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#1 of 6 Old 06-11-2010, 11:20 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Had DD's 2 month WBV today (she's a little past 2 months). We're military and use the military treatment facility, so they assign us docs and all that jazz. For some reason, the base we're on doesn't have pediatricians, so we got a general practice nurse practitioner, which is fine with me, but...UGH! First off, she's not the person who saw DD the first time we were there, but apparently the first doc noted that she was a home birth and all that jazz. This lady used to be an L&D nurse, for like 20 years apparently. Great. So she comes in and first thing, before even asking how the baby is or anything, she just starts going on about how much safer it is to have a baby in the hospital, how things go wrong "so quickly" and it's so nice to have "respiratory care right there, at the pull of a bell or push of a button" blah, blah, blah. :Puke She wastes 5 minutes of my day basically saying I made a bad choice, when:

1. It has nothing to do with the reason for my visit
2. It has already happened
3. It worked out fine
4. I have a healthy, happy baby and I am healthy
5. I DIDN'T ASK HER OPINION ANYWAY
6. I didn't even bring it up to her, therefore she had no reason to talk about it.

So I just sit there and act like she's not being completely obnoxious, waiting for her to get over it. There's no point arguing with her anyway. Not after she worked L&D for that long. I'm sure she has seen lots of things go wrong...she probably caused lots of those things by enforcing stupid hospital policies, but that's beside the point, of course.

Then she gets done, does the exam, and I tell her DD has labial adhesions as she's going to look for them. She immediately starts telling me she needs Premarin, despite the fact that she's not having any problems from it, she still has a pretty good size opening, it's not bothering anything, and it isn't even normal standard of care to prescribe Premarin under those circumstances. I know this because I've been through this with DD1 before, and I was told so by the pediatricians (two of them) who saw her back then. I'm quite sure it's not that it has changed in 6 years, but rather that I have this new care provider, who is not a specialist in baby and child health, advising me. I declined, she wanted to know why, then told me that they'd give it to me at the 4 month visit: "You can talk to us about getting that cream next time you come in then." Ummm, or NOT.

Then of course there was the vaccine issue. She was okay about it - not awful or anything - but she tried the whole, "What will you do about school?" line on me. I explained exemptions, then she admitted that she knew about them, but that my kids would have to stay home if there was an outbreak. I said I knew that - actually, I cut her off and finished the sentence before she could say it, as I was tired of her by then.

Luckily, I have no more doctor visits scheduled for this week. Clearly this is not my week for doctors.
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Ick, that sounds a lot like the first doctor I had for DD1. She went on and on about how midwives were bad and they didn't keep good records and how home birth could be dangerous, without me bringing it up or asking for her opinion. Her receptionist was rude too and also made a comment about how midwives keep terrible records and she thought I should know for the future because it was my right to know. (This because the office had asked for a summary of my care during pregnancy, and the midwives sent, you guessed it, a summary... The receptionist seemed to think that one page was all they had for my entire history.)

Then she decided DD's head was too small and she was concerned, but she wouldn't tell me why she was concerned or why a small head even was a concern. She just told me to come back in 6 weeks for a recheck and she'd refer me to a specialist. I never did go back and see her again. I'm so happy to have such a great doctor now. Here in BC everyone (including babies) sees GP's; pediatricians are specialists that need a referral. But my first doctor was a maternity doctor, so I had higher hopes for her. My doctor now is "just" a GP but he's amazing.

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Here in BC everyone (including babies) sees GP's; pediatricians are specialists that need a referral. But my first doctor was a maternity doctor, so I had higher hopes for her. My doctor now is "just" a GP but he's amazing.
Yeah, generally speaking I actually prefer GPs over pediatricians, but there are just a few things here and there where I think peds have a little more experience with things, so are better versed in when you should treat something and when you should just leave it the heck alone. Apparently labial adhesions must be one of them for some GPs. Who knew? lol
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Two words: TriCare Standard

You choose all of your providers, no referrals necessary, and your MAX out of pocket per year is $1000 (deductible is only $300). Totally worth it not to deal with that crap at WBVs.

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I've thought about switching to Standard, but usually we don't have problems with the base docs. If it ain't broke...lol. I just won't see her again. I can choose to see whoever I want on base, even if they aren't my primary care manager - I just might have to wait a while for a specific person. This lady isn't DD's PCM anyway. I guess he must've been sick that day or something, because the appt was scheduled with him.
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