My son (2) has been sick and vomitting for a week. So now, I find myself discounting what I thought was morning sickness as this virus. We actually had to take himi to the ER on Sunday because he was so dehydrated. Poor little guy needed an IV and fluids and it was just a mess. He's doing better now. DD (4) got sick too, but not nearly as bad and she seems to be on the mend also.
My DH I think is running for sainthood. He was up everynight with them, got no sleep and managed to keep laundry flowing. He hasn't been feeling well either, but hasn't actually gotten the bug. He also has managed to keep me hydrated with various drinks and fed with random foods. What I can eat one day makes me gag the next, and I have NO idea what I want to eat (really I want NOTHING to eat, but the hungrier I get the worse I feel).
DH wants to get a vasectomy while we're pg. We've had 8 m/c. With each one a little piece of me dies. With my DD I was sick until about 16 weeks and lost about 30 pounds (weight I needed to lose, but doing it while pregnant not so good). With DS I was sick until I gave birth. I again lost about 30 pounds. Each time, DH has been a trooper. He has done what he could to keep our house together, help me, and help the kids. It is really soooo hard on him. I always thought I wanted a big family, but I feel selfish for wanting to have more with how sick I get. I don't even know if I want to have more now. I can't tell if I'm holding on to an old and outdated dream or if it's truly what I want. I love giving birth, but I hate being pregnant. So, I'm reading about urologists in our area and vasectomies in general. There are some super scary websites out there that seem to have outdated info/studies, and not a whole lot else. It seems like for every site that says NO VASECTOMIES... EVIL, there is another that says Vasectomies are wonderful with no ill effects!
On a seperate note, it seems my father thinks I'm a complete loser. My husband was laid off in March of last year. He's had some odd jobs here and there, but no real offers of permanent employment (which it turns out now is a good thing because of this pg). I (which is now "we" or even mostly DH) do childcare. We do 3 kids part time. It pays our rent and little else. We have a MEAP grant for our electric bill and get WIC and a small amount of Food Stamps. We live pretty frugally. We don't ask them for money. When my father found out I was pregnant (by accident from my daughter) he said, "I want to say congratulations, but I want someone to get a job." Because the childcare I provide is what? A hobby? Not work? Hello?!
This pg was NOT planned. We were CTA, and I missed something, obviously. We had plans to have another one in 3-4 years, but now we were both focusing on education and other things. That doesn't mean it was an accident, or unwanted. It's taking some time to adjust to the idea, and at the same time, we want NOT to adjust to the idea to protect our broken hearts.
I'm just so overwhelmed, and needed to vent.
And this time its odd to not want my hopes up, and at the same time I'm feeling overwhelmed and shocked that I'm pregnant in the first place. LOL
And we're white trash too. LOL I'm not even telling my family. Hell, they don't even know my last two children anyway.
Vent all you want.
Autistic pagan mama with five kiddos on the spectrum, learning through living life.
It sure sounds to me like you've got morning sickness. And like you have a job I hope all goes well for you. :
We're planning/thinking about a vasectomy when we're done with having kids, too, but I haven't done ANY research as we are potentially wanting 3 (although I have spent the past several weeks thinking that I would be INSANE to do this again) so it's a ways off.
I find it is always good to remember that during these crazy stressfull times of uncertainty, that our pregnancy hormones just make the emotions so much more "there" than they would be normally.
Everything seems that much worse.
I don't know if it's in budget but i've found doubling my prenatal vitamin helps or at least just making sure i'm getting enough B12 in my system.
Sounds like your husband is not lazy and is working very hard at the moment....the right job will come along in time. As long as your not letting yourself get into piles of debt I don't think it's the worst thing in the world. Hopefully once you get back on your feet health wise something will come up for him!
Tricia, married to DH. 2MC's & 4 yrs ttc...finally mom to Andrew6/06 and Benjamin 10/09. Adopted bro & sis 2002. My 2 fav. words: Spay and Neuter! I'm an Ultimate Viewer, 2010!
We also won't be telling our families, because of the m/c and because we just don't need anyone else being hard on us. We're bad enough on ourselves, what with being scared and just trying to hold on. If it helps, please vent more. I'm sure you won't be alone! I just vent more on the PAL thread because I don't want to scare some of the new moms here.
Jen-loving Bill, mama to Teryn 18, Kalyn 16, Ricky 13, Natalie 5, Angel Zoe '07 and Amelia Rae 22 mos bonus kids (dss) W 14, W 13 NEW grandbaby due 10/10/11
that sounds like a lot to handle
you guys must be saints to do in-home childcare. i know it would drive me bonkers!
i told my mom today--to her credit, she didn't cry or freak out too badly. but yeah....it wasn't that long ago that we were on housing assistance and food stamps, and as an only child of two only children, my parents not only think we're financially irresponsible, but probably certifiably insane as well
whatever--the universe is on our side!
Freethinking Earth-mama of five.
Hang in there, it's wonderful how things work out and ppl adjust. Hope this one is your sticky baby. Try to relax and get some rest
Mommy to Kai 2/03, Caden 1/08, Kara 10/09, 3/21/13, &
Cole 2/3/14 ♡ Happily unmarried to Papa since 2002 ♡
~We may not have it all together ♥ but together we have it all~