Ok, please enlightenment. Are you saying there is some connection between vasectomy and autoimmune diseases???
This is our third and DH is planning to get one sometime after the birth. I didn't get fertile again with the last baby until 22 months, though.
Just a quick google brought up a few websites, but I'm not sure how reliable they are since I did my research on this several years ago and was a little more careful about getting unbiased sources as much as possible. But the bottom line is that I just can't "let" my husband do anything to his body that even has the slightest chance of causing an autoimmune issue - I've seen first hand with my mom and her RA what can happen to a person and I just can't risk it - no matter how small the risk.
Mama to Kayleigh (6), Ethan (4), Norah (1), & Charlotte coming 11.09
I tried the pill and shot a few times with no luck and swore I would never use a hormonal method again. However, I did use the nuvaring for a few months after a miscarriage because I was so freaked out about the idea of a pregnancy and I didn't mind it. That's definitely out because of nursing/supply concerns and I know that we'd like another one so we're okay with a baby sooner than "planned".
My Mom didn't get her cycles back until a few months until after nursing ended (and we all nursed passed a year and a half), so I'm half-expecting that as well.
Glenn 11*09 Joe 4*04 Me & Hubby
It's hard to figure out what is the best method of BC, when really, our bodies are designed for optimum fertility, so anything we do to interfere with that can have unpleasant consequences....sigh. I want to be all natural and take the best care of my body, but charting/NFP etc just aren't going to cut it for us... :
Freethinking Earth-mama of five.
If you're interested in fertility awareness, read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. This method works IF YOU FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS EXACTLY. Example: There is a rule that as long as you had a thermal shift 12-16 days before, you are safe the first 5 days of the next cycle. The baby I am pregnant with was conceived from unprotected sex on Day 6. However, we had been using this method off and on, mostly on, for 7 years and only had one child and she was planned.
Mommy to (age 9) and (age 5)
NFP- have used the whole time and my kids woke several times anight until they were about 2 and none of my babies have been accident. Last time I mostly just did mucus and same w/ second time, works for us.
I highly recommend taking a class and getting started with a consultant. I learned a lot more quickly and asked questions right away and my husband learned it at the same time, it was great. Catholic Charities does these for free in my area and they offer them to anyone. (I am not Catholic).
I learned so much more about my own body and appreciated the way it encourages couples to make the decision together each month around ovulation time (do we want a child now or not and then act accordingly, ); that took a lot of pressure off of me to feel like I was putting my husband out or something.
I also liked how there was a recommended time to bond doing non-sexual things (good for our relationship) during the time we could conceive but were choosing not to. I know it's more than most couples bargain for (most are usually just looking for that thing that will keep pregnancy away), but it looks at a marriage or relationship holistically, really. There are lots of benefits, beyond just avoiding pregnancy. Can ya tell I am a big Fan?
If you read about the method they teach, it's as effective as any other method of contraception, and can be used to achieve as well as avoid pregnancy. It worked and still works great for us.
Here's the website. <LINK>
Mama to DS (10), DS (8), DS (5), DD (3), & DD (6 months).
Lucky Wife to My Techy DH for 11 years.
We Homebirth, Full-term Breastfeeding,
Connection Parenting, Life Learning, our LDS faith.
I think it's a great solution, as we definitely only want two. I'm glad he's on board!
If I feel like the kiddo isn't nursing as much, it'll be condoms until 18 months
I would potentially consider IUD, too, in the future. Just not now for me.
My dh and I have discussed my tubes getting tied, but I don't want anything else messed around with. I know it sounds silly, but if I have endo after the LO is born, my tubes or something is going to go anyway.
I asked my dh to get himself the big V and he's not to thrilled about it. I'm not sure why when he insists this is the last child.
I did Fertility Awareness at first to chart when the endo was bad in regards to ovulatating. So when I was told 6 months or else, I charted and conceived around Valentine's Day. Could I do this until menopause? I don't know.
We're still going around the issue, but my ever vocal extended family (my side, not his) wants me to get my tubes tied because that's what they did. To have that kind of nosiness around, I feel like have 3 more kids just to spite them.