Tonight I was at a birthing class w- one of my midwives and I was thinking about this. I actually really love to be naked (TMI!) and do so as often as I can- but only by myself and with my husband. In the privacy of our private home!
So I was thinking- because of this I could really see myself wanting to be naked while giving birth- as I like the freedom it feels in my body to not be restricted by clothes. But then I think- if there is anyone else there other than me or my dh, I tend to want to put on clothes. And even with the midwives- they are fine and all- and I know for them it is no problem. But for me- I would think I would want to at least where a shirt or something.
Which sort of brings me back to some original thoughts I had on this subject- inspired by my mentor about birth- a great midwife herbalist Jeannine Parvati Baker. I saw her lecture once and regarding liking your midwives she said- would you want to take a shower with your midwives? Meaning- birth is an intimate and sexual type experience- and she basicallt ended up advocating for UC based on the fact that one can feel much more open with only their true intimate people around.
Anyway- I have heard some say that when you are actually in Labor you just don't care.
MEaning- being open and naked with the midwives becomes not that important in the moment.
So what are others' thoughts or experiences with this? On both being naked and also just feeling open- with the midwives around.
My midwives, again- are fine- nice and cool and all. But I don't necessarily feel intimate with them. SO that is the brunt of my question if that makes sense!
This was a birth center birth with my ds.
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But honestly, I didn't feel inhibited by other people....being bare from the waist down didn't bother me, didn't even cross my mind. I probably wouldn't have cared if I was naked completely, but it wasn't necessary to remove the top, so I didn't. But TBH, I probably would have left the top on even if I'd been totally alone. Just the way I am.
I have no clue if that even comes anywhere close to actually addressing your question!
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In my experiance by the time I was in full out active labor I didnt care who saw me nekked It wasnt even a blip on my radar at that point. I did have a sheet draped over my back from time to time but wouldnt have cared if I didnt.
This was a birth center birth with my ds.
At home, I don't know how naked I will be yet. It will depend if my dad is around or not, he might be to watch DS. I still plan on being mostly naked though. Probably a bra and a robe if need be. I have a feeling the bra would bother me though.
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And the midwives don't care, either. Although, as a prude, I am less likely to strip or consent to vaginal exams in my home -- I actually feel more comfortable in a clinical setting.
I'd been debating a tank top for the sake of being able to share any pictures later on, but I read that baby might be more eager to nurse if mom's chest smells like amniotic fluid...
This third birth was my first actually nekkid one (after a point, you may also be too busy to bother taking clothes off without prompting) -- and it felt so much better. This time, I felt that I didn't give away any of my power or decrease my own experience by assuming what anyone else might prefer.
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I wouldn't really worry about it. You'll do whatever you feel comfortable with at the time. Right now if I think about being naked in front of my doula, it seems a bit strange. But I know when the time comes, I will probably not care.
I love my mw and I'm definitely more comfortable with her this time around (we're using the same one as we did with DDs birth this time). But if you asked me this last time, it would have been like saying "would you feel comfortable butt naked in front of your aunt or in front of your MIL?" My answer would have been a strong no.
Anyway, the mw got to my house last time when I was in the shower and around 6 or 7 cms. She got me out of the shower a put a towel around me, but as soon as I was dry, I didn't want anything on me. It didn't even occur to me that I was naked and might not want to be. lol Also, during transition, I was having so many hot flashes, alternating with cold sweats, that clothes (anything, even a sports bra) would have really pissed me off.
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I gave birth to DS in a hospital and I was naked from the moment I got into the tub until about an hour after he was born (so from, say noon to 5pm). And it was soooooooo not an issue (and I'm someone who's very, very private usually!).
At that point, it's all about getting the baby out, not who is in the room with you. And you know? They've seen it all before, anyway....
I hate being naked in front of anyone but DH. I said before, I'm weird tho.
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ETA - I didn't keep the clothes on because I was being modest or embarrassed, it's just how I was comfortable. I know a lot of people say they totally strip when in labor, but I just never felt a need to. I would have been okay doing it if I felt that I wanted to. I really just wasn't that aware of the state of my clothing or who was or was not in the room.
I suggest you have some comfy things picked out, top, bottom, robe, but more than likely it will all come off without you even thinking twice.
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This time we will have a lot less traffic in our home. I am hoping to UC up until the actual delivery, alone. I want to spend time laboring alone without so many people around, so that may affect things. I just want backup in there to help catch the baby, but I want to do it alone. Not embarrassment, but rather I felt everyone was a distraction and a point of nervousness for me. Messed up my focus.
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Also, while I wouldn't be the type to walk around the locker room naked and just talking to my friends with it all hanging out, I'm generally okay with changing in front of other women. While I wouldn't want to take a shower with my mother, we've both been naked/undressed in some way in front of each other as adults, and it's never been a big deal to me. That said, here was my experience:
With DS1, I totally thought that I would be rather modest in labor. I had planned to get a sports bra to wear in the tub, especially so that we could have PG pictures...well, I never got around to getting that sports bra, and when we got to the birth center, I ripped my clothes off and jumped in the tub (I had been having pushing contractions for over 40 minutes, and was holding the baby back; not fun!). I still laugh about it, because there were three people there who I had never met- the assisting mw (who just happens to be my mw this time!), her daughter, and my doula's daughter (who I had actually just met the day before). I didn't care one bit, I just wanted the baby out, and I didn't want any restrictions in the process.
With DS2, I was wearing a nightgown, hiked up around my waist...and slipper socks. It was REALLY cold in our house, as our heater was out of commission at the time, and even though I probably would have stripped under other circumstances, I just wanted to be warm if I could. I had the shakes really badly. I crack up at the pictures though, especially since one of the socks was on upside down.
I agree with the previous posters. By the time I started working through my contractions, I didn't care who saw my naked (I had two midwives, my mom and MIL at home with me). You are in a quiet place, working with your body, so you don't really care about nakedness at that point.
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when i went into labor and i was having my baby... modesty flew right out the window. i was way way way more concentrated on getting him out than caring what anybody saw. seriously, anybody could have came along and i either wouldn't have cared, blatantly ignored them, or overall didn't realize their presence.
that being said, i am super modest. i am the kind of girl who isn't fond of exposing even the slightest bit of cleavage, as i like to feel concealed and not be gawked at from all angles. - giving birth... it really does make such a huge difference, concentration totally diverted from everything else.
while pregnant, being naked was a bigger concern to me than possibly... er... going #2 during labor.
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