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#1 of 18 Old 06-12-2009, 02:34 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Yes, I was actually asked that today when I answered that I am indeed pregnant and not just refusing to do sit ups.
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ETA: I will clarify as my post appears confusing to some.

A mom at my kids' school asked if I was pregnant. (she knows I already have three kids)
I said smiling and patting the belly, "yeah, it's not just a lack of sit ups."
She asked, "So, is it a religious thing?" meaning having lots of kids.

this is the first time anyone has said anything that could be interpreted as negative about my having a fourth.

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What the hell does that mean? Is there some religion that prohibits sit-ups. If so, I know a lot of high school classmates that would have converted had they known.

-Or, is the pregnancy a religious thing?

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I'm confused where religion comes into play with your "choosing" not to do situps. I'm sure my mother would like to join that religion

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Huh? Religious to be pregnant? Odd...
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How many kids do you have? People seem to think it's their perogotive to say something after you have two kids. It's bizarre, really.

I spoke to a mama with a young baby who is expecting #2 and I congratulated her and she said "Thank you. You are the only person who didn't act shocked and disgusted." How sad.
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Thats wierd.

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I don't understand. Did she mean not doing situps while pregnant?

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How many kids do you have? People seem to think it's their perogotive to say something after you have two kids. It's bizarre, really.

I spoke to a mama with a young baby who is expecting #2 and I congratulated her and she said "Thank you. You are the only person who didn't act shocked and disgusted." How sad.
three so far.

The comment I got was the first one that was even remotely negative and large families really stick out here.

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Wow. Rude.

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too bad you couldnt quip back, no its a sex thing. might have made them think twice next time.

some people just cant help themselves.
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too bad you couldnt quip back, no its a sex thing.


Perfect!

A religious thing? Really, sometimes I want to ask people, "Did you really mean for that to come out of your mouth?"

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too bad you couldnt quip back, no its a sex thing. might have made them think twice next time.

some people just cant help themselves.
Well... there are times when it's pretty close to a religious experience!

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too bad you couldnt quip back, no its a sex thing.
You are crackin' me up! I'm going to have to remember that one!!

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My sil has 5 kids and she was applauded by a man at the grocery store....she got more harrassing comments when she had 3!?!?

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I have pretty much stopped telling people because of the comments, save for a few great ones. If they find out, that's one thing (the opportunity isn't there for something rude), but if I TELL them it's almost like an open invitation to say something rude.

My standbys for something like that inane question: act stupid/confused ("What do you mean?) but if it's a rude comment, then I'd say, "Nah, you're just supposed to say congratulations."

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DDC crashing, but I just have to add that if someone asked me that I would be very tempted to say "Huh, now that you mention it, I was saying 'oh God, oh God' alot!" :

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People say all kinds of weird things to you when you are pregnant.. Maybe you should have said, "yeah actually it is a religious thing, I am trying to populate the world with intelligent kind people not judgmental idiots, there are too many of those around." lol

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