My little ones are dear and I love them, but they are also very talkative kids (especially the 4-year-old) who need lots of attention! I'm very different from my eldest child (she's so extroverted, and I admire that, but I am an introvert...I need that quiet to get focused and energy), and I'm thinking that some of this stress isn't helping.
Does that make sense? Any one else been in this situation?
So, yeah, i do think that focusing on the other kids can hold back labor in some people. Can you get away for a few hours? i guess my advice is to listen to your gut - it sounds like you have that mama-cat "I'm going to go hide in a box, enter at your own risk" feeling starting, so listen if you can.
DH also sometimes stresses me out--I keep telling him if he wants this baby to come on he needs to put out more (he's pretty much scared to DTD with me after about 30+ weeks, whereas I'm RTG all the time) and help me destress/focus around him and the small people!
Can you stay up after everyone else or get up earlier than everyone else and have some focused "you" time?
~Jenni, rural frugal Alaskan, eternally married to Dragon
loving my wild things DS Wolf (12), 3 angels, DS Bear (6) & DS Eagle (3)
So, I called my Mom after that second day (night, rather). I broke down, I knew I needed some help. She came across town (she rarely did this), and fed the two little ones lunch and I relaxed and did my thing, and went into active labor, like, an hour later. I think my body was trying to go into labor but was "aware" that I was in self-preservation mode as I was trying to take care of everyone else. Once that was taken care of, my body was like "finally!" and did the labor thing.
YK, I hadn't thought of all this till I read your question!! I better keep this in mind for this time around, too!
K, to myself after reading what brightonwoman wrote--your mw is a wise woman! b/c my contrx with #3 were at nighttime too (both days of start and stop labor), until my Mom came to help in the afternoon and my labor finally kicked in. Coincidence? Hm, I am starting to think not!
Ooo, so glad this thread was started!
Mama to DS (10), DS (8), DS (5), DD (3), & DD (6 months).
Lucky Wife to My Techy DH for 11 years.
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Hopefully things will get better once DH is home for the weekend -- plus my favorite midwife is on call starting tomorrow night.
Hope things get rolling for you!
I know for a fact once things really get rolling I'll have to have the kids go to my moms if they are awake. There's no way I'll be able to focus on laboring with them around. Lessen learned from last time, for sure.