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#1 of 14 Old 12-20-2009, 09:00 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My birthday is next week, and I'll be 43.

We thought our family would be complete when Mr. Wonderful was born. And realistically, I think it really is and should be. But I've been daydreaming about one more. Normally, I wouldn't even consider ttc until my db was 15 months or so, but if I really am to do this I'd have to start hoping for a much earlier return of fertility than I have experienced in years past. Which is, of course, unlikely especially at my age.

This is, I'm sure, just a passing fancy brought on by my birthday. Right?

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I don't know. I'm 32 and already have 5 and even though DH had a vasectomy in October I find myself daydreaming about another as though it is even possible. Right now if I magically became pregnant, I wouldn't be sad. This is why is was important that DH had his vasectomy promptly after Bridget was born.

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my birthday is wednesday and i'll be 36 and if i could, i'd have 10 more! have a great bday suzie!!!

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You're not crazy. I'm already dreaming about another one and the dust is just starting to settle around here. I think I need to be realistic though. We just don't have space or time for another baby. Maybe in a few years. And maybe in a few years I'll be glad to just chill and help my little ones grow and be ready to let the dream go. After all, this phase in our lives can't last forever. Kinda wish it could though!

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i don't know...
my youngest aunt and uncle are only 14 months apart and my grandmother was in her mid 40s when she had them...was in her mid 30s with her first and had 8.

unlike her, i am 38 with 2 and done

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I think there's something about having a newborn that makes you susceptible to wanting more. I think it's hormonal. I also find myself thinking that I am supposed to want to get pg, or be trying, now that my cycle is sputtering back to normal. maybe b/c it took me so long to have it happen for this baby, it's habit to be trying.
But, I want to cherish Roslyn alone for a long time. I could NOT handle pregnancy (ms, etc.) with an infant, or having a newborn with a 1 year old. and I don't think it'd be fair to either of them.
and then to try to sleep while BF'ing 2 babies? forget it!!!
but I certainly understand and feel the temptation...
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My midwife who is in her fifties said that she still has the urge, and it never goes away...you just have to be realistic about how many kids you can handle. Personally, i could handle ten more newborns.....but maybe not ten more three year olds...and then there is childcare, summer camp that they want to go to, never being able to go on a plane EVER AGAIN, and the big C word (college) , and I realize that if I had any more babies it would really strain our family, as well as our wallet.....I WORK AT A CO-OP!!! ONLY SO MUCH INCOME I WILL GET!! SO I look at my lil babe and say "this is the last one" ....SO sad. I suppose it is not written in stone 'til DH gets snipped. There is something so special about little new babies that just make sme want to have many, many more. 3 is enough for us though.
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I'm 44 as of yesterday and am also hoping for another already even though dd is fussy. yeah I'd say it never goes away.

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I'm 44 as of yesterday and am also hoping for another already even though dd is fussy. yeah I'd say it never goes away.
Good to know!

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Wanted to add that ds's preschool teacher, who was near 50, still dreamed of another and her oldest was in college (and youngest was in high school).

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I'm totally with you ladies. I want another one, but my DH got snipped a couple of weeks ago, so it isn't going to be happening for me. There's part of me that fantasizes that maybe I could have gotten in the time before the vasectomey, but I know it's terribly unlikely. However, I am still holding out hope that we will adopt some day, so maybe no more babies, but still another child in another way. Really, I'll be just as happy if that's what happens, but it's so weird to think that I can't get knocked up ever again.

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I think it's pretty common. We're definitely done now, (Sydney is #3) and I'm really excited about this being the end of our baby days because it's been so wonderful to have little children. I have no regrets about only having three and DH is totally on board too. That said, I've recently found out three of my friends are PG and there is a part of me that day dreams about that a little bit. I don't ever want to be PG again, but it's hard not to think of it when a lot of folks around you are PG.

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my birthday is wednesday and i'll be 36 and if i could, i'd have 10 more! have a great bday suzie!!!
My birthday is the 16th & I'll also be 36!

Suziek, what day exactly is your bday?

I too have 5 now, & regularly fantasize about baby #6. I think 6 is such a lovely number of kids. But I'll probably say that about the number 7 after we have #6...... But, I NEVER ever want to tandem nurse EVER ever again! So, I won't be getting pregnant until at least halfway through 2011.

So suziek, I'm sorry but I'm not much help at reassuring you that this is just a passing fancy. I love having babies. You should have another! Forty three is NOT too old!

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we want to adopt too, maybe in 5 years or so. this is our first baby, and I'm 39. I really wanted my own baby, but we want to help a baby/child that already exists without a family as well. so, I greatly doubt we'll have another of our own, but probably we'll have another child join our family.
I can't imagine being pregnant or having a newborn with a toddler. or rather I can imagine it and it would be miserable for everyone!
We'll wait and see if Roslyn is an only child type, or if she wants/needs a sibling...

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I'm totally with you ladies. I want another one, but my DH got snipped a couple of weeks ago, so it isn't going to be happening for me. There's part of me that fantasizes that maybe I could have gotten in the time before the vasectomey, but I know it's terribly unlikely. However, I am still holding out hope that we will adopt some day, so maybe no more babies, but still another child in another way. Really, I'll be just as happy if that's what happens, but it's so weird to think that I can't get knocked up ever again.
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