screaming at DH all day ... anyone want to try and help me shift my anger - so I can stop punishing DH. I know these things happen ... but all I can seem to say is IDIOT and MORON.
Seriously. This could happen to anyone. If he's generally attentive and careful, you're only building walls between the two of you and between DH and DC. Do you really want DH to be afraid of holding DC?
My brother did this the night his son came home from the hospital. Was rocking the baby to sleep after nursing, fell asleep himself, and baby dropped. He's a great father.
My family: me , dh , ds (11), dd1 (9), and dd2 (3).
Tout va s'arranger à la fin. Si elle ne fonctionne pas; ce n'est pas la fin.
You need to sleep because the way you are acting is how I can act from sleep deprivation, and its not nice and you are unable to think clearly. Tell him you're sorry and give him the LO back.
Mama, gently, you need to get some rest and move on. Baby is OK, daddy feels HORRIBLE, and while I understand the protective instinct, attacking him is not going to help any of the relationships in the house.
Write it out on paper and then tear it up and throw it away, shout it into a pillow in a room by yourself, find some way to get it out one more time that doesn't involve directing it towards him, and then let it go.
As the one on the other end of the anger, I can only say that it's not at all helpful. It shifts the situation from its rightful place ("is she ok?") to something that is not useful ("it's all your fault, I can't trust you ever again").
Honestly, if the SAME THING happened again (he falls asleep and drops the baby) I'd be pissed because he didn't learn from it. Also I'd be horrified and distrustful if he didn't seem to feel bad at all about it. But if you've got a man who was concerned about the baby and seems to have learned his lesson, the only thing your anger is going to serve is to drive you two apart.
Homeschooling mama to 6 year old DD.
All 3 of our children have "gotten away" from us at some point in the past. Sleep deprivation is so hard in those early months. I totally understand your anger mama, but daddy feels horrible and its time to apologize and hand the baby back. Accidents happen, you will have your fair share of duh moments too. Promise.
seriously, too much nagging and some of these dudes will just shut down and drop out and you'll be taking care of the babe singlehandedly until they go off to college. i see it with my SIL. her DH can do nothing right and she's now basically raising 5 kids alone.
obviously safety issues are different...sorry this happened to you...must have been scary...but i agree with the other posts too. could have been anyone.
I'm glad your baby is okay and if this is the worst thing that ever happens to him, he's a very lucky little guy indeed. He'll be fine. Give him to your husband and take a break.
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I was nursing my baby in transit, and I went to go open the back door to let the dogs in the house (they were barking in the yard) and I opened the door right into the back of her head.
She had a good wail for a few minutes (I joined her!), but she's fine. Didn't even leave a mark
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if its happened with both children in the same chair i would get rid of the chair personally.
maybe he will hold baby in bed then and it would be safer.
blame it on the chair, not the daddy, that way there is less tension between you.
hugs, i've been there, it sucks!
Unless it's a pattern (not like two babies, same chair, 5 years apart; but like not attending to the 5 year old and accidents always happen on his watch), I wouldn't sweat it. It happens.
p.s. EviesMom - neighbor!!! Are you in the mood for a "homeschooling in NYC" chat? I have years to go, but it is very interesting, and would love to talk to an experienced mama about it!