I get paranoid about SIDS too, and it isn't because there are any risk factors involved for us, but because, I think, it is something that is so out of our control and pretty much unexplained. I mean, what is scarier really than the idea of sudden death?
But, at the same time, it is a fear that I know I have to let go of, precisely because there's very little I can do about it besides make sure that I'm not putting her at risk. I think the thing is that there are people who do everything "right" and still it happens. I read about a case where a baby was in the hospital, hooked up to monitors because of several close calls with SIDS, and the baby's heartrate slowed and then stopped, right there in the hospital. I think there is some research recently showing that there might be a genetic component that just makes certain babies more at risk than others not because of anything the parents did or didn't do.
I try and tell myself too that the odds are in my favor and put it out of my mind, which is, of course, easier said than done if you're a worrywart like me!
: Mom to DS (10/29/07) and DD (12/1/09). Visit my blog in my profile to read about our lives in Beijing!