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Seriously, WHAT THE IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE????

I picked a name last night that I was SUPER excited about. I was going to try and keep it a secret until she got here, but I suck at that. Big time. I didn't even wait to tell, say, my mom, or someone important; I told people at work. My bad I suppose.

So I told three people. The first two were like "OMG it's the best one yet!" (I may have previously coached them on how dumb it is to ever say "ewwwwww" since my kid could end up named that.) The third?

3rd coworker: "Oh my GOD...WHY would you do that to your child? That's a BOYS name! You're not SERIOUS are you?"

Me:

I told him he was grounded from speaking to me, and that it was probably going to be her name so he should just deal with it. And now I'm because I'm not sure if I should scrap the name altogether, keep it but not tell anyone, or start telling the world.

I hate naming babies.

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People can be really oblivious.

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And now I'm because I'm not sure if I should scrap the name altogether, keep it but not tell anyone, or start telling the world.
Keep the name, and forget what other people say. There will always be someone who won't like a particular name. That's why we are not telling, because I don't want to deal with all the "how could you" crap. If you feel you want to tell, just be ready, that there are rude idiots around, who think there opinion matters.

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You get to push the baby out of your private parts so you get exclusive naming rights. I wouldn't worry about what other peoples' thoughts are- once she's here that's who she'll be and people will love her for being her.

I'm dying to know what this perfect name is!
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I have a girl with boy names. Morgan Reese. Well they are starting to be either or. But Its your baby's name and as long as it's not some bizarre name that your daughter will be ridiculed for, I think you should just ignore what other people say.


Just a side note, there have been many studies about gender discrimination based on names...so you'll actually do your girl a favor by giving her a more masculine name.

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Just a side note, there have been many studies about gender discrimination based on names...so you'll actually do your girl a favor by giving her a more masculine name.
Ha - this was my fight about Ryan. On a resume, they'd think she was a boy. Super crappy, but could land her an interview if they were on the fence.

The super name is Quinn Taylor.

Turns out Quinn is more a boys name than a girls name - it was 280 for boys last year and 516 for girls: http://www.ssa.gov/OACT/babynames/.

I was so excited about it because it's not that common, which is important to me. Also, it's Irish (BD and I are both Irish/German). And it means "counsel" which can translate to "deliberate and purposeful" - two things which I am absolutely not and I hope she will be better at.

Taylor is the name of a town both my parents grew up in and that I lived in until I was 6. I have extended family on both sides still there; I think my Aunt is on the city council. Since LO and I are 2000 miles away, I thought this was a fitting way to honor the whole family by the name, but it's way too common (for me) for a first name.

3rd coworker is significantly older than me and started singing about Quinn the Eskimo.

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Don't know who Quinn the Eskimo is, but I think your name is fantastic. Quinn does not automatically sound like a boy name to me, though we do know one Quinn and he happens to be a boy. And Taylor is definitely not a strictly boys' name either. I would stick with the whole name, but you could always try and give a more feminine middle name that dd could choose to go by if she didn't like Quinn.
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I like it. Only association for me is Dr. Quinn, and she was a woman
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It is totally a gender neutral name!

We loved it and it just happens to be DS's middle name.

When we found out we were pg again, DH was like "Darn. Why did we use Quinn as a middle name already? We should have totally saved it for a first name for the new baby whether it's a boy or girl."

So there.

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I like your first plan about waiting till the baby is born and then deciding on the name ... you had some good names and reasonings for them on the list!



and oh yea .... stupid coworker!

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Aww...I think it is an AWESOME name! I have known both boy and girl Quinns and their names have suited them perfectly.

As for the song, I have really nice associations being a camp counselor to a special-needs boy named Quinn who derived great pride and power from singing "The *Mighty* Quinn." Brings a smile to my face!

And as for anyone who dares comment on your choice of name--beware! This has been a pet peeve of mine this pregnancy (as mama to future River). What could be more rude? How is it anyone's place to comment? I have ceased being polite to anyone who chooses to question or ridicule my son's name.
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Thankfully, we've had nothing but good responses regarding our baby's name - Gabriel - and mostly good regarding the middle name - Lucas (it's because it's a family name and part of the family is against the part of the family we are honoring -oh well)

that said, Quinn is defo gender neutral could go either way, and Taylor, well, the most popular Taylor I know is a girl, Taylor Swift.

I say, if 2 out of 3 were good, don't let the naysayer change your mind!

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I considered Quinn for a while for this baby and its a girl. I ended up deciding on Lennon, which I have gotten a few negative respones too. I know its considered a boys name but since I have never met anyone with the name I'll use it however I want. I think you should stick with Quinn its really pretty!

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people are dumb.

I love Taylor. Quinn doesnt do anything for me, but I dont hate it or think its too 'boyish"
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Keep it.

I don't know who Quinn the Eskimo is either...
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"Quinn the Eskimo" is a song written by Bob Dylan (although I think "pop-ier" covers were made famous by Manfred Mann and The Hollies).

Here's a link...I dare you not to start dancing! Heck, I'm thinking of changing my baby's name to Quinn now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1l1yG6-CbFA
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I love the name Quinn!

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3rd coworker is significantly older than me and started singing about Quinn the Eskimo.
Wow, that's insulting, and she's really reaching since most people would only know that song by the title of The Mighty Quinn. Eskimo is considered a pejorative term now, for people, at least, in some parts of the world.

My first familiarity with the name Quinn was from the actress Quinn Cummings who was in that 70s show, Family. But apparently she also created her own baby carrier, the Hiphugger Baby Sling.
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People need to learn to hold their tongue!

I've resorted to telling people we haven't decided yet...which is partly true and partly because I don't want to listen to people's remarks...

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Ha - this was my fight about Ryan. On a resume, they'd think she was a boy. Super crappy, but could land her an interview if they were on the fence.

The super name is Quinn Taylor.
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I was so excited about it because it's not that common, which is important to me. Also, it's Irish (BD and I are both Irish/German). And it means "counsel" .
Appropriate name for a lawyer's child! Also, I just heard a story on NPR about how statistically, women with masculine names are 5 times more likely to be successful and well-paid (especially in law and medicine) than women named femmy things (here's a link to an online report). So, Quinn will make more money than Lily or Ophelia. Not sure if you want her to be a lawyer or if it applies to all fields, but there it is...

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I don't have any strong feelings either way but it is a bit too close to quim. Which may or may not be an issue where you live.

If I were to use a unisex name I'd maybe add in an obviously girl/boy middle name.
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We ran into the same problem. We liked the name Kieran for a boy. My mom said "Karen's a GIRL'S NAME!" (she happens to pronounce Karen like Kieran). Then we liked Donal. My stepfather said "you are NOT naming my grandson that!" Whatever. The next time I saw them, they asked me about names and I said "if we do, I will not be telling you because you both have something to say about every name we pick!"

So if we do choose one before the baby is born, we are not telling anyone!

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I don't have any strong feelings either way but it is a bit too close to quim. Which may or may not be an issue where you live.
ing: I had never heard that term before. Professor Google just schooled me.

WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SO HARD??????

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Quinn is my SIL's name, so I think it's fine. As someone who has chosen very specific and unusual ethnic names for her children, I think you need to pick what you like and tell everybody else to go to hell.

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I grew up in Taylor too

I think it's a great name, and I see Quinn as a girl's name. I agree with the first two people, it's the best name yet

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I have a good friend who named her baby girl Quinn last year. It's adorable, especially because they have an Irish last name, too.

I love the name and don't think it's a "boys" name at all.
I say use it! It's beautiful and unique.
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I love it! It was on my short list but DH nixed it.
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I love that name! It's awesome

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if you like the name you should keep it. not everyone is going to like the name you pick unfortunately. me and my DH have this little guys name picked out, i told everyone and they were just like 'ok...', but then i told my step mom's, mom, and she went as far as to crinkle her nose and say "seriously?...", and then, "well i guess it's not AS BAD as that celebrity that named her kid apple".

i don't think many people like the name me and DH picked, but whatever, it's a great name! screw everyone else

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I didn't even know that Quinn would ever be used as a boy name I have only met females with that name! I think it is wonderful! Go for it and do not let anyone sway you one way or the other. This is your baby not theirs!!!!

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You get to push the baby out of your private parts so you get exclusive naming rights. I wouldn't worry about what other peoples' thoughts are- once she's here that's who she'll be and people will love her for being her.
So the dad should be left out of it?
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Quinn Taylor is a fine name. It's not a name that's so far out there, like K-aa (my fiance met a woman with that name, pronouced Ki-dash-uh, and she HATED it), or half the celeb baby names, that it'll attract negative attention. And it's not a blatant guy name, like David or Christopher. It may not be everyone's first choice or favorite, but it's a normal name that's either the gender of the baby or neutral. So don't worry what others think if you didn't ask.
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