How do you feel about your midwives or the professionals who will attend your birth?
I have been reading birth stories and have noticed that some people loved their midwives. they say really encouraging things and seem great.
where I live- there were just three choices for homebirth midwives. One is very new to it and when I met her she just didn't appeal to me at all, no way.
Another is the senior midwife in the area. I actually liked her- but heard so many warnings against using her. Mostly that she is unreliable- to the point of even sometimes going away when someone is due and missing births and not coming back for post natal care. I heard warnings about her from at least 10 different people. they said- she's okay, but she's really hands off and often unreliable and I wouldn't use her again, etcetera.
So the third is the one I chose. It is a midwife- probably in her early 40's. And she has an assistant. I really like the assistant, She is in her 50's and nice and calm and has assisted midwives for decades and everyone in the community has only praise for her.
The midwife herself is- just okay. I am not crazy about her. But she is not bad. I did notice when I first met her that she sometimes uses- I guess I would call it fear language as opposed to conscious language. Anyway- I was hesitant at first, and looked around. But there really are only those three choices in my area. So finally I just had to decide.
Anyway- she is really not bad. I mean, her values are similar to mine regarding this whole thing. But I just wonder if at the actual birth if she will be the most helpful in supporting and guiding me, like in some stories I have read- particularly around the spoken word thing. I notice in many home birth stories when the birthing woman is in her vulnerable state, often the midwife says the right- encouraging thing to help the woman relax.
anyway- I am going to have my dh, the midwife, and the mw assistant at the birth.
I feel very safe and encouraged by my dh and he is very calm and loving so I imagine I can have him be the main support. And the mw assistant. And again, the mw is okay but she doesn't feel amazing to me. I guess that is okay.
So that is my experience.
What is your relationship and feelings about your midwives or the people attending your birth?
I have been reading birth stories and have noticed that some people loved their midwives. they say really encouraging things and seem great.
where I live- there were just three choices for homebirth midwives. One is very new to it and when I met her she just didn't appeal to me at all, no way.
Another is the senior midwife in the area. I actually liked her- but heard so many warnings against using her. Mostly that she is unreliable- to the point of even sometimes going away when someone is due and missing births and not coming back for post natal care. I heard warnings about her from at least 10 different people. they said- she's okay, but she's really hands off and often unreliable and I wouldn't use her again, etcetera.
So the third is the one I chose. It is a midwife- probably in her early 40's. And she has an assistant. I really like the assistant, She is in her 50's and nice and calm and has assisted midwives for decades and everyone in the community has only praise for her.
The midwife herself is- just okay. I am not crazy about her. But she is not bad. I did notice when I first met her that she sometimes uses- I guess I would call it fear language as opposed to conscious language. Anyway- I was hesitant at first, and looked around. But there really are only those three choices in my area. So finally I just had to decide.
Anyway- she is really not bad. I mean, her values are similar to mine regarding this whole thing. But I just wonder if at the actual birth if she will be the most helpful in supporting and guiding me, like in some stories I have read- particularly around the spoken word thing. I notice in many home birth stories when the birthing woman is in her vulnerable state, often the midwife says the right- encouraging thing to help the woman relax.
anyway- I am going to have my dh, the midwife, and the mw assistant at the birth.
I feel very safe and encouraged by my dh and he is very calm and loving so I imagine I can have him be the main support. And the mw assistant. And again, the mw is okay but she doesn't feel amazing to me. I guess that is okay.
So that is my experience.
What is your relationship and feelings about your midwives or the people attending your birth?