Any commiseration or words of wisdom?
So, IOW, cramping and spotting (as well as symptoms subsiding) are signs that either everything is fine or it isn't. Unfortunately, there's no way to tell how it's going to turn out other than waiting and seeing.
When I got pg the second time (the m/c was my first pg), I realized that all the worrying and stressing and fear that I went through the first time (much of it well in advance of the actual m/c) hadn't helped at all when I lost the baby. I *never* thought to myself, "Wow, it's so lucky that I've been worrying that this might happen! It's so much easier to cope with this way." Instead, the m/c was just as bad, and the time I had spent worrying had just deprived me of the happiness I could have had while things were going well.
Basically, I try (although I frequently fail and end up worrying anyway ) to think of it this way: If a few weeks of pregnancy is all the life this baby will get, I want those weeks to be spent in an atmosphere of love and happiness. I feel like that's the best way for me to honor this baby, in case he/she doesn't make it, and if everything does go well, then there's no need for all the stress anyway.
I am actually not a big worrier--I think it was instincts talking, things worsened after I posted. I probably had an mc, and even in the luckiest scenario would have had at least a threatened mc. We'll see. Ultimately with the way this has felt all along I feel that whatever happens will be right, but some rights I would have far preferred over others.
I had some spotting last week (when AF was due) and I'm trying to remind myself that during the m/c, I had NO spotting. For all of my other pgs (4) I had early spotting, so I'm hoping its normal for me. I also spotted during OV this time, another thing I DIDN"T have happen for Zoe's pg.
So, maybe this is your body's version of 'normal.' Hoping for the best for you!
Jen-loving Bill, mama to Teryn 18, Kalyn 16, Ricky 13, Natalie 5, Angel Zoe '07 and Amelia Rae 22 mos bonus kids (dss) W 14, W 13 NEW grandbaby due 10/10/11
So lay down, take it easy, and call your OB or MW.
And baby, stay in there! It's too early, let your mama buy you some some clothes first or you'll get cold!
I have also been spotting since Saturday (Valentine's day - what a gift ). I have an u/s scheduled for Friday, and I'm expecting bad news.
Wife to J. Mama to DD(9yo) & DS(6yo).
I have spotted and cramped with my DS, then I has a M/C then cramped with DDs, then this time spotting and cramping again (u/s was great though). It's hard not to worry but as long as you aren't bleeding red it's not a huge cause for concern. My thoughts are with you!
Charlize, married to DH 4/12/04. Mom to DD1 (4/2005) , DD2 (3/2007) , and DD3 (10/2009) , and DD4 (6/2011) .
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