Have you told anybody about this in person? Would you be able to do that?
Once I started sharing with others what I was feeling it was like a fog lifted. I was able to own my emotions instead of being pissed at my newborn for causing them to happen...if that makes sense.
FWIW, my older kid just turned four and there are days I could easily feed her to the wolves. I know that sounds flip, but she's heard more yelling in the past two months than in the rest of her life altogether. Adding this new little man and the lack of sleep has really tried my patience.
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sometimes I feel like a snarly, snappy animal...
I have actually stepped outside once or twice just to get a gulp or two of fresh air before dealing with the children again...
no real advice, just wanted to let you know you aren't alone.
is there anyone in real life you can talk to? I think that we would all be surprised how common this reaction is.
You are not alone!! I am ashamed at the way I have treated my oldest ds in many instances since the baby was born. I am REALLY trying to pull it together and repair our relationship. One thing that really helps me is to reach out and increase physical contact with my ds. I am so preoccupied with the baby, holding the baby, feeding the baby, rocking the baby... I need to remember to pull my older kids onto my lap and spend some time hugging and kissing and loving on them too.
First, is everything ok with you hormonally? I was feeling incredibly stressed and down until I was dx'ed with low progesterone, and now although I DEFINITELY have my moments with DD1, I'm handling things much better.
Second, can you get some help? Can you pay someone to take your oldest for a few hours, or find a mommy's day out program? Getting a break makes a HUGE difference for me.
Third, counseling is a good option. Even if you just go meet someone to talk or find a support group, I bet you would feel relief expressing this stuff and getting 3rd party perspective.
Keep talking here! We care!
I am sorry you are dealing with this.
how have you been doing??
A doula who married a cop & became a mama to 3 boys: G 12/22/00, my rainbow baby B 2/2/07 and L 2/10/10 my CBA2V baby, waiting for my little caboose late February 2013 & always remembering my two angels 2006 & 2012.
in addition to talking to someone in person about your feelings, perhaps you can talk with your DP and get some paid help a couple times a week with housework or childcare to give you a break.
just having a way to get away and take a walk or meditate or something would do wonders, i bet.
i am in the process of finding like-minded mamas to do coop childcare for one another when we need it. that could also work for you. do you have other mamas that you could call upon?
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I am pretty sure that many days my oldest children think I hate them. I feel horrible about it, guilty for having another baby that takes precious time and attention away from the other kids, and mad at the kids for not understanding how much time and effort it takes to care for a baby. I have been known to lock the older ones in the backyard for short periods of time, just to regain my sanity; it's either that, or I feel like people may start getting hurt.
I don't know where you are, but if you can, it helps a lot to go for a walk or get some kind of physical activity for yourself. You have to make yourself a priority and schedule the time for you, even if it is one afternoon a week, work it out with your hubby or work around him if you have to. Your health and the health of your family depends on it.
Good luck, momma!
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