Thanks for the support.
She did mention one MW I'd interviewed before, as well as the MW I used for my last homebirth. The MW I'd interviewed, I have concerns because I don't think she attends a lot of births, and I don't remember how she's certified (if she's a CPM or a lay midwife). The MW we used before, while perfectly satisfied with that birth, isn't really someone I'd want to use this time. For one, I was hoping for a different personality type (not that we conflicted, but I went with someone that I could view as a Mom type, now I'd like someone more like a friend). She also had a bad outcome earlier this year and there's been a lot of talk about whether she was at fault or not. I don't know the whole story and don't want to judge either way, but I don't know if I'm really comfortable choosing her again unless I know for sure it wasn't her fault. I asked for some more input as well as thoughts on another somewhat local MW, so hopefully she'll have some concrete advise.
As for the breastfeeding thing, like I said, it's quite uncommon and nobody really knows how to deal with it. Various LLLs has been *no* help in the past, and the multitude of LCs we've seen have ranged from dismissive to sympathetic but clueless. The most knowledgeable LCs I've talked to say, "Well, it sounds like you've really tried everything, I don't know what else to tell you." Every *single* time the issue comes up, I have to go through a whole spiel to make sure they know I'm not imagining it or mismanaging breastfeeding. Even my best friends (who are quite knowledgeable re: nursing) had that reaction. To meet someone who had firsthand experience with my problem, who had suggestions, who didn't doubt or question me.. it just meant a lot. I was looking forward to having nonjudgemental support, someone who would understand which comments would be unintentionally hurtful, etc. Breastfeeding is something I dread, given my past experience (which is highly unlikely to change with this baby).
Anyway. So, I'm hoping she'll help me decide which MWs are my best bet and I'll get calling on Monday. I just really don't want to have to deal with finding a new care provider..