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We are planning a homebirth. Unless a complication arises where the midwife feels an ultrasound in necessary, I won't be having one. I'm not against them, I just don't feel like I need one.

This is a first for me, as my previous pregnancies were fairly "interventionist" and I didn't like it. I am finding though, that I am having a hard time easing my mind about worries (what if there is no baby, etc).

I think this is all compounded by my early loss last month. . .Just trying to remain calm and remember that this is the way I want to do it. Hands off, laid back.

Anyone else an anxious mess?

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not sure if we will be doing a sono or not. I really want to know what we are having and dh does not. If we do have one then it would be for finding out the sex of the baby.

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We're not planning any. I had two with the last - one to confirm pg after a complication arose, and one to find out sex.

Unless a situation arises where it's deemed necessary by our MW, we'll say no thanks

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No U/S here, I don't really see the need for it. I only had one with each of the boys and that was just the standard thing to do.

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i had several with my first. they considered me 'medium risk' because of a persistent ovarian cyst.

with my 2nd, we did a UP. no ultrasound. used a doppler occasionally to listen in and determine placental location, but otherwise, nada. i got so in tune with the baby's movements i could tell what position she was in at any given time from about 28 weeks on. we really didn't stress it. it was weird, definitely, not 'seeing' the baby until her birthday, but it was also quite peaceful. i feel like i had an easier time bonding beforehand since i only had my instincts to rely on.

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One thing that I always wondered though, is sometimes I hear mamas getting several U/S done during the course of their normal pregnancies. Why is this? Both mine were around 20 weeks.

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we are not planning one! alot of people have said we 'need' one because i've had twins so we HAVE to rule that out: but i dont' want to know the sex, i've grown 3 very healthy babies and i feel no need for one this time around
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I'm curious as to why some women have several during the course of their (normal) PG's. Is that normal and I was just the odd one out getting just the 1?

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I'm curious as to why some women have several during the course of their (normal) PG's. Is that normal and I was just the odd one out getting just the 1?
i had only 1 in my first pg. i happen to switch docs midway through and the new doctor was at a midwife clinic and he never even mentioned giving me another.. i don't think he even asked if i had one, he only knew because we already knew the sex. during my second, i had one at 1 week because i was bleeding and thats when i found out i was having twins. then i had another at just shy of 22 weeks because it was my first real appointment and they had already planned it, but were even more willing when i told them i knew it was twins.. i then went to a specialist because they were unsure if they shared a sac. i had a total of 1 in the ER, 4 at the dr's office and 4 at the preinatologists office throught my pregnancyand then the 1 the night before my c-section. alot of it was because they were twins and had one placenta and therefore wanted to check growth in case of ttts... so that one wasn't exactly a 'normal' pregnancy lol
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i considered my pg normal, but they didn't. they wanted to monitor the cyst to make sure it wasn't doing anything wonky. it did turn on itself at 7 weeks (OMG, the pain...) but was stable for the rest of the pg. i had an ultrasound at 7, 9, 20, 28, and 34 weeks. bleh.

i've heard of many women with normal pg's having just the one ultrasound, sometimes 2 (one for dating, then the 20-week one). i've heard others have several. i think it just depends on the provider you choose and what their preferences are. there are also some women who like having ultrasounds and will request them just to see the baby. *shrug*

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I'm pretty sure we'll have one even though my mw doesn't do routine ultrasounds. It will just help ease my fears a little. I feel like if the baby had some real problem (like a heart defect) it would be helpful to know ahead of time because that would affect my decision to birth at home.

We'd also like to know the sex

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I'm curious as to why some women have several during the course of their (normal) PG's. Is that normal and I was just the odd one out getting just the 1?
It depends on what the doctor wants and is comfortable with, and what is considered normal for the area too, I think.

Here, most doctors will send for an early one to check the dates. (Given how eager they are to induce at 41 weeks I suppose this might not be a bad thing, or there would be a lot more mistakes.) Then there is usually a later one, to look more closely at the location of the placenta, and for any other problems. And if there is the hint of the possibility of something, you go to the big hospital for a scan on "the 7th floor." They are IMO, overcautious about this, and it causes mom's a lot of grief, but I think the doctors are afraid of being accused of not being careful enough, which I totally understand.

Babies that go overdue usually get one more to assess how they are doing, but it doesn't seem to stop them from inducing anyway, so I am not sure i see the point.

I plan to hold off, unless my practitioner is really worries because I am not sure of my dates, in which case I'll have one for that.

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I didn't have any u/s with my first and probably won't have any with this. I am homebirthing, too. I have half a mind to get one to find out the gender but it's such a pain, and so against my feelings on u/s, that I probably won't get around to it. I found it harder at first but it got easier to have been u/s free at the end when I could feel the baby moving around like crazy, and knew I would meet him/her soon.

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I'll be having a diagnostic ultrasound performed by a perinatologist in my 5th month. Hopefully to rule out gross malformations and complications since DS passed away due to severe complications with Down Syndrome.

For the longest time I decided against the 1st trimester screening, but since talking to DH more about it we think it would give us a risks/odds that way we can prepare if our odds are in favor of T21. The screening combines the NT scan and AFP. I'm not at all comfortable with invasive testing, but this will at least let us know where we fall.

I talked it over with my midwife and she's very supportive no matter what we choose to do and understands our situation.

