My midwife is 2 hours away so I haven't been checked to know if I've made any progress and I'm not sure I would want to know anymore at this point. (Finding out that this is NOT making any changes would totally deflate me). I'm just...tired. Thinking that this could go on for weeks is making me insane. I have everything ready for the baby, I just finished scrubbing my bath tub and sink with steel wool and I'm about to move the Queen size bed by myself to clean underneath it. I'm running out of distractions.
If these were plain, old BH I could swing this for quite a bit longer...but these contractions wake me up, keep me up and HURT. Has anyone else dealt with this?!
I feel so fragile, I cry at the drop of a hat and I feel like I could sleep in the middle of an intersection if someone handed me a pillow and a blanket.
PLEASE tell me this won't go on forever.
Carolina, tree hugging, animal loving, backyard chicken keeping, Wife to Dh, homeschooling Mama to Ds1(Aug '06) and Ds2 (Nov '09)
The thing that helped me was drinking pedialyte constantly and continuing to eat light. I also took a light muscle relaxer the second night, which didn't stop them but allowed me to doze off in between. My MW recommended drinking a glass of wine or beer, but that's not an option for me, but maybe you could??
Please be strong, you ARE making progress!!
Momma to DD (12/04) and DS (11/09) .
I survived 16 mos! Ask me about breastfeeding a baby with posterior tongue tie, high palate, and weak oral motor skills- whew!
I so feel your pain! I did this with my second and it was not fun. I'd labor all night long, and it would just stop in the morning about 8am. I'd chase my toddler all day long, and then think I was about to get some sleep that night...hello labor pain again. I did this Friday night and Saturday night and Sunday night....
babe was born Monday morning at 4am. I thought I would do this forever. I kept telling myself babies don't fall out. Anyway, my point is when he finally got rockin at around 1am that Monday morning he came in three short hours!!!
I hope your body is getting all the tough work done with these contractions and when things move, they move fast for you! Hope your baby is in your arms soon! Hang in there...
Wife to (08/03), Mom to (10/05) and (11/09).
Can you get a massage or a pedicure at least? a hot bath w/some nice bath salts for relaxation? How about a sitter to watch the LO while you're distracted by all the activity?
I had 2 days/nights of this with my labor with our third son before active labor took hold, and it really threw me for an emotional loop as well as was physically exhausting, so I admire you for sticking it out this long!
Have you tried adding in some extra calcium? Some ppl recommend 2000 mg. at onset of contractions; it helped me with contractions with baby #2...worth a try. It can be easy to get really overwhelmed at this stage and forget some of the basics: stay hydrated, eat frequently in small amounts (protein, fruit, etc), and rest as often as you need to (even if it means letting the kids watch too much TV, ). Find what it is that nourishes your soul, too, and feed it (meditate, pray, read positive affirmations, call a friend)
Your body is wise and your baby is working with your body, you are making progress, even if it feels like two steps forward and three steps back.
Mama to DS (10), DS (8), DS (5), DD (3), & DD (6 months).
Lucky Wife to My Techy DH for 11 years.
We Homebirth, Full-term Breastfeeding,
Connection Parenting, Life Learning, our LDS faith.
I just went through this! It sucks! I was there for a long time...but my active labor was only 5 hours, and it was my first baby and I had to lie very still on my side the whole time (high BP). So that is good! And this is your second baby...I bet that babe will pop right out!
Is your baby posterior? Mine was, and my midwife told me that is THE BIGGEST cause of long prodromal labor- so if he is, try the spinning babies website.
And yes- drink some wine!!
I really feel for you and am sending you loads of labor vibes
i read your post the other day, thinking hmmmm... prodromal labor, what's that all about?! and for the last two days i've been experiencing it!
the thing that is the most demotivating for me is the intensity of these ctx that i've been having. because if it gets worse than this, i can't really imagine it (and i've got a pretty high threshold!).
just wanted you to know that i'm thinking of you, hoping you're relieved from the physical and emotional exhaustion and holding your baby.
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~Captain Hammer (j/k, it was Plato)