find out your bishop's score. It's indicative of how ready you are to labor and that can help make a decision on how to proceed. the higher your number the more likely the induction will result in a vaginal birth. (That does not mean however that a low number will result in a c/s.)
Based on my two induction experiences (one for the reasons you're listing and the second for pushing 42w) I recommend the following:
I'd say hold off as long as possible on letting them do AROM. If you're not quite ready to labor, but need to be induced, the baby needs the room to maneuver to get into a good position and you need the cushion the fluid provides. Also, if baby is still riding high, you run the (small) risk of cord prolapse. Also, you're likely to be checked fairly often during your induction unless you refuse; frequent checks raise the risk of infection esp. if your water is broken. (My first indcution had AROM at 1cm; baby dropped quickly into apoor position and got stuck. Second, broken at 8cm and born vaginally 20 mins later.)
the other disadvantage to having your water broken is that it puts you on the clock - either 12 or 24 hrs depending on the hosp/dr.
I'd also say to start with gel if I was too far dilated to use the foley cath. (gel was useless in my first indcution, but wasn't in long enough; never tried foley but hear good things about it) Then go low dose/slow increase pit. (first induction dr cranked pit despite promising to do low dose; second was low dose/slow incr as it was a vba2c labor. worked like a charm,but I wen tin with a high bishop's score) Once labor's established, see if they'll turn off the pit. DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO CRANK THE PIT; it can lead to distress. Make them tell you every time they come to adjust the dose and question them. Is labor established? are you contracting o.k.? Is baby o.k. on the monitor? Have them show you the strip. If all is o.k. then why increase?
Low dose/slow increase pit has been shown to reduce the likelihood of c/s. I forget where I saw the studys (I think ICAN?) but maybe one of the folks here with some google-fu can find it. Also, lower dose/slow increase, IME, gives the body time to build up endorphins. (I never got an epidural for my second induction; had it by 3cm for my first. ...and the dr wondered why the baby got stuck.
In the meantime, soaking in warm baths with epsom salts will help the swelling as will massage. rest rest rest.
Hugs and good luck!