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I'm pretty sure we'll have one even though my mw doesn't do routine ultrasounds. It will just help ease my fears a little. I feel like if the baby had some real problem (like a heart defect) it would be helpful to know ahead of time because that would affect my decision to birth at home.

We'd also like to know the sex
: It's part of the comfort level for me, birthing at home.

We're not doing an early ultrasound this time - last time I had dual care with an OB and that was standard protocol - but I'm planning on having one around 20 weeks. The midwife can refer.

I can't wait to have another homebirth but I do want to know about any visible problems that may require assistance at/after birth.
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We had one last time at 30 weeks. My midwife was 100% against it, but my husband needed to see the baby. And we had a heck of time finding a place that would do one.

I'd rather not this time, but we'll see how my husband feels.
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I won't be getting one. Even if I had to transfer I still wouldnt.

Checking for dates can be off, as can assessing the weight of the baby.

No one can assure me of the safety of sonograms and has been linked in some studies to autism rates, along with other things. There is just no proof it is safe. It was only 20 years ago babies were having open heart surgery with nothing more than something to paralyze them because doctors didnt think they felt pain. It seems like it may disturb them and that's why you have to chase them around. Just my opinion.

I DONT want to find out the gender. IT's SOOOO fun to find out when it's born.

I also believe the Bible speaks against it. It talks about being knit together in the secret place. Shouldnt it remain a secret.

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Oh and I just wanted to say...those are my OPINIONS. Please, no one get offended. I'm not telling you NOT to get an US just because I dont want one.

I just feel, for me, they arent good. Everyone has to do what's right for them.

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With my previous pregnancies, I have had a few at the request of my careproviders. With this pregnancy I will probably have one--but we aren't finding out the sex.

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i generally avoid ultrasounds, but i had one last week for bleeding. i think i was more willing to consent to one because of my loss earlier this year. previous to winter, i don't think i would have consented.

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Having a UP/UC so no ultrasounds here either...

I had two with ds#1 and all they brought was worries because they couldn't see all the chambers of the heart and a few other things... it was really stressful (ds was perfect) and ds#2 we had an ultrasound also (midwife request)...

I loved not having an ultrasound with my last pregnancy.... (UP/UC also)

 
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I'm planning on not doing any u/s or any doppler.
Didn't do either with my last and love it.
Although I couldn't wait to hear with fetascope, and feel those little movements!!

This time luckily I'm more patient, just can't wait for this m/s to be over.
It's miserable!!
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I don't want to have an u/s this time. We had a bad experience with DD. I feel like some docs overuse them too. I know they are warranted in some cases though. DP wants to have an ultasound because he likes to see the baby. I think it is his chance to bond with the baby. I don't want to deny him that opportunity, so we will see...
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In U/S this time around. I have a very let nature take its course with this one. I'll get input from spouse in the house though and if M/W recommends (they are not standard under her care) I'll decide then. No appts until maybe month 3-4 and no U/S for now.

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I didn't have any with my first - or dopplers - and that worked for us the first time around. We felt really good about our care set up and neither of us had any risk factors that would indicate an U/S. However, this time, we are in China, and may not have the great care we had the first time around with our midwives and doctors... and we're nervous giving birth here - so we may have a late ultrasound to rule out some things that could complicate the birth - totally a comfort level thing for us birthing here.

I had a homebirth the first time, and it was very low intervention - which I prefer. Trying to maintain that philosophy here, but it will be dif't because we won't be at home in either sense - in our home (we'll be in the hospital) or in our own culture (we'll be in China, which is just a world apart)...

We'll see though, if we find a care set up we're really confident about and we are communicating well... maybe we'll skip the U/S. Remains to be seen.

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I haven't decided yet. I had prenatal care with CNM's last time and switched to a CPM around 34 weeks, and ended up with a wonderful homebirth. So, with the CNM's I had 3 ultrasounds (one to confirm dates, one b/c the MW couldn't find the heartbeat, and then the standard 20 week). I know my homebirth MW doesn't like them and she uses a fetoscope, not a doppler. So, I think I'll just talk it over with her and w/ my husband and see how we feel. Our GP has already said she'll prescribe one for us if we want one.

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Trying to maintain that philosophy here, but it will be dif't because we won't be at home in either sense - in our home (we'll be in the hospital) or in our own culture (we'll be in China, which is just a world apart)...

very interesting! what are you guys doing there?

DH, DD and I lived in Bangladesh for a while, and found living in a foreign country both wonderful and terrible!

While in Bangladesh I had quite a few friends get pregnant, and go to Bangkok or Singapore for the birth. Is this something that you would consider?

hope all is well,
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With my first pregnancy with a CNM, I had one ultrasound at around 20 weeks. I was offered a second during my third trimester (it was their standard procedure) and I declined.

This time, I'm not going to do an ultrasound unless there's an issue calling for it.

Could someone give me the lowdown on dopplers?
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With my first pregnancy with a CNM, I had one ultrasound at around 20 weeks. I was offered a second during my third trimester (it was their standard procedure) and I declined.

This time, I'm not going to do an ultrasound unless there's an issue calling for it.

Could someone give me the lowdown on dopplers?
I think they work on the same principle as the U/s, but they only turn the waves into sound, rather than an image. I believe (I wouldn't bet money though) that they are less powerful waves? I'm not sure of the correct terminology.

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Doppler is actually quite stronger. I think it's like 15min of doppler is equal to 45 min of u/s?

I could be wrong on numbers but I know there's a significant number.
